The Importance Of Self-Disclosure In Parenting

Self – Disclosure is a process of communication by which one person reveals information about himself or herself to another. The information can be descriptive or evaluative, and can include thoughts, feelings, aspirations, goals, failures, successes, fears, and dreams, as well as one 's likes, dislikes, and favorites.
We reveal ourselves most thoroughly and discuss the widest range of topics with our spouses and loved ones. Self-disclosure is an important building block for intimacy and cannot be achieved without it. Most self-disclosure occurs early in relational development, but more intimate self-disclosure occurs later.

Self - Disclosure should be used in discretion and accurate sense of timing. Therapeutic self – disclosure

However, recent research indicates that parental knowledge has more to do with adolescents ' self-disclosure than with parents ' active monitoring. Although these findings may suggest that parents exert little influence on adolescents ' problem behavior, the authors argue that this conclusion is premature, because self-disclosure may in itself be influenced by parents ' rearing style. This study examined relations between parenting dimensions and self-disclosure and compared three models describing the relations among parenting, self-disclosure, perceived parental knowledge, and problem behavior. Results in a sample of 10th- to 12th-grade students, their parents, and their peers demonstrated that high responsiveness, high behavioral control, and low psychological control are independent predictors of self-disclosure. In addition, structural equation modeling analyses demonstrated that parenting is both indirectly (through self-disclosure) and directly associated with perceived parental knowledge but is not directly related to problem behavior or affiliation with peers engaging in problem behavior. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2012 APA, all rights

I didn’t usually self – disclose myself because I thought if my kids thought I did no wrong then they would do no wrong, and they were good kids. But now my kids think I am miss goody two shoes and they laugh at me sometimes and tease. I usually told them about someone else and what their story was and what happened to that person. I noticed a difference in my behavior with my grandkids than my kids, but I am older and have more knowledge. My oldest grandson sometimes will start to say something, then his shuts down and doesn’t want to talk, but later I will go at him in a different approach with different words, and most every time he falls for it and tells me what is going on. But then I tell on his mom and uncle and things they did so he doesn’t feel alone. So I have learned that using your words and thinking about what you’re going to say first really does help. My role playing with self – disclosure:
Mark: he tells me the story of his accident with his dad’s truck.
Counselor; I would like to make sure I am hearing you correctly, you had an accident in your dads truck while you were driving, am I correct?
Mark: yes
Counselor: you are terrified to tell him and you told your mom he is going to kill you when he finds out, and I right so far?
Mark: