Lying has a significant impact on one’s behavior, personality, and daily interactions throughout their personal and professional lives. In Pamela Meyer lecture “How to spot a liar” she identifies two truths regarding deception; lying is a cooperative act, and secondly we’re against lying, but we’re covertly for it in ways that our society has sanctioned for centuries and centuries and centuries.
Lying as a cooperative act appears to slightly more significant than one being against lying. I believe when it comes to effectively coupling deception and judgment to identify when someone is attempting to deceive you, one’s ability is often ineffective. Put simply by con man Henry Oberlander, “everyone is willing to give you something. They’re ready to give you something for whatever it is that you’re hungry for”. I believe Oberlander view is more effective based on societies eagerness to deceive as stated in the lecture, “On a given day, studies show that you may be lied to anywhere from 10 to 200 times. Now granted, many of those are white lies. But in another study, it showed that strangers lied three times within the first
10 minutes of meeting each other.
While I believe one’s lack of discernment allows deception to flourish, I believe the
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Often it appears that one’s education is deemed sufficient to supersede faith. While historically scholars from around globe have continually been unable to reproduce vital organs, create life, or guarantee one’s heath, the notion of faith and the existence of GOD often get dismissed or becomes secondary to one’s lack of wisdom, faith, due to relying on their own understanding. Society failure to diligently seek to understanding in things unseen. Because individuals are often unable to conceptualize things which they have never seen, allows the continuation of determining the existence of GOD to
Throughout life, people are faced with moral decisions that will impact not only themselves but also, the people they surround themselves with. One of these moral decisions people encounter daily is truthfulness in their actions and words. In Blackburn’s novel, “Being Good”, he states “It is not easy to find a stable attitude to the stringency of the prohibition of lying.” I agree with his quote because everyone tends to lie no matter the magnitude of the lie, in order to protect themselves and the people they care about. Although Blackburn believes it is only ethical to lie on occasion, German philosopher, Immanuel Kant affirms that lying is always morally wrong, no matter what the situation is. Though lying can be seen as a deplorable action,
A liar must be a person who seems to be trustworthy, in order to lead his listeners away from the truth. Lying becomes a part of our everyday lives because of the plethora of topics available that one can lie about. Just as an actor will often lie about his personality on stage, an everyday person may also lie about who he really is. A liar must also present a convincing enough story, not one that is too far fetched for others to believe. Occasionally a liar may become wrapped up in his own lie and begin to see it as reality effecting him beyond any possible foresight. A confident liar must approach his audience calm and collected, prepared for any scenario his audience may present. He speaks with his listener just as though they were under normal circumstances. He presents his story and acts surprised if his audience doesn’t quite believe...
Richard Gunderman asks the question, "Isn 't there something inherently wrong with lying, and “in his article” Is Lying Bad for Us?" Similarly, Stephanie Ericsson states, "Sure I lie, but it doesn 't hurt anything. Or does it?" in her essay, "The Ways We Lie.” Both Gunderman and Ericsson hold strong opinions in regards to lying and they appeal to their audience by incorporating personal experiences as well as references to answer the questions that so many long to confirm.
Although it is considered wrong to tell lies, it seems that literature has offered us situations where telling lies isn’t necessarily bad. Of course, lying often has a tragic outcome, but not always for the person or people who told the lie or lies. Oftentimes, these unfortunate outcomes are directed at the person about whom the lie was told. Furthermore, these stories have explained that dishonesty can result in success for both the liar and the target. Maybe we have been teaching the wrong values to our children.
Stephanie Ericsson’s The Ways We Lie, analyzes and reflects on how lying has simply become the norm in our society. We all lie, there is not one person in the world that does not lie. Most people lie because they are afraid of telling the truth, however what they do not know is telling a lie can lead them in the wrong direction because many things can happen when lying to a person. The person can find out when everything unravels that person will not have trust in you and you would be known as a liar. To every action there is a consequence, so why not deal with just one consequence when telling the
Lying is an issue that has been debated on for a long time. Some people believe that lying is sometimes ok in certain circumstances. Some people believe lying is always acceptable. In contrast, some believe lying is always bad. Keeping all other’s opinions in mind, I believe that lying is a deficient way of solving problems and is a bad thing. I claim that only certain situations allow the usage of lies and that otherwise, lying is bad. Dishonesty is bad because it makes it harder to serve justice, harms the liar individually, and messes up records. Furthermore, it should only be said to protect someone from grave danger.
