Personal Reflection On Avoiding Roadblocks

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Since reading about avoiding roadblocks, attending skills, following skills and reflecting skills such as paraphrasing, reflecting feelings, reflecting meanings, summative reflections I am more comfortable in conversation. I was aware of the attending skills and the following skills, but I am now more confident in using those skills. I will need to continue to work on avoiding roadblocks and perfecting my reflecting skills. I recently visited my mom who has been going through a difficult time. My father and she just got divorced after years of marriage counseling and trying to make it work. I remember them being in almost constant conflict when I was growing up. My mother actually slept in my bed with me for a few months before moving an extra …show more content…

I told her that I don’t mind being more like friends than mother and daughter, but there is a line that needs to be drawn when we are talking about my father. She completely agreed and it’s only been a week since then but she has not talked about my dad in a bad way since. I made sure that I used all the attending skills that were mentioned in People Skills. I made sure there were no distractions and we were comfortable. I used my following skills by asking short questions and really relating to what she was saying. I made sure to avoid all roadblocks and let her speak. Once she said something important I used the reflection skills to understand and summarize what she was saying. I feel like that really helped with our conversation because she knew that I was really understanding and feeling what she was saying. In return when I started talking she let me speak my mind and everything I needed to say before trying to give advice. We then talked about some of our other issues like why we don’t get along some of the time but we realized it’s because we are so similar. We now know each other’s boundaries so we will be able to avoid conflicts in the future. I feel that practicing these skills were very helpful with heling me in my inevitable conversation with my

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