An icebreaker is a facilitation exercise intended to help a group begin the process of forming themselves into a team (Furman, Bender, & Rowan, 2014). ‘If Questions’ is an icebreaker activity that breaks group barriers through questions that elicit responses that can start conversations between the group members. Being an observer of the icebreaker activity, it seemed as though the questions of the game allowed people to get to know each other intimately in a short time period. The questions elicited an array of responses such as one’s favorite movie genres to their preferred superpower and their religious convictions. At the time of my observation, I remember feeling excited and nervous to what would be the next thought provoking question. …show more content…
Ackerman suggests that the individual has both a private “inner self” and a social "outer self” that emphasizes externally oriented aspects of his or her personality (Shulman, 2009). When clients are in a group setting, they present their outer self as a way of adapting to the pressures and demands of the group context (Shulman, 2009). For instance, when the question was picked ‘if you can be with anyone in the world, who would it be?’ the participant answered that she would want to be with her grandmother who passed away. This answer could mean that the participant misses her grandmother, or that she feels sad about …show more content…
The majority of the participants were involved aside from one member who refused to participate due to feelings of uncomfortability. When it came to the participants turn, they said ‘these questions are too personal I do not want to pick a card’. Nevertheless, the facilitator remained calm and reassured the member that if they do not answer the question nothing will happen, but just to simply pick up a card. The participant conformed to the information but after looking at her card question, the member did not feel comfortable in answering and put the card back in the pile. Rifka Hanfling, the facilitator of the activity, demonstrated the protecting characteristic of a leader, where she prevented the member from taking unnecessary psychological risks in the group (Capuzzi & Gross, 2002, p. 60). The group leader demonstrated validation, open mindedness and reassurance by allowing for the participant to choose not to answer but still participating by picking a
In general, my sister and I are both loud goofballs who make jokes out of everything and find the simplest things to entertain us when we are with each other. When we are together, we are both able to have a deeper sense of our “coherent identity” and do not have to wear a mask for each other because we are not trying to seek approval from each other. However, even though we know who we are, we still have to wear a mask when we leave our house because we do not want others to know who we really are. For example, when we are around our parent’s friends, we always have to put on a smile and talk very soft and polite, even though we are having a bad day and in general are loud people because we cannot make our parents look bad or give off the impression that my sister and I were not raised correctly by our parents. Another example would be the different masks that I have when I’m in class and when I’m not in class. While in class, I am quite and do not participate in talking because growing up I was told by my elders that it was always better to listen to what others had to say in order to gain knowledge and insight instead of talking and that I should only speak up when I was confused.On the other hand, when I am outside of the classroom, I become this whole different person and start to talk more. I feel that I have gotten use to being quiet in the classroom and conformed to putting on my mask everyday that it is hard for me to not wear the mask in class because if I do not wear it, I feel that I am loosing a part of who I am. All in all, this shows how when we are not seeking approval, we are able to take off our masks and our “self-presentations [becomes] much different in character” (Gergen
In unit one of Interactions, the authors Ann Moseley and Jeanette Harris showed a number of readings about the idea of the self. The self-concept is an important matter because people change with age constantly and their thoughts change as well. There are many factors that can affect any individual’s thought of self-concept such as growing up, life experiences, friends and family, and meeting new people. Moreover, a number of readings in unit one by different authors showing their experiences and struggles with self-concept such as ethnicities, economy status, and self-esteem issue. I have had similar experiences with several authors, which are, “Zero” by Paul Logan, “Living in two worlds” by Marcus Mabry, and “The Jacket” by Gary Soto.
We can choose to reveal or conceal who we are or what we want to be. We can share our innerness, the emotions derived deep within our souls and the force that creates havoc and the actions we choose to do. We can share the journeys that we have taken whether it is the right or wrong route to create a better place, a better awareness for others who have not encountered that journey yet. The self we share is dependent on the personality we have, introverted or extroverted. The trust we put forth in others is a reflection of how much of ourselves we willingly share. The self we share could include our mind, body, or soul but what does that really mean... it is all dependent on what the receiving end feels. We are who we are, what self we share and do not is all a reflection of who we are and our thinking
Ever since the dawn of time, people have been communicating with others around them and with today’s technology people can interconnect with people across the globe. They have access to a wider range of peers and colleagues like no other time period and the possibilities continue to advance these communications. Yet as those in the world continue to make new friends and hear the opinions of more people they slowly develop a dual personality. Though people have always had parallel identities, one for family and friend, and another for acquaints and strangers, as Barbara Mellix points out in her essay. Mellix is a writer and educator who’s essay “From the Outside, In” tells how she grew up learning two identities so she could function in both her personal world with close family and friends, and her world that dealt with others. Now as the world of the others has expanded with the help of technology so has the use of the second identity and it has taken the form of the online identity. People’s second online identity is always on an aggressive defense, paranoid to the point of any wrong thing said or unsaid could lead to a fight, and they tend to only be happy when there is someone to attack. In the physical world where people are surrounded by true friends and people they trust with their emotions and they are more caring and sympathetic of others’ pain. However the online identity poses a threat to the personal identity as people begin to pull traits from one identity to the next. Although not having an online identity Mellix can relate to this with an experience that involved confusing her identities. Mellix describes how when her personalities become mixed, she was puzzled about who she was and who belonged in her personal iden...
