The article “Stop Saying ‘Good Job!” by Alfie Kohn talks about the negative effects of praise on children and what we need to do instead. Such as, introducing our evaluations, breaking the cycle, steering away from rewards, teaching decision-making skills, and unconditional support. I agree with the author, too much praise can deter a child from their personal creativity and cause them to focus more on the need to meet the approval and acceptance of others. When children hear us say “ I like the way you did this or do that…” instead of “Good job, you did amazing…” we help encourage them to focus on our assessment and give them something to think about. I think its better to receive an evaluation instead of a “good job” because it gives you something to work on, to know where your strengths are, and where you can improve. If you think about a soccer game where a child did not score and is met with parents who only praise that child for their effort than their child does not get to process how they can try a different way to score next time because they already know how to get the reward of praise. Children grow from this and if we only focused on praising then they wouldn’t learn to make their own decisions. …show more content…
When we say “Good job,” it doesn’t reassure children because it helps encourage the idea that whatever they are doing, they need to keep doing that and not change a thing because if they do one thing differently they might not get the approval or praise from whoever they seek it from.
Creating this cycle that just keeps on
repeating. Then in the article one of the country’s leading authorities on early childhood education named Lilian Katz, says that when we remove the attention their lack of interest is lost. Because we constantly rewarded the child and they lose interest in the subject and their priority is the constant praise. Children need support that is unconditional. We want our children to feel good about their own decisions and their own choices. We need to teach them to come up with solutions, different ways of getting to an outcome and why they chose it. We can praise our children for doing things but we need to do in a way that gets their minds to think of why they did what they did. The author of this article believes teaching our children their ideas and choices are far more important than the approval they get from the praise of others. I agree with the author, when we only congratulate them with a ‘Good Job’ they do not receive anything that can help them grow as an individual.
Psychologist, Carol S. Dweck in her well researched essay, “Brainology” analyzes how praise impacts mindset and how a growth mindset leads to greater success. She supports this claim by comparing the two different mindsets and how praise can affect them. She then proceeds to show praise leads to a fixed mindset harming a person by changing their views on effort. Finally, she argues that praise changes how and what people value, which can
In today’s society you either have to work hard to live a good life, or just inherit a lump sum of cash, which is probably never going to happen. So instead a person has to work a usual nine to five just to put food on the table for their families, and in many cases that is not even enough. In the article, “Why We Work” by Andrew Curry, Curry examines the complexities of work and touches on the reasons why many workers feel unsatisfied with their jobs. Barbara Ehrenreich writes an essay called, “Serving in Florida” which is about the overlooked life of being a server and the struggles of working off low minimum wages. Curry’s standpoint on jobs is that workers are not satisfied, the job takes control of their whole life, and workers spend
exis Hanson Professor Dosch English 101 3 May 2016 title In “The Downside of ‘Grit’: What Really Happens When Kids Are Pushed to Be More Persistent?”, Alfie Kohn; an author and lecturer, claims that not everything is worthwhile especially when going at a task for an extensive amount of time. He asserts that ‘grit’ (the passion and determination when pursuing long term goals) is becoming less persuasive and credible. Kohn states that grit can cause serious issues that have real consequences.
Hello, this is Alanna Argudo, and I will be discussing Chapter 1 The Inverse Power of Praise from Nurtureshock written by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman. The Inverse Power of Praise explains that new research suggests that actually telling your child they're special will ruin their chances at succeeding at subjects they struggle with because they refuse to even try if they believe they will fail.
To illustrate, Ashley Merryman, the author of the article “Losing is Good for You” states, “ However, when it comes to rewards, people argue that kids must be treated identically: everyone must always win. That is misguided. And there are negative outcomes. Not for just specific children, but for society as a whole.” This explains that when kids get trophies, they think that they are always going to win, no matter how poorly they did their job. This can cause major problems in the society, such as companies not improving. In addition, Ashley Merryman also states, “ Having studied recent increases in narcissism [having an excessive interest in oneself; an over inflated ego often due to parents’ overvaluation] and entitlement among college students, she [Jean Twenge, author of Generation Me] warns that when living rooms are filled with participation trophies, it’s part of a larger cultural message: to succeed, you just have to show up.” This shows that even young kids are starting to be egoistic, and that can stick with them their entire life. When kids will go into the real world, it would be too late to realize that winning is not important. As a result, narcissism increases in the kids and makes them
Priceman states,”They were taught that these awards were placeholders in life. They were records of accomplishment.” It reminds kids of their hard work in a sport. In some cases participation awards are okay, like special needs, and if used correctly, to build a child’s self esteem. But in many cases it does not help children in real life. By giving them too many awards some kids think they cannot live up to the hype, and it brings their self esteem down. While others are the opposite, “When parents regularly overpraised their children’s performances, their children were more likely to be narcissistic two years later”
In the article, Caution–Praise Can Be Dangerous, Dweck’s objective was to explain that praising students has a huge impact on performance and their way of thinking. Dweck studied fifth grade students and the effects of different messages said to them after a task. There were three responses: praise for intelligence, praise for effort, and praised for performance (with no explanation on why the students were successful). She described that having an understanding of how praising works could lead teachers to set their students on the right path. In Carol’s opinion the Self Esteem Movement did not produce beneficial results, but rather limited students’ achievement.
