What goes around comes around. Sometimes life isn’t perfect. Nothing on earth is perfect, we all make mistakes and we learn from them. That’s part of being human. Relationships come and go but every time we brake up with someone, they teach us a lesson. They could teach us to become a better person or they could bring out the worst of us. In the novel called This is How You Lose Her by Junot Diaz, Yunior didn’t have good relationships because he always cheated. For example, he cheated on Magda with Cassandra and he cheated on Alma with Laxmi. Yunior sometimes loved them but his way of loving them was unique. He was scared to be committed to just one person. Maybe he was scared to fall in love. We live in a generation where we see all kind of crazy stuff happening in relationships. Maybe that’s how society wants us to feel, …show more content…
Before he met his ex fiancée, Yunior was a player. He didn’t care about girl’s feelings; he knew he was going to get another girl if they left him. Yunior said, “I told her the truth; its because I love you mami. I know this sounds like a load of doo-doo, but it’s the true; Magda’s my heart” (Diaz 6). Yunior thought he loved her but he really didn’t. When you love someone you feel like they complete you and you don’t want to hurt them. Yunior cheated on her with a girl named Cassandra. He knew the pain he caused her but he still managed to cheat on his next relationship. He thought it was ok to cheat but once his fiancée broke up with him he became into a disaster. He realized the real meaning of love. Love could complete you with happiness or it could destroy you. In this case love destroyed him. He became into a person who he would of never thought. He was depressed; He didn’t care about anything but her. He just wanted to get her back but he knew he messed up, he knew how cheating wasn’t going to get him anywhere. The pain he felt was worse than what he made his ex girlfriends
The book I choose for the book talk is “Dead and gone” written by Norah McClintock, this book talks about a murder mystery of Tricey Howard. The main character of the story is Mike, an orphan whose parents got killed in a car crash. He lives with his foster father named John Riel, who was once a police officer. During a swim meet, Mike see Mr.Henderson is staring at a girl name Emily without stopping. Then he informs Emily about what happened in the community center. However, as return Emily blackmails Mike to investigate Mr. Henderson. During the investigation, Mike finds nothing suspicious, but realize Emily is the daughter of Tricey Howard. Tricey Howard was murdered years ago, but the police still haven’t find the real killer. At the meantime,
In the book Deadly by Julie Chibbaro there were many themes that were analyzed and illustrated throughout the book. There were only three that catches the eye love can be blind, death can hurt and oppression of women. These themes stood out the most because this book take place in somewhere in the 1900’s because in that era there were many disease taking place in New York. Such as the typhoid, Yellow fever, small pox and other contagious diseases that cause many deaths and also when the Germ theory was just a theory not a law. This book mainly talks about Prudence, Mr. Sopher, and Marm especially but there are others such as Dr. bakers, Jonathan this book talks about how typhoid was carried by an Irish Woman named Mary Mallon and the disease
The book “The distance between us” is the story of immigration written by Reyna Grande. The book recounts her true personal story before and after entering the United States. The story shows how poverty and parenting impacts the family. Grande was 2years old when her dad left her, 4 years old when her mom (Juana) left her and her two siblings (Mago and Carlos) with her grandmother in the Mexico. Since, then she was seeking her parents either her dad or mom in the story. Her illegal and undocumented entry in the United States depicits the struggles and challenges she faced while crossing the border. After she arrived in the United States she found that living in the U.S was not that easy what she has dreamed for and “The man behind the glass” was not like that what she had met before. Her siblings were angry because of their not supportive mother and abusive father which weaken their intimacy in the family. Instead, Mago her elder
Sandra Cisneros “Never Marry a Mexican” and Junot Diaz’s The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao are stories that reflect on the cultures in which the characters grew up in. In Never Marry, Clemencia, the narrator, reflects on her past sexual relations as well as her childhood. She speaks of her parents’ marriage and then transitions into her relationship with college professor and his son. In Oscar Wao, Yunior, the narrator, gives a second-hand retelling of Oscar’s experiences in New Jersey growing up as well as in the Dominican Republic. A person’s identity is largely influenced by their culture, this is especially the case in Hispanic cultures. The social constraints that these cultures place on social class, sexuality, and gender norms can be very detrimental to a person’s self-esteem.
Junot Diaz’s novel The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao is focused on the hyper-masculine culture of the Dominican, and many argue that his portrayal of the slew of women in the novel is misogynistic because they are often silenced by the plot and kept out of the narration (Matsui). However, Diaz crafts strong women, and it is society that views them as objects. The novel recognizes the masculine lens of the culture while still examining the lives of resilient women. In this way, the novel showcases a feminist stance and critiques the misogynist culture it is set in by showcasing the strength and depth of these women that help to shape the narrative while acknowledging that it is the limits society places on them because of their sexuality
The purpose of the article “Navigating Love and Autism” by Amy Harmon is to emphasize that autistic people can achieve love, even though the struggles of autism are present. In this article, Jack and Kirsten both have autism and are working to build a dating relationship. For Kirsten and Jack, being comfortable is a huge aspect in their relationship. After their first night together,
It leads him to not know how to love or how to act when he was in a relationship. It leads him to be in bad relationship just like his parents. He was starting to repeat the same environment that his mother and father created for him. He could not tell his girlfriends that he loved them even thought he knew that he did. When he was having an argument with Theresa he admitted he was afraid of intimacy. “I was in love—no, not in love, but possessed with her.” (Baca. 41) He didn’t know about love or how to love. He had even asked Lonnie to marry him but could not tell her that he loved her. His parents only showed him hatred and showed him what they both didn’t want him. He tried to break that chain with his family but he always remembered his parents. He was always having flashbacks to his childhood.