...l, our self-concept is multi-dimensional. We have three ways of perceiving ourselves, the private me, the ideal me, and the public me. The private me, is the way that we believe ourselves to be. The ideal me, is how you desire yourself, who you wish you were. Lastly, there is the public me, the way that we present ourselves in public, the face that we try to show others. Ego boosters and Ego busters affect us in everyway possible and affect the way we perceive ourselves to the world we live in.
Everyday life presents itself as a reality that is interpreted by others and is subjectively meaningful because of such interpretations. Goffman offers the same argument on a micro-sociological level. He claims, “information about the individual helps to define the situation, enabling others to know in advance what he will expect of them and what they may expect of him.” To borrow from Berger and Luckmann, the knowledge of others in comparison to the “self” comes from certain typifications assigned to groups of individuals.... ...
In his work, Goffman explains that ‘the self’ is the result of the dramatic interaction between the actor and the audience he or she performs to. There are many aspects of how an individual performs his or her ‘self’. One of the aspects of performing the self that Goffman labels as the ‘front.’ The front involves managing the individual’s impression.
“ …my first concern must be with the two general types I have termed introverted and extraverted. But, in addition, I shall also try to give a certain characterization of those special types whose particularity is due to the fact that his most differentiated function plays the principal role in an individual's adaptation or orientation to life.” (Jung)
How we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us. Throughout the interview I knew that the way I interacted within the group would determine whether or not I would be able to study as a student nurse. Subsequently, I wanted to appear socially desirable. Therefore, I believe there was a distortion of self-image because the interview was very important to me. Using Goffman 's theory of self (1959), the 'social mask ' I put on during the interview, could be seen as 'performance ', '...the term ‘performance’ refers to all activity of an individual in front of a particular set of observers, or audience... ' , I wasn 't my: bubbly, hyper self, I felt I had to keep this hidden as I was in a professional environment. Therefore, Johari 's window demonstrates mundane realism, because my self-image did change. My bubbly, hyper personality which is usually 'open/public ' was now 'Hidden/private '. However, Johari 's window see 's self-awareness constructed by the individual alone, which makes the theory over –simplified and not interactionist as it only considers 'nurture ' factors impacting on an individual’s self-awareness, when in reality it’s a combination of biological/genetic and social factors (nature nurture). Therefore the theory is reductionist as it over simplifies human behaviour. Although Johari 's window doesn 't give a holistic reflection for my own self-awareness and communication, the fact I can identify this as a result of using Gibb’s model means that I have a rounded analysis of my interviewing
In the novel Oliver Twist, Charles Dickens utilizes the theme of neglect to illustrate the upper class's disdain for the poor. Upon the discovery of the Monk's hideout, Dickens describes the "collection of mere hovels...hastily built with loose bricks" as observed by Mr. and Mrs. Bumble. The term "hastily" implies the original construction occurred without any thought or care, and the phrase "loose bricks" indicates the absence of an adhesive element to hold these shelters together. The "hovels," or squalid dwellings, serve as a metaphor for the workhouses, as both originated without care, thoughtfulness, or a solid and cohesive foundation. The lack of concern during the inceptive assembly allows the buildings to fall into disrepair, adding
will act to maintain his or her self-image regardless of whether it is high or low.” (Greene & Frandsen, 1979, p. 124) Self-esteem is important in social situations; it can help a person have
At one point in life, at a young age or as a resident in an elderly home, the question of who am I will arise. It is a convoluted mesh of thoughts and feelings that a person will go through before coming up with an answer. Some people may even experience cognitive dissonance in trying to explain different stages of life, while others will be comfortable in responding instantaneously with minimal cognition. In going through this process and drawing up the ‘who am I’ and individual is further confronted with others people’s perception. Where does this lead, when presented with other’s opinion, and what is it based it on? Response from outside sources is mainly based on perspective concerning an individual’s personality.
The humanistic view on personality and identity helps us define a person’s self-worth, self-image, and ideal self. Carl Rogers, a humanistic psychologist, helped define these terms by coming up with the idea of “Self-Actualization.” Self-actualization is when a person’s idea self matches their self-image. A person’s ideal self is who they would like to become, which consists of goals and dreams that the person would like to accomplish. While, a person’s self-image is how that person perceives themselves, which can shape how that person may act and feel. Also, from the Neo-Freudian perspective in psychology, Carl Jung presents his major archetypes of personality and identity, one of them being the idea of a “persona.” He states that a person’s persona is “how we present ourselves to the world” and goes on about saying how our personality is a mask, which may change depending on the different social groups you are with, which will contribute to your identity and how people perceive you. Through the sense of ideal self, self-image, and persona, identity is something that is situated on the inside but can be shown and communicated to other
Ego identity is said to be one of the many things Erickson has focused on. He believed that through social interaction we gain mindful sense of ourselves, which can be commonly referred to as Ego identity. Although, Freud referred to the ego as the match over the necessities of the identity and superego, Erickson saw the ego as our way of our self-esteem. The way Erickson describes ego is the way we commonly use it in conversation. The main i...
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