I spent nearly five years getting rid of the shadows that I have experienced sexual assault. This incident occurred in the winter when I was a five-grade student in primary school. However, until now, I still remember it.
In the day's early morning, I went to a park in my neighborhood because my friend and I made an appointment to go to this park to play. I went to a no man's corner, where there are a lot of trees and flowers. When I was enjoying beautiful scenery, someone hugged from behind me forced me unexpectedly. On the one hand, he had pressed and held both my hands. On the other hand, he continually stroked my body. I was unable to repel. I was desperate at that time because that man's behavior was disgusting. To my horror, I could feel myself starting to cry. For his actions, I have already felt
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numb. After that, my face screwed up with fear when I was escaping from him. When I went home, violent sobs racked my whole body. Even though I have washed many times, but I still felt I was dirty. I don't want to tell my family and friends. I felt I've lost my openness with others. After that day, I began to be fearful to communicate with others, especially with men. I did not want to expose my fears and insecurity to anyone. I became so morose. I tended to avoid all physical contact. I began to withdraw into myself. I kept myself very much to myself. I felt I have lost the ability to communicate with others. I had a problem with eye contact with others and sometimes my face turned red. When I got into a conversation with others, I became flustered. I felt uncomfortable, anxious and uneasy when people around me and talked to me. Even though my father neared me, I also felt the same way. My dad came home for dinner every time, I would deliberately look for an excuse not to go home for dinner. My friends called me to go out to play, I also refused them. I just wanted to be alone. I began to enjoy the feeling of being alone in my own room.I have continued this behavior for two years. One day I saw my mother cry for me because of my behavior.
I suddenly realized that I could not continue like this. I realized the dimensions of my problems. I needed to identify actual and potential problems. After that day , I tried to get into a conversation with somebody. I was trying to wean myself from the old life .I began to seek the help of social workers. I found that some people had a similar experience as me. I looked in the mirror every day to practice how to speak. When I had a conversation with others, I gathered my temper and spoke my mind. I always observed people's conversations. I tried to participate in social activities. As time went by, I started to talk more freely. My attitude towards life has changed. I think that even though my experience was terrible , but my reflection upon that terrible experience can help my new emotion strengthen. And I realized that I can succeeded when my attitude has changed.
This matters a great influence on my life. The experience has moulded and coloured my whole life. It helps me nerve myself to face the difficulties. I am not scared of difficulties, and I have greater confidence to face
them.
These events have strengthened me mentally, spiritually, and educationally. Regardless of what occurs in life, at work or in school, I have the ability to overcome the obstacles and the strength of mind, a compassionate heart and the knowledge to succeed in any task I undertake.
Every so often we come face to face with life events that have lasting effects. When faced with
Everyone has difficult obstacles in their lives. I have had a few myself and they each have changed me for the better. My most profound experience was being repeatedly molested as a child. I wasn't aware of exactly what was happening to me. I didn't know being touched was wrong. I just knew how disgusting it made me feel, but I didn't tell anyone at the time. I shared this publicly as an adult to help other parents realize that children need to be protected. It was a long journey to reach to the point where I could speak about my experiences with anyone. These experiences from my childhood affected me deeply; however, I have overcome them, learned from them and I have contributed at a higher level because of them.
Rape is devastating to its victims. I feel as if this statement should stand alone, underlined and in bold typeface. It is crucial that we, as a society, come to a deep understanding and awareness of this message. For that reason, I will state it again:
Sexual assault is defined as a type of behaviour that occurs without explicit consent from the recipient and under sexual assault come various categories such as sexual activities as forces sexual intercourse, incest, fondling, attempted rape and more (Justice.gov. 2017). People often become victims of sexual assault by someone they know and trust (Mason & Lodrick, 2013) which is conflicting to the public’s perception and beliefs that offenders are strangers. Women are the main victims for sexual assault and are 5 times more likely to have been a victim of sexual assault from a male (Wright, 2017, p. 93). Men are victims of sexual assault however only 0.7% of men, compared to 3.2% of women, experience some form of sexual assault which highlights how vulnerable women are compared to men. Sexual assault is publicised and exposed in the media, however is often
During military service, I experienced domestic violence for a minimum of nine years while being married to another military service member. In January of 1988 during military service and marriage, I also gave birth to my second son, who died three day after being born. Although many people may find themselves in complicated situations, I never thought that I would be one of those individuals. During this period of fear, pain, and sadness, I dealt with the situation the best I knew how, because I had military responsibilities, parent responsibilities to my first born son who was six years old at the time, and while still trying to keep my family together. I quickly found other means of managing my experience with both situations by convincing
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She mentions how the victims choose to keep quiet about the incident, since they fear their attacker will harm them for reporting the incident. Adefolalu mentions, "Victims who feared reprisal attacks from perpetrators were five times more likely to delay presentation than those who were not. " My hypothesis is fear of their assault prevents an individual from reporting a sexual assault committed towards them. My null hypothesis is fear does not affect if an individual reports a sexual assault. My independent variable is fear of assault and my dependent variable is unreported sexual assault.
I am an undocumented student at UC Davis. When I am asked a simple question such as, "describe your personal experiences", I ask myself: Where do I begin?
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It had come to the attention of my family that I had some sort of psychological problem and something had to be done. I was always labeled as a shy and quiet kid, and like my family I had thought nothing more of my behavior. However, now it had become something more obvious. I had told my parents the kinds of problems I was having. Basically I didn't want to talk to anyone or to be anywhere near anyone I didn't know. I didn't really want to leave my house for any reason for fear that I might have to talk to someone. I was so critical and scrutinizing in relation to myself that I couldn't even enter into a conversation. Everyone seems to have a part of themselves that lends itself to thoughts of pessimism and failure, but mine was something that was in the forefront of my mind at all times. Something telling me that everything I did was a failure, and that anything I ever did would not succeed. Through discussion with my family it was decided that I should move out of my parents house to a place where I could find treatment and get a job. I was to reside with my sister Lisa, her partner Brynn, and their Saint Bernard in Greensboro.
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I have been a victim of bullying since middle school. I have not lived in Ocala my entire life. I began my life in Medford, Long Island before moving to Ocala, Florida where I began sixth grade. Everyone at my middle school had grown up together. I believe that going into middle school, where friendships, and social groups had already began, had contributed to my bullying. The classes were small at my middle school, about fifth-teen to a class. This limited my ability to meet peers and make new friends, which lead to a social seclusion that left me exposed to bullying. Being bullied was terrible. I knew it as a child, I know it as and young adult, it absolutely was terrible.
It was dark that night, I was nervous that this dreadful day was going to get worse. Sunday, October 23, 1998 I wanted to start writing this to tell about the weird things i’m starting to see in this new neighborhood. Gradually I keep seeing pots and pans on the sink suddenly move to the floor. I would ask my sister but she is out with my mom and dad getting the Halloween costumes. When they got home I didn’t tell them what I saw because i've seen Halloween movies and I have to have dissimulation otherwise the ghost will come out and get me first. October 24, 1998 I think I got a little nervous yesterday with the whole ghost thing. 12:32pm, Went to eat lunch with the family today and I go to get my coat. I heard the words furious and madness,