... has most likely has never actually done any of this. This guide is probably just compiled from the different things he has heard from other people, He has probably heard the things from the people he is trying to impress and be accepted by, possibly his dad, uncle, or other boys in his neighborhood. He may have felt like he had to do these things because he believes everyone else is, that in order to be ‘cool’ you must have sex. Yunior is ashamed of everything that he is. His parents and heritage, his looks and his race. This short story is also suggesting that not only are girls pressured into having sex, but boys are pressed as well. This is why he makes up stories in order to sound experienced, so that he can have something in common with the people he wants to accept him.
No one knows whether Karma actually exists, or if it is superstition. Many people do not believe in such invisible mysterious power, but in the world, things actually exist. These happenings are complexly intertwined with each other and passed down to the next generation. Struggling with trick of fortune, people are learning important life lessons and gradually maturing as a human being. Pulitzer-winning author Junot Diaz introduced these unexplained mysterious cycles in his novel, “This Is How You Lose Her”; it brings up some controversial issues. Some people might say that the novel gives hope to many women as a special guidance on how men should treat women because each situation will likely happen in the real world. The main character and narrator Yunior excuses “I am not a bad guy” in the very first sentence in the novel (4). Then he defends his attitude and claims that he did not mean it. Although a love affair easily gets the reader’s attention, Diaz splendidly illustrates the theme of family that delivers the message that one’s personality is affected by most close people, such as family and close friends, through his imperfect characters, figurative and connotative language and symbols.
This is How You Lose Her is a book written by Junot Diaz consisting of short stories, told by the protagonist, Yunior. Yunior’s character is described as the Dominican guy who struggles with infidelity and unable to love others full-heartedly. Diaz also shows how in Dominican culture; men carry the reputation of being womanizers and usually is pass from one generation to the next. Throughout the book, he tells us stories pertaining to the relationships he had with the women he had in his life, and his family. From the stories one can assume that Yunior, caught up in a vicious cycle was destined to follow into patriarchy; a father who cheated on his mother, and an oldest brother who followed
Yunior starts to become conscious of “what a f*cking chickensh*t coward [he is] and admits to be “astounded by the depths of [his] mendacity” (14). Yunior realizes that he is selfish and inconsiderate towards the feelings of other women. Yunior is shocked of himself and his tendency to lie. He notices that his lying and cheating ways can really hurt women and he feels bad about himself. After a long time of suffering, the narrator finally gains a true understanding of his wrongdoings. The protagonist is filled with regret with the way he treats women and the fact that his cheating ways gets him nowhere. He confesses the truth that his ex “ did the right thing” by leaving him (14). Yunior starts to register that he is unable to ever get over his ex fiance and he regrets cheating on her. He is saying that he does not deserve her because all that he ever gave her were lies and deceit. She is fortunate enough to be able to escape the pain and hurt that he brought along with him. This creates the central idea that cheaters are the ones who really play themselves. The narrator expected that his cheating manner will be beneficial to him, but it is like a slap to the face. Cheating does not get you anywhere in life and only brings suffering in the end. He now understands that when you do something bad, bad things will come back to you. What goes around comes back around. Achieving a lasting relationship comes
The Outsiders is about the life of a 14-year-old boy. The book tells the story of Ponyboy “Curtis” and his struggles with right and wrong in a society in which he believes that he is an outsider. Ponyboy and his two brothers, Darrel (Darry), who is 20, and Sodapop, who is 16, have recently lost their parents in an automobile accident. Pony and Soda are allowed to stay under Darry's guardianship as long as they all behave themselves. The boys are greasers, a class term that refers to the young men on the East Side, the poor side of town. The greasers' rivals are the Socs, short for Socials, who are the "West-side rich kids."
Whether that reason was because they found love in someone else, they want to have a secret affair, or they just love having sex with different women. Yunior is a character that you love and also hated. He represented the reality of people. People have many urges and standards. Ms. Lora was his example of what he wanted in his relationship. Despite his shortcomings, she did not pressure him to do anything but accepted him for who he is. In the end, Yunior never found love despite all of his encounters with many women. The “Ms. Lora” chapter was definitely different from the rest of the story because it focused a lot more on his affair rather than the demise of his current girlfriend. The story really drew me in and the ending was definitely disappointing because he would never see her again. Maybe that signifies that one will never find the purest form of love. One moment it is here and the next day it can walk away from your life forever. The only thing you will have is your memories. “You will type her name into the computer but she never turns up. On one DR trip you drive up to La Vega and put her name out there. You show a picture, too, like a private eye. It is of the two of you, the one time you went to the beach, to Sandy Hook. Both of you are smiling. Both of you blinked.
Although love is interpreted as a wonderful thing it can also ruin someone's life, “Love is a trap. When is appears, we see only its light, not its shadows.” (Paulo Coelho) Love doesn’t fix people it breaks them asunder. It waits and waits for its next target to make a mistake and ruin everything they worked for. As seen in various works including; “The Raven” , Romeo and Juliet, and “The Gift of the Magi”. Romantic love is a force that inflicts pain upon those who believe in it or those who have been through it.
Eva Hoffman’s memoir, Lost in Translation, is a timeline of events from her life in Cracow, Poland – Paradise – to her immigration to Vancouver, Canada – Exile – and into her college and literary life – The New World. Eva breaks up her journey into these three sections and gives her personal observations of her assimilation into a new world. The story is based on memory – Eva Hoffman gives us her first-hand perspective through flashbacks with introspective analysis of her life “lost in translation”. It is her memory that permeates through her writing and furthermore through her experiences. As the reader we are presented many examples of Eva’s memory as they appear through her interactions. All of these interactions evoke memory, ultimately through the quest of finding reality equal to that of her life in Poland. The comparison of Eva’s exile can never live up to her Paradise and therefore her memories of her past can never be replaced but instead only can be supplemented.