1A. What are your "I can't" communication behaviors? 4-8 Challenges • I can’t say no to my kids, family or friends. In my mind I try to be a reasonable parent. I try to balance things out for my kids and not allow them to have their way. Especially in the real world a person has to earn their achievements. However there are times when my spouse has to intervene and tell the kids, “no”. No to a certain toy, candy, to go somewhere, or to have friends come over. I’m very generous person. When I know a person is in need I am willing to help that person as best as I can. Whether it’s helping financially, babysitting, or doing a favor. It is hard for me to say no. • I can’t’ speak to a large crowd Speaking to a small group is difficult for me …show more content…
However I’m very shy with strangers. I can’t start a conversation up out of the blue. If a strangers talks that helps to initiate the conversation. • I can’t not be unopen with family or friends. I am an open book. I’m not afraid to open up to people. Some of my friends tell me I should try to not be so open. They believe people will take advantage of me. 1B. What are your "I won't" communication behaviors? • I won’t speak to my spouse for a couple of hours or days when we get into an argument. I tend to say what’s on my mind. I rather be quiet because I don’t want to say the wrong thing and hurt his feeling. This helps with not making the situation become worse. • I won’t speak to a large crowd. It takes a lot of courage to talk to a small crowd. I am not able to get my mind cleared and build the confidence to talk in front of a large crowd. I feel like I’m having a panic attack. 1C. What are your "I don't know how to" communication behaviors? • I don’t know how to start a conversation with a stranger. There are times I don’t know what to say in a direct conversation. I don’t want to disturb a person. I am nervous they may not …show more content…
There are four items in my “I can’t” list because I think those are interpersonal communications that can be fixed within time. I understand that it is not good for me to constantly tell my kids, family, and friends yes. Controlling my nonverbal, facial expression, is a form of communication that is taking a lot of practice to stop. Practicing correct writing skills will improve my writing. It stated in the book that self-disclosure is irreversible. I don’t want anyone to use things that I disclosed against me. 1D. Write a narrative describing how you eliminated those that remained in the "I don't know how to" category to decide on the one issue you selected for your project. • I don’t know how to start a conversation with a
The courage to withhold information that was entrusted in me from a fellow friends, brother/sister, or mere acquaintance is honorable, and something I believe every man/woman should learn to embed in their life
I can be kind of closed off and separated from people at first, but once I start to know people and approach them more then I become very open and outgoing. I feel this is a very important aspect of my life, it could be a good thing or a bad thing. One problem that comes from this aspect of me is that it makes it hard for me to meet new people because I always come off as closed off. I see Chuck Nolan as being a very outgoing person and he is not afraid to express himself, that is one difference between me and Chuck, but I feel that in time I could be more open and more approachable as a person like
The very idea of spending time with people outside of school is exhausting and my heart begins to pound as I raise my hand to speak during class. Speaking in public, even if it’s just to answer a question in class, or carrying out tasks like ordering Chinese food can lead to tears or a sudden lack of ability to breathe. If I think I say something in a weird way or join a conversation I feel I should not have joined, I will remember the terror (because it is pure terror) that I felt in that moment basically
They argue that therapists should consider their own motivation to self-disclose and set boundaries. The therapists should never put their own needs above the client. They make sure to point out that self discourse alone cannot affect the outcome of treatment. Self-disclosure is effective only if it is used appropriately and only if it is used when it is necessary. The amount of information disclosed and when it is disclosed is also important. Therapists should draw a clear line with the amount of intimacy to include in their therapeutic disclosure to ensure that no inappropriate boundaries are crossed. The authors suggest two rules of thumb to follow when disclosing information which include: (a) “Why do I want to say what I am about to say” and (b) “What will be the likely impact of the client” (p. 567).
Have you ever heard, “You only have one chance to make a first impression?” Now, whether you choose to be yourself or you choose to be who you thought someone wanted you to be, a conscientious decision was made. Presenting who we would like others to believe we are is self-presentation (Gilovich, Keltner, & Nisbett, 2011). Now answer another question for me, under the correct circumstances, do you think that everyone has the ability to lie about information or details about themselves?