Positive feedback is all about promoting change in the behavior. I was raised within a household that rely on negative feedback and punishment to promote good behavior. Sometimes I did reward my nephews for positive behaviors but it was not done continuously or in a way that would result in positive behavior change. I come to believe that negative reinforcement was the key to ameliorating bad behaviors until I took notice the positive feedback I was given minimizes the bad attitudes and behaviors of the children. They were getting along well and whenever I praise one the others wanted to get that praise also, I believe that motivate them to behave appropriately. For instance, when one did a good deed I would make all the other clap while saying “well done” or something positive. It was a very long process because children do not change their ways from one day to the next, I couldn’t say I was very patience but see them attempt to better themselves, was what motivate
.... To do this you may use a sticker chart, give the child some candy, or buy the child something they want. Be sure not to go nuts. Doing this will make the child react to praise the same way they act to punishment. Praise and the reward the child, but don't over exaggerate and scare the child.
Good to Great: Responding to Change. I think that Jim Collins' book is essential for future entrepreneurs, managers, and leaders in the Philippines. The tips given by the author are useful in the dynamic, ever-changing, and constantly fluctuating business environment of the Philippines. Jim Collins described the kind of leader who can address these changes as a Level 5 leader "a paradoxical blend of personal humility and professional will." The Level 5 leader is not the "corporate savior" or "turnaround expert". Most of the CEOs of the Good To Great companies as they made the transition were company insiders. They were more concerned about what they could "build, create and contribute" than what they could "get - fame, fortune, adulation, power, whatever". No Ken Lay of Enron or Carly Fiorina of HP, the larger-than-life CEO, led a Good To Great company. This kind of executive is "concerned more with their own reputation for personal greatness" than they are with "setting the company up for success in the next generation". Transformations from Good to Great start when a company finds a CEO who is humble but iron-willed, and who is ambitious for the company, not necessarily for himself or herself.
A child should be reward for putting in the extra effort and being noticed above the other children around them. Parents that are pro-participation are often worried about the issue of self-esteem. The idea of
What is the effect of positive reinforcement on your mental health? Positive reinforcement is considered to be one of the best ways to teach kids something, or emphasize a point. According to google, positive reinforcement is defined as the addition of any reward following a desired behavior. School systems today are using positive reinforcement instead of negative reinforcement, because kids like the reward that is given after the desired behavior thus resulting in improved learning and better mental health. Positive reinforcement affects Adults and children’s overall health.
We as educators and parents want our children to grow up to be the best that they can be. Are we helping them when we tell that they are doing a good job on something or are we hurting them? Some research has shown that praising a child with words like “Good Job” or “Way to Go” is not helping them build their self-esteem or grow as individuals. We need to do more to help them grow as individuals and learners. According to Alfie Kohn (2001) “praise is a verbal reward” (p. 1). He states in his article “Five Reasons to Stop Saying Good Job” that praise is also controlling (Kohn, 2001) Have you ever been at a restaurant or out to local grocery store (or even said to your own kids) and hear if you will be good I will buy you a treat. Controlling? Yes controlling, but in the classroom do we use the same type of praise to get our students to do the same thing?
Despite the many positive attributes of praise, there are some disadvantages as well. The first disadvantage is that if praise is used too much, it can become superfluous and then ineffective within the classroom (Charles & Barr, 2014). The second disadvantage of using praise within the classroom is that it may promote unhealthy competition in the classroom. Students may start to compete to get praise from the teacher, especially if praise is given sparingly during the year. This can cause unhealthy relationships and competitiveness. The third and final disadvantage of praise is that students can begin to rely on praise to do their best (Charles & Barr, 2014). Students may start to become dependent on the praise, meaning their learning and potential will be tied to a teachers words. When its time to go outside of the classroom, a student may be unable to accomplish anything without praise which makes it a unfavorable
I do not believe, however, in using rewards like stickers or stars, A’s or praise. To quote Alphie Kohn, "When rewards stop, people usually return to the way they acted before." I want my students to be intrinsically motivated and giving out rewards inhibits intrinsic motivation. I want my students to know it is okay to make mistakes and take risks in the classroom. I want to encourage my students by telling them specific feedback on an assignment rather than a star and a "good job." I don’t want them to become dependent on my praise. I want them to be successful learners.