Argument Essay The world can be a dangerous place so it’s understandable why all parents struggle with the dilemma of how much personal freedom to give their children. There are two sides to this argument. Some parents feel that giving their children the freedom to make their own decisions will not only make them more responsible, but it will also help prevent teenage rebellions. Others feel that their children need strict boundaries in order to acquire the skills of hard work and patience. Nevertheless, giving children the freedom to make their own decisions will typically benefit them in the long run. When given freedom at a young age, children learn that all of their actions have consequences and that helps them make sensible choices. …show more content…
Tiger parents are a perfect example of those who support the idea of laying down strict rules for their children. The term “tiger parent” is typically associated with Chinese people. However, tiger parents of all nationalities are simply people who focus solely on their children's academic performance and dictate what their children do with their time. They feel that laying down rules will teach their children skills like hard work, perseverance and responsibility. Other parents may feel that if they don’t put down strict boundaries, then their children will get out of control. In reality their children may become even more rebellious because they aren't allowed to participate in the activities that they enjoy. Amy Chua is a mother and the author of the book, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”. Amy Chua found that dictating her eldest daughters life for her seemed to work perfectly. However, her experience parenting her younger daughter turned out to be quite the opposite. At the age of 13, her youngest daughter, Lulu, started questioning her mother’s rules. She asked, “Why can’t I go shopping at the mall or invite my friends over for a sleepover?” Lulu became rebellious and their mother daughter relationship started to suffer. Not until they had a massive argument did Ms. Chua finally realize she had to change her parenting style. In an effort to save their relationship, Ms. Chua let her youngest daughter quit the violin and try out for tennis. Interestingly enough, in the process Lulu found out that she actually missed playing the
Parental involvement is a positive factor in a teens life; however, too much involvement can be restrictive to the teenagers right to choose. When parents take away the right to choose, teenagers tend to “question the parents’ beliefs” as it helps them “develop a sense of identity.” (Dobbs) Juliet dismissed the idea of marrying Paris because her parents were telling her what to be interested in making her venture off to the complete opposite of what they wanted for her.
Of course it is hard to draw a line on what is going too far for a parent to control their children’s lives. Lythcott-Haims suggests figuring out “how to get kids to tune into their own motivation, and to get the parents to tune out their motivation to shield their kids from failure and disappointment.” It’s true that parents try to shield their kids from failure and disappointment, but that’s because they want them to learn from their own previous mistakes. With age, there is more experience with failure and disappointment, so parents want their own child to not make the same mistakes. It’s a natural instinct for parents to protect their child from any harm and it may seem extreme to others, it’s probably normal for them. Even with the protection from parents, as young adults, we’re still going to make the same mistakes no matter how much protection there
Chua and her daughter have a normal mother-daughter relationship. From trying to help Lulu practice by giving her tips (even though she may not be doing it correctly), to Lulu calling Chua “Mommy,” they have a normal, caring, mother-daughter relationship even though Lulu is annoyed with her mother in the excerpt. On the contrary, the mother daughter relationship between Tan and her mother is very bitter. In the excerpt, Tan uses her words like knives trying to cut her mother as deeply as possible. Tan is not the ideal, obedient daughter Tan’s mother imagined, but nevertheless, Tan’s mother attempts to force her to become the daughter she wants and causes a reaction that has a dark and negative outcome that hurts them both. These excerpts bring to light the differences and intricacies of mother-daughter relationships, both good and
Brooks appears to agree with the way Chua pushes her daughters to excel, but finds Chua overly shelters them from necessary, everyday life skills. Brooks states “She’s protecting them from the most intellectually demanding actives because she doesn’t understand what’s cognitively difficult and what isn’t” (Brooks). In other words, Brooks believes that Chua shelters them too much from interacting with other children their age and believes that this will present challenges later on in
When Amy Chua, a professor at Yale, wrote her personal memoir in 2011 called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, controversy arose regarding the topic of an extreme parenting type called a “Tiger Mom” (Tiger Mom). When The Wall Street Journal posted an excerpt from Chua’s book on their website, it received over 7,000 comments both positive and negative including death threats (Extreme Parenting). In her book, Chua describes is forcing her 7-year old daughter to stay up all night without bathroom or drink breaks until she was able to play a certain piano piece (Extreme Parenting). Her daughter rebels, drops violin, and takes up tennis (Luscombe). Extreme parents exert great pressure on their child to meet expectations, and if they are not met, the child may be punished (Hatter). The MacMillan Dictionary defines a tiger mom as “a very strict mother who makes her children work particularly hard and restricts their free time so they continually achieve the highest grades,” (Tiger Mother).
There are many ways to define Freedom. To many people, freedom means more than just ‘free to do whatever I want’. Taken literally, that approach to Freedom would produce anarchy and every man, woman, and child would be for him/herself. Now Freedom certainly means that one can have full power to act, speak, or think anyway they would desire to without hindrance or restraint, however this is only true until you abuse your freedoms or infringe upon others free-will or rights.
Through the use of rhetoric, arrangement, and confrontation of a controversial issue, the author attempts to convince parents not to punish a child for bad behavior.
This style of parenting is best described as the child having more control over the parent. There are a lot of parents today that seem to have no control of their child actions and even words. This in which can make the parents question what are they doing wrong when it comes to raising their child. This type of parent have very low demands and are highly responsive, maybe even too responsive to the child’s needs. Although these parents are very loving of their children they do not have many rules that their child should abide by (Cherry, K. 2017, para.1). Not setting ground rules gives the child the freedom to do whatever they want and know that they will not receive a harsh, if any punishment at all. Also, parents who are permissive tend to want to be their child’s best friend. The child in this parent in child relationship tends to have more control than the parent. If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para. 9). Permissive parents should give the child rules to follow and discipline them if broken, to ensure that their child follow the right path throughout
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All parents raise their children differently, using various methods they probably learned from their own parents. Parents like Amy Chua raise their children with tough love, discipline, and a multitude of rules, coining the name "tiger mom." Chua views her parenting technique as supreme, but it is highly controversial to the public and it brings up many questions of the effect it will have on her children 's ' future. In Chua 's "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior," she emphasizes that Western parenting is not strict enough which cause children to grow up being disrespectful and less achieving than children brought up by tiger moms. I believe that tiger parenting is damaging towards the child and that the Western style of parenting is
To be more specific, authoritarian parents are close to their children because they usually get involved in their child’s every activity. According to Amy Chua, the author of “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, she claims that, “Chinese parents spend approximately 10 times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children.” Chua’s point is that Chinese parents are likely to spend time with their kids to make sure that their kids are doing well and safe. For example, when kids have assignments from school, helicopter parents would help with their kids’ homework. Some strict parents may not teach their kids’ homework, but they would force or push their kids to do homework by keeping an eye on them. In this way, raising children by forcing and controlling them also makes children more successful in their academic skills because children would develop a sense of
Freedom is the power rooted in reason and will, to act or not to act, to perform deliberate actions on one's own responsibility. Religious freedom is the power rooted in reason and will to act or not to act, to perform deliberate actions in unity with the church's teachings. All modern societies have a set of rules that govern human rights and freedoms to ensure that basic human rights are not being violated. Religious freedom is the will to do but in the eyes of Jesus' teachings, we must abide by teachings of Christ and the Ten Commandments set by God as well as in the church's eyes we are not totally free until we complete the work God has asked us to do. The church is governed by ten laws given by the creator to show us how to live a
Freedom is the right to act, speak, think, or talk without restriction. Our country was built on the foundation of freedom and equal rights. We shouldn’t be told what to do or when to do it by the government or anyone else. Freedom means that we have the right to vote for who we want to be our leader - which is known as political freedom - and to be able to voice our own opinions without harm. The countries that do not have their freedoms can be defined as a dictatorship.
For instance, parents need to feel in control and see their form of discipline is taking effect that exact moment. However, if adults focus on results rather than addressing the issue, they are ultimately setting their children up for failure. “Punishment usually stops misbehavior immediately, however, the long-term results are negative because we are often fooled by immediate results” (Nelson, 13). Furthermore, this could be the reason why punishment is so popular amongst parents because it’s almost immediate response to misbehavior and the authoritative power it holds. According to Nelson, punishment is used by adults because it’s easier, they know how to punish, or do not know what else to do. (22). As a society, people usually take the easiest alternative to accomplish a task but it may not always be the better, smarter, or more efficient alternative. Furthermore, when people do not know what to do, they stick to what they do know. However, parents need to think of the long-term consequences and take the time, effort and skills to use effective discipline. (22).
There is a time for everything. Or at least that is what we were taught, but we now know that to be untrue. There is no time for chaos for that truly would not benefit the greater good. Everything should be for the greater good, shouldn’t it? There was a time when there was chaos, and there was a time when there was order.