Interpersonal Conflict

Conflict has always been part of our everyday life. Different people have different ways of seeing life; based on their own cultures, traditions, values, norms, gender, views and attitudes. We are always surrounded by conflicts, whether it’s with our family members, friends or coworkers. Conflicts can be both positive as well as negative. But it has always been mis-conceptualized and mislabeled as a negative. A conflict between two persons can take place not only on the basis of cultures and genders, but it can also relate on your living standard at home or nature of your work. Moreover, certain people have their own worldviews - how certain people should act and think in the society and they think their views is the correct path. These things create conflict within people and society which can be either good or bad.

I have always been a conflict avoidance. I avoid conflict whenever and wherever. But when I gauge myself, I find myself more open to my family members than to other people. I always try not to recognize conflict when it happens. I always notice about the conflict, but feels more secure if I don’t share with no one. I always find it secure to keep the conflict within myself. I always find myself having a strong feeling for others but don’t find it necessary to express it.

I think I have been raised in this way. I think the culture, values and religion plays a big role as well. Being brought up in a Tibetan family, we have always been raised saying don’t involve in conflict. The conflict was considered as a negative energy. Be compassionate, help others, never argue with others, respect your elders by not raising voice against them, don’t cut off elders when they are speaking, don’t have direct eye contact with your el...

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.... These days, I am doing alternatives picking up the kids, but soon I will avoid this soon as well. I already told him that soon I cannot do this as I will start taking classes on Sunday as well. In this conflict, I think in my cousins’ worldview, picking up the kids and helping him was the right path for me but I think he is being more selfish. These are some of my practices to confront conflict in my social life which didn’t have a positive result, but I learn a lot from these experiences.

Moreover, this class has always brought up some new conflict resolving topics and it has always been interesting to attend this class and learn something new to use in my day to day life. I always wanted to talk to this friend with whom I lost connection for a while. I have always been feeling guilty about losing this friendship. It was two years ago, when me and my friend Tashi