understand that being proactive is one of the most powerful ways to ensure my success. One of the keys to my success is the ability to think about my own thought process. This is called self awareness, and this is the reason humanity can make significant advances from generation to generation. Self awareness allows me to evaluate and learn from my own experiences and the experiences of others. This is the key to making and breaking my habits. Only when I take how I see myself into account will I be able to access my full personal potential and my ability to relate to others. Thanks to self awareness, I can examine my paradigms and determine if they are based in reality. The key to being self aware is to reject the social mirror that feeds …show more content…
In order to do this, I must be proactive. Being proactive means that in between the stimulus and response, there is a third stage. This stage is the freedom to choose, and it is full of self awareness, imagination, conscience, and independent will. Being proactive means that when I feel an impulse, I am able to make that impulse subordinate to the values I hold inside. I am still influenced by the stimuli, but I am aware of this influence and choose how I react to it. An outside stimulus can only affect me so much as I let it. It is not outside forces that help or hurt me, it is my reaction to those outside forces. My character, my basic identity, can only be impacted if I let it. By understanding that my most difficult experiences become the crucibles that forge my character, I can turn any circumstance in my favor. My basic nature is to act, rather than be acted upon. This is why it is key to take the initiative in every situation. Taking initiative means recognizing my responsibility to make things …show more content…
Instead of accepting that I am a certain way, I know I can choose a different approach. Instead of focusing on negative emotions, I know I can control my emotions. Reactive language becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, while proactive language creates the reality I want to see. By being proactive, and subordinating feelings to values, I can bring anything I desire into my life. I am ready to become more aware of where I focus my time and energy. I do this by determining what I have real control over and focusing my energy there. By focusing on what I can control and letting go of what I cannot, I am maximizing my productivity. The things I am concerned about but cannot control can only take my focus off the things I can change for the better. I am determined to grow my circle of influence and shrink my circle of control. I can solve problems that I can directly control by working on my habits. I can solve problems I indirectly control by changing my methods of influence and how I react. Problems I cannot control can be helped by taking the responsibility to work through them with cheer and
Award-winning author Mandy Hale once stated, “Without negativity, life would be amazing.” However, this statement does not always prove to be true. Today’s modern community generates a judgement that negative experiences will ruin your life, but studies show that negativity can actually result in positive change. For example, negativity can positively change teenagers actions, introduce teenager’s to more supportive environments, and help fix broken relationships.
One concept that I have to keep in mind about being successful, is that I must ‘Accept Personal Responsibility’. Accepting Personal Pesponsibility allows me to see where I
Change your perspective, try to see the positive and negative effects on an individual’s certain environment or situation. People can go through very difficult situations and come out completely different, but some people with strong mind can go through hardships and still stay the same. Whether it can be being abused or ultimately being thrown onto an island with no civilization. An individual can control the situation and environment only if they have a willing spirit.
Taking the following questionnaire: Satisfaction with Life Scale, Approaches to Happiness Scale, and Authentic Happiness Inventory, helped me evaluate my life. Many times due to circumstance we forget in what positon our life is standing at the moment. We forget how much we have accomplished in the past and how much we have invested to make our future a good one. For the Satisfaction with life scale, I score a 33(love their life and feel that everything is going very well). People may might say well she is living a perfect life, but to be honest is not that is being perfect, is that one day years ago I made a decision of not letting anything take away what I have worked hard for. According to Earl & Carol Diener, because positive moods energize approach tendencies, it desirable that people on average be in a positive mood (1996). If I make a mistake, which is possible because am human, what I do is learn from it. It’s like what the Apostol from the church I go to says” you control life, not life controlling you.”
If I can successfully shape my life around ideas of self-reliance I can be exactly who I want to be. I look around me and don’t want to conform to society’s standards, I recognize that there is an easy way out, but try my best to remain true to myself by following my heart with pure conviction. Because of my desire to remain true to myself, I closely identify with Emerson in “Self-Reliance”: “To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, - that is genius.”
Other coping styles to acknowledge are optimism versus pessimism, where optimism is positively related to coping strategies that enhances adaptation to changed circumstances and overall psychological well-being. Studies showed that the psychosocial adjustment of optimistic individuals are higher (Miller, Manne, Taylor, Keates and Dougherty, 1996). Individual who resort to repression uses avoidance as a coping strategy in an effort to not have to deal with the threat (Krohne, 1996). When an individual exercise self-restraint or cognitive restraint as a coping mechanism, they and place themselves in control of the threat. This coping strategy also show a high correlation with psychosocial adaptation (Manne et al,
...ed me recognize how I have turned out the way I am and that I have the power to change my own future and I hope by taking the initiative to control my anxiety that my actions could influence another to do the same. It may not seem like much, as I am just one person in this world- but if anything, Griffin’s project has revealed that it only takes the action of one individual to change the life of another.
