Lying has a significant impact on one’s behavior, personality, and daily interactions throughout their personal and professional lives. In Pamela Meyer lecture “How to spot a liar” she identifies two truths regarding deception; lying is a cooperative act, and secondly we’re against lying, but we’re covertly for it in ways that our society has sanctioned for centuries and centuries and centuries.
Lying as a cooperative act appears to slightly more significant than one being against lying. I believe when it comes to effectively coupling deception and judgment to identify when someone is attempting to deceive you, one’s ability is often ineffective. Put simply by con man Henry Oberlander, “everyone is willing to give you something. They’re ready to give you something for whatever it is that you’re hungry for”. I believe Oberlander view is more effective based on societies eagerness to deceive as stated in the lecture, “On a given day, studies show that you may be lied to anywhere from 10 to 200 times. Now granted, many of those are white lies. But in another study, it showed that strangers lied three times within the first
10 minutes of meeting each other.
While I believe one’s lack of discernment allows deception to flourish, I believe the
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population of individuals who knowing participate in lying or knowingly fail to act on concerns when obvious inconsistencies appear is far less than those who are willing to be truthful and address the issue once they become aware of the deception. While attempting to identify one’s truthfulness is complex, deception is often caught through one’s body language and speech. These two patterns often lead to the individual displaying numerous unnoticeable pretentious expressions. I believe contempt is rather unique due to its elasticity. Contempt is displayed whether one is fearful, over confident, honest, or humiliated. I believe the biggest lie told in the last 150 years, is the continuous believe that the existence of GOD is a façade.
Often it appears that one’s education is deemed sufficient to supersede faith. While historically scholars from around globe have continually been unable to reproduce vital organs, create life, or guarantee one’s heath, the notion of faith and the existence of GOD often get dismissed or becomes secondary to one’s lack of wisdom, faith, due to relying on their own understanding. Society failure to diligently seek to understanding in things unseen. Because individuals are often unable to conceptualize things which they have never seen, allows the continuation of determining the existence of GOD to
remain.
Richard Gunderman asks the question, "Isn 't there something inherently wrong with lying, and “in his article” Is Lying Bad for Us?" Similarly, Stephanie Ericsson states, "Sure I lie, but it doesn 't hurt anything. Or does it?" in her essay, "The Ways We Lie.” Both Gunderman and Ericsson hold strong opinions in regards to lying and they appeal to their audience by incorporating personal experiences as well as references to answer the questions that so many long to confirm.
As John Ruskin once said, “The essence of lying is in deception, not in words.” This essence is debated in “The Ways We Lie”, written by Stephanie Ericsson, and “Doubts about Doublespeak”, written by William Lutz. In “The Ways We Lie”, Ericsson talks about the different ways people lie on a day to day basis. By comparison, in “Doubts about Doublespeak”, Lutz discusses the different forms of doublespeak that many individuals frequently use. Lutz considers doublespeak as a language that distorts the meaning of words in order to deceive another person, and only “pretends to communicate” (83). Although both authors agree that lying is about the use of deceptive language, Ericsson describes this use of language as occasionally being necessary,
Stephanie Ericsson’s The Ways We Lie, analyzes and reflects on how lying has simply become the norm in our society. We all lie, there is not one person in the world that does not lie. Most people lie because they are afraid of telling the truth, however what they do not know is telling a lie can lead them in the wrong direction because many things can happen when lying to a person. The person can find out when everything unravels that person will not have trust in you and you would be known as a liar. To every action there is a consequence, so why not deal with just one consequence when telling the
Deception is a part of everyday life. Whether it be a couple lying to each other or an infomercial claiming something is true when it is false, deception has always been an oppressive part of society. For years, people have lied to each other. Ancient and modern day relationships have experienced turmoil caused by deceit. In these myths, characteristics of present day humans shine through because they are the ones writing the myths.
A liar must be a person who seems to be trustworthy, in order to lead his listeners away from the truth. Lying becomes a part of our everyday lives because of the plethora of topics available that one can lie about. Just as an actor will often lie about his personality on stage, an everyday person may also lie about who he really is. A liar must also present a convincing enough story, not one that is too far fetched for others to believe. Occasionally a liar may become wrapped up in his own lie and begin to see it as reality effecting him beyond any possible foresight. A confident liar must approach his audience calm and collected, prepared for any scenario his audience may present. He speaks with his listener just as though they were under normal circumstances. He presents his story and acts surprised if his audience doesn’t quite believe...
