Assertiveness And Aggressive People

Assertiveness
Assertiveness is the ability to formulate and communicate one's own thoughts, opinions and wishes in a clear, direct and non-aggressive way. People who are assertive are often competitive and their behavior is goal directed. Though they play to win they also retain fairness and act in accordance with the rights of others.

In general they are positive toward other people. Aggressive people, on the other hand, are hostile and even violent towards others. They are often not concerned with other people's rights and may freely violate them. They are usually more narcissistic than assertive people. Assertive people are more concerned with reaching meaningful goals while aggressive people are more concerned with hostility towards

others than the goal itself.

Assertiveness is difficult to find in Thai people because the cultural and tradition itself. Thai people always too courteous other people. I am the one who have no assertiveness. When I was a high school student, I don’t like to give my opinion to the public. I always keep it to myself for fear of upsetting or starting an argument with others. I feel not confident when I come up with suggestion or show my point of view because I afraid that other people will not agree with me.

Most of time I will say “yes” when I mean “no”. However, when I studied at university I found that giving opinion are very important when working as a group. I started to show my opinion at that time. I feel very good when people listen to me and use my ideas. I have more confidence when I communicate my thought to other since then.

When I was second year student, my class was assigned to take a responsible for sport activity day, which is making the decorations for the parade. The concept of the project was about Chinese based on the field of study. My classmate suggested putting Chinese fan as a main theme of the project.

In my opinion, I disagree with their idea. I feel that it not make sense to put something that was not recognizing people when thinking about Chinese. I feel hesitate to say what in my heart. When other people starting to argue, I decided to give my opinion. Most people feel that my idea was good. I said that I think the dragon would be better because of it is the important symbol for Chinese people.

Everyone voting between fan and dragon depend on each one’s preference. My idea got the highest vote. Therefore, we use dragon as a main concept of parade. When the sport activity day arrived, our parade was so amazing. Everyone agreed that my class’s parade was the best among other classes. My class also won the first prize.

This makes me think that sometimes say honestly or stand up for my own opinion is the best thing to do. Let other people know your thought is the way to sharing idea. The outcome will be good because you have discussed the idea with other people. You will learn to respect other people’s thought and how to show your idea without violent toward others. This is one of the characteristics of Leadership. Leader not only must know how to communicate with others and make them accept his/her ideas, but also be fairness to listen other’s idea too.