Being told that talking to strangers is dangerous since we were four can alter how we think about all of the unknown people around us. Somewhere along the line, the fear of being kidnapped and murdered transitions into not wanting to talk to some weirdo or to be rude. There are situations where it is perfectly okay to talk to a person you don’t know, like at a party. However, there are times when you should not talk to strangers, such as when they are eating. When you are alone, eating is usually a private experience, or when you are with
Although constructs such as CA, communication reticence, and unwillingness-to-communicate have often been treated in literature as interchangeable, (McCroskey, 1982) particularly in earlier work, some researchers have found the need to distinguish between them. Reticence was originally thought of in relation to CA, particularly in connection with stage fright, and anxiety was identified as the causative agent that produced the characteristic behavior patterns. (McCroskey, 1977b; McCroskey, 1982) However during the 1970’s the constructs of reticence and CA evolved and changed to become quite disparate. According to McCroskey (1982) the contemporary view is that reticent people are those who do not communicate competently. Phillips (1984) further states that reticent people “avoid communication because they believe they will lose more by talking than remaining silent” (p.52). So while the construct of reticence was initially the same as CA, reticence is now perceived as a concept that represents a broad range of communicative incompetence while CA relates to communicative incompetence that stems fr...
It is vital to the development and maintenance of close relationships (Ruppel, 668). The advantages of this include a variety of beneficial outcomes in relationships, such as closeness, relational quality, certainty, social validation and catharsis. There are also disadvantages that come along with disclosing oneself. One of the disadvantages is rejection. The fear of rejection causes one not reveal information about themselves that they think the other person may not like. With a mindset such as this, the relationship will not grow because the ‘true ' you are not being
I have always been quite shy in personality, but over the years with support of my family and good friends I have overcome my shyness and can now confidently say that I feel comfortable to face a challenge. I believe I have grown in confidence and feel I am a sociable person, who is easily approachable and a good listener, I always try to be available and supportive for my friends and family when they need me.
Self - Disclosure should be used in discretion and accurate sense of timing. Therapeutic self – disclosure
Counselors and researchers differ in their opinions regarding the use of self-disclosure. Some consider it a means to establishing a more effective relationship with patients, especially those from “diverse backgrounds or alternate lifestyles”(Nyman p.269) While others view counselor self-disclosure as having “potentially hazardous patient outcomes” (Nyman p.270). They argue self- disclosure by the counselor “can burden the client with too much information and have a negative effect on the self exploration of the client”(Nyman, p. 270). They also claim counselor self-disclosure may have the potential to cause the client to lose his perceived sense of safety and trust in the counselor and in an extreme case, result in iatrogenesis by causing the client to recall a traumatic situation suffered in the past and ”jeopardize the counseling outcome” (Nyman, p. 270).
I have a great comfort in engaging others and find it easy to communicate with people. When in a group or engaging with someone one-on-one, I do not find it uncomfortable to engage in a conversation or start one. The strengths I possess in my engagement skills are that I am an extrovert, compassionate, and communicate effectively. However, I do need to work on not always starting a conversation and allowing others to talk first. I also need to improve on my listening skills instead of always feeling that I need to make a contribution to the conversation. Even though I am able to communicate effectively, I sometimes need to remember that others deserve a chance to start an
...es, I have found that too much self-disclosure too early in a relationship/friendship may lead to negative outcomes. This may occur, for example when a person self-discloses too much about themselves, leaving them vulnerable to rejection or embarassment. Also if the other person doesn't reciprocate, that could cause the self-disclosed person to feel uncomfortable. You need to build a relationship/friendship, and over time, as you disclose more, there will be a more trustworthy and supportive base to the relationship. So over all, the article did an excellent job reinforcing the importance of time in building a relationship through social penetration, or self-disclosure.
Kelly, A., Kenny, C., Klusas, J., and von Weiss, R. (2001). What Is It About Revealing Secrets That Is Beneficial? Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 27, 657-665.
I believe that my behavior varies based upon the situation I am placed into. If I am without familiar people in an unfamiliar location or situation where I am forced to speak to others, I will become increasingly nervous or anxious. Therefore, before properly becoming friends with me others may view me as simply quiet or rude because of my lack of words in certain situations. However, when people are genuinely kind and make me feel comfortable around them I tend to somewhat open up. Excluding my introversion in instances where I do not know anyone, I can surprisingly be relaxed and outgoing. When I’m participating in group activates with my friends we all instantly forget I’m even referred to as “the shy one” of the