This Is How You Lose Her By Junot Diaz

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This is How You Lose Her: Psychological Analysis
This is How You Lose Her is a book written by Junot Diaz consisting of short stories, told by the protagonist, Yunior. Yunior’s character is described as the Dominican guy who struggles with infidelity and unable to love others full-heartedly. Diaz also shows how in Dominican culture; men carry the reputation of being womanizers and usually is pass from one generation to the next. Throughout the book, he tells us stories pertaining to the relationships he had with the women he had in his life, and his family. From the stories one can assume that Yunior, caught up in a vicious cycle was destined to follow into patriarchy; a father who cheated on his mother, and an oldest brother who followed …show more content…

Yunior’s fathers only concern was obtaining the “American Dream” job security, financial stability, and owning his own home. Yunior’s childhood memory of his father are vague; they have no bond or connection, to Yunior he’s just a stranger. “ He’d come to our home house in Santo Domingo in a busted up taxi and the gifts he had brought us were small things-toys guns and tops-that we were too old for, that we broke right away.” (Diaz, 129). For a young man growing up without a father figure has a profound effect on them that lasts way into manhood. “Boys need a father figure to learn how to be a man, without having this influence in their lives, boys are at risk of growing into men who have problems with behaviors, emotional stability, and relationships with both significant others and their own children.” …show more content…

All played a major role in the man and as a result, Yunior did what others told him or expected him to do, at the cost of his own ambitions. He became just like Rafa and Ramon! “Sucios of the worst kind and now it’s official: you are one, Diaz closes the book with a tragic ending with the last chapter “The Cheaters Guide to Love,” Yunior’s life and progression from young immigrant learning English from Sesame Street to a middle aged man reflecting on an empty life and deteoriating health. At this point he is on the journey from boy to man and realizes the error of his womanizing ways. Karma, has finally come back around and the pain from Yunior’s heart break sends him into depression and emotional rock bottom. “When realizing that in your lying cheater’s heart that sometimes a start is all we ever get.” (Diaz, pg.

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