The author has described the reason for his motivation to write about when he attended a seminar and felt that lying, even about the smallest matters, needlessly damages personal relationships and public trust. He has considered lye as a deception. His thought that “The boundary between lying and deception is often vague” is very informative. The most important thing that convinced the writer to write it is likely to be an inspiration why do people tell a lie? The writer has explained clearly that people tell lies to avoid embarrassment, to disguise wrong doings and to exchange their
When reading, “An Open Letter to Students: On Having Faith and Thinking for Yourself”, C. Terry Warner (1971) expounds concerning the conflict between knowledge and faith in our lives. In doing so Warner asserts how people assume if they have knowledge then they cannot have faith. The reason for this separation is the misconception humans have concerning knowledge. According to Warner, the misconception humans have towards knowledge is, we are centered in the assumption that knowledge exists as a collection of facts which can all fit together nicely into a puzzle, or as Warner states, a large picture of human reality. Warner connects the misconception of knowledge with faith which he identifies as spiritual beliefs one holds even though these beliefs can be disproved and shaken by facts of knowledge. Warner brings forth the idea in which faith is not searched for in hopes of gaining secular knowledge, but in hopes of acquiring divine security. He affirms these misconceptions on secular knowledge and faith and provides reasons why humans believe they can have only one or the other.
A quote by Hitler in Mein Kampf explains “if you tell a big enough lie and tell it frequently enough, it will be believed”. I recently attended a lecture on fraud and forensic accounting, with a focus on lie detection techniques. The lecture was presented by Pamela Meyer, the author of Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception. Meyers is a fraud examiner and the CEO of Calibrate, an institution that trains organizations in lie detection. Meyers presentation began by giving several truths about lying, such as: lying is an attempt to connect wishes and fantasies. She also gave facts about lying in the workplace, highlighting that there is an annual global fraud loss of $3.7 million. As the lecture continued, Meyers focused on two types of lying: verbal dodging and body language. Meyers presentation emphasized on the idea that adults lie constantly. After the presentation, I began questioning the prevalence of lying in society, and the relationship between
Kathllen Kelleher, The truth about lying: "Why we do it and when it might be ok"
As Ayn Rand one said, “People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked… The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave form then on… There are no white lies, there is only the blackest of destruction and a white lie is the blackest of all.” Lying is one of the biggest epidemics to not only strike our nation but also our world. Man has lied since the dawn of sin, from the deceptive excuses for devouring the fruit of evil all the way up to problems our century faces. Almost every person, if not every person to walk this earth has preformed this devilish task at least once.
In today’s modern western society, it has become increasingly popular to not identify with any religion, namely Christianity. The outlook that people have today on the existence of God and the role that He plays in our world has changed drastically since the Enlightenment Period. Many look solely to the concept of reason, or the phenomenon that allows human beings to use their senses to draw conclusions about the world around them, to try and understand the environment that they live in. However, there are some that look to faith, or the concept of believing in a higher power as the reason for our existence. Being that this is a fundamental issue for humanity, there have been many attempts to explain what role each concept plays. It is my belief that faith and reason are both needed to gain knowledge for three reasons: first, both concepts coexist with one another; second, each deals with separate realms of reality, and third, one without the other can lead to cases of extremism.
According to Baltasar Gracian, “A single lie destroys a whole reputation of integrity.” Over the course of human history, lying has become an essential part of everyday life. From the time of Jesus to the time of the Internet, people lie to each other in different ways and for different reasons. However, some people often abused the use of lies and allowed the lie to be snowballed until other people found out, causing them to face devastating consequences. Though it is important to lie when facing life threatening situations, lying should not be used in another other occasion, especially when it is used for self interests. Because the buildup of lies can potentially lead to devastating consequences and that trust and relationships can be firmly
Deception is an under-researched and often contentious subject in the world of psychology, with most emphasis being placed on deception detection. Most researchers use the terms “deception” and “lying” interchangeably. Some find it comparable to “manipulation.” Deception has been defined as “an agent act[ing] or speak[ing] so as to induce a false belief in a target or victim” (Hyman, 1989). It is a tactic used to achieve personal gain or an advantage over another.
Friedrich Nietzsche, nineteenth-century German philosopher said, “We need lies in order to live.” Really, we face some cases every day that we do not have to tell the truth. Correspondingly, in these cases we are used to tell lies. People begin to tell lies in childhood, and they gradually find it as the best way to solve problems. As most people accept that lying is beneficial and it has some advantages, they lie frequently to solve problems. In spite of advantages of telling a lie, there are several disadvantages too.