Sayings like, “I can’t do it.” “What if?” “I’m a failure.”, will never bring joy. In fact, bad habits like so will only lead one into a deeper pit of misery. Instead, practice being grateful for where you are today and how you can make a difference. For instance, in feminist therapy they strive for transformation; therefore, think of ways you could evolve and work on the things you would like to change. To be healthy people, need to take care of themselves first. A lot of times people are overwhelmed with tasks, for this reason, they experience burnout, anxiety, or depression. They often feel like they’re not good enough because they themselves haven’t experienced their self-worth. One must value themselves and comprehend that they have meaning in the world, that’s when happiness will arise. When faced with a crisis people often need to be heard. They need the opportunity to fully express themselves without holding back. For this reason, finding someone who will listen and understand without judgment is
As individuals, we are constantly learning what to say, do or think. Almost everything that we do is a result of learning it. Some things, we learn at a young age; while others may take years to obtain the knowledge. Assertiveness, is one aspect of learning and it is one of the toughest to obtain; but why? Is it not easy to stand up for what is right or say your own, opinion, maybe saying no, an easy two letter word? Well no, it is not easy, some people struggle with, this on an everyday basis. They try to figure themselves out and wonder why they weren’t honest or why did they let themselves be used. These are the questions I constantly had when I was growing up, not realizing that all I needed was to learn how to overcome my passive-aggressive
This essay will begin by discussing how an individual 's attitude is often scrutinised as being either positive or negative, how this can be damaging to their happiness and how realistic thinking can be more helpful.
There are billions people in this world and they are all different. The outside differences are traits, personalities, and behaviors which reflect the inside differences. Being said, our behaviors originate from thoughts and decisions. Being proactive could be optimistic, open-minded, and self-aware. Proactive people know themselves and others. They know that conditions, circumstances, and even other people are not something they could control. Instead, they realize that how they encounter with such thing is in their control, so they manage to response each situation based on a consequence. On the other hand, Reactive people do not concern about circumstance and result. They have their goal. They aim and shoot and if they missed, they will blame their bow, arrow, wind, or even sunlight. Meanwhile, Proactive people will know that a little wind blow might bend their arrow path; they count their circumstance and make a decision. This people will never regret or blame on what they did but always come with solution. They choose how to live and learn that everything is relatively connected and related. Thomas A. Edison stated that “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work” (cited by Brainyquote.com, n.d.). If chance never comes, then go out and seize it. So I believe that, in every scenario, there is always chance for
Being proactive is the first step in the seven habit journey. I thought I was proactive because I always had to plan everything in my life. Family vacations, work schedules, continuing education all were events that I was proud to say I planned right down to the last detail. Reading the Covey material I realized that being proactive went much deeper than just planning life events. Being proactive involves choosing my attitude, focusing on my circle of influence and not my circle of concern, and turning setbacks into triumphs. Being proactive means to act based on principles not emotions. We all need a pause button that would allow us to stop during that time between...
According to Bryant (2016), “self-leadership is the process by which you influence yourself to achieve your objectives.” So how do you achieve this, you start with developing your leadership point of view. Developing my leadership point of view forced me to reflect on the leader models in my life. It also forced me to evaluate the key events and experiences from my past and determine how they have impacted me as a leader. This self-reflection process allowed me to discover who I am, what my values and beliefs are and what my true purpose is in life. Thus far, this process has made me more self-aware and self-awareness is key to self-motivation and motivating others.
It was not too long before I discovered the faults in my erroneous living. I finally realized, and truly not a moment too soon, that if I did not start living for the present, my future would soon become my neglected present. I would have wasted my life doing meaningless things and I would have no experience to share with anyone who may be interested in the uneventful life I had led. After I came to this startling revelation, I grew even more apathetic in my depression. I truly felt that there was nothing I could do to remedy this situation and was at a total loss for solutions. Soon enough, though, I concluded that there was no alternative to hard work to change the current state of affairs in my life. It was then that I truly embarked on the most difficult journey of my life thus far. This being the journey of self-alteration and successfully changing my own behavioral patterns.
It is also vital to get a grip of the situation besides being able to identify and recognise emotion. When one is able to take control of the situation, they will be able to reflect on the situation without acting impulsively. Different people react differently to the same situations. This is due to different experiences, varied cultural background or different level of