As Ayn Rand one said, “People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked… The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave form then on… There are no white lies, there is only the blackest of destruction and a white lie is the blackest of all.” Lying is one of the biggest epidemics to not only strike our nation but also our world. Man has lied since the dawn of sin, from the deceptive excuses for devouring the fruit of evil all the way up to problems our century faces. Almost every person, if not every person to walk this earth has preformed this devilish task at least once.
The author has described the reason for his motivation to write about when he attended a seminar and felt that lying, even about the smallest matters, needlessly damages personal relationships and public trust. He has considered lye as a deception. His thought that “The boundary between lying and deception is often vague” is very informative. The most important thing that convinced the writer to write it is likely to be an inspiration why do people tell a lie? The writer has explained clearly that people tell lies to avoid embarrassment, to disguise wrong doings and to exchange their
When reading, “An Open Letter to Students: On Having Faith and Thinking for Yourself”, C. Terry Warner (1971) expounds concerning the conflict between knowledge and faith in our lives. In doing so Warner asserts how people assume if they have knowledge then they cannot have faith. The reason for this separation is the misconception humans have concerning knowledge. According to Warner, the misconception humans have towards knowledge is, we are centered in the assumption that knowledge exists as a collection of facts which can all fit together nicely into a puzzle, or as Warner states, a large picture of human reality. Warner connects the misconception of knowledge with faith which he identifies as spiritual beliefs one holds even though these beliefs can be disproved and shaken by facts of knowledge. Warner brings forth the idea in which faith is not searched for in hopes of gaining secular knowledge, but in hopes of acquiring divine security. He affirms these misconceptions on secular knowledge and faith and provides reasons why humans believe they can have only one or the other.
A quote by Hitler in Mein Kampf explains “if you tell a big enough lie and tell it frequently enough, it will be believed”. I recently attended a lecture on fraud and forensic accounting, with a focus on lie detection techniques. The lecture was presented by Pamela Meyer, the author of Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception. Meyers is a fraud examiner and the CEO of Calibrate, an institution that trains organizations in lie detection. Meyers presentation began by giving several truths about lying, such as: lying is an attempt to connect wishes and fantasies. She also gave facts about lying in the workplace, highlighting that there is an annual global fraud loss of $3.7 million. As the lecture continued, Meyers focused on two types of lying: verbal dodging and body language. Meyers presentation emphasized on the idea that adults lie constantly. After the presentation, I began questioning the prevalence of lying in society, and the relationship between
The role of faith has been debated among many theologians, scientists, and philosophers. It has been greatly discussed and depicted throughout history as whether faith is logical when it comes to religion or whether faith is completely absurd. In this essay, I will focus on the role of faith through the lenses of Christian philosophers Sorean Kierkegaard and Paul Tillich. Faith plays an important role in Kierkegaard and Tillich theology; I will critically examine their depiction of faith and compare and contrast their passages. Kiergarrd view of faith is that it is completely absurd where as Ti
In today’s modern western society, it has become increasingly popular to not identify with any religion, namely Christianity. The outlook that people have today on the existence of God and the role that He plays in our world has changed drastically since the Enlightenment Period. Many look solely to the concept of reason, or the phenomenon that allows human beings to use their senses to draw conclusions about the world around them, to try and understand the environment that they live in. However, there are some that look to faith, or the concept of believing in a higher power as the reason for our existence. Being that this is a fundamental issue for humanity, there have been many attempts to explain what role each concept plays. It is my belief that faith and reason are both needed to gain knowledge for three reasons: first, both concepts coexist with one another; second, each deals with separate realms of reality, and third, one without the other can lead to cases of extremism.
Kathllen Kelleher, The truth about lying: "Why we do it and when it might be ok"
DePaulo and Kashy (1998) conducted a study to examine the frequency of both self-centered and other-oriented lies. Additionally, they looked at whether those lies were told to individuals who were close to them or to strangers. They predicted that there would be a higher frequency of lying when talking to strangers than in close relationships. Their findings supported this hypothesis. Furthermore, they concluded that lies told to individuals close to them were disproportionately other-oriented. Ennis, Vrij, and Chance (2008) also conducted a study on self-centered and other-oriented lie telling. The results of the study were similar to that of DePaulo and Kashy. They found that individuals told more self-centered lies and fewer other-oriented lies when talking to strangers as opposed to close friends. Thus, there is an abundance of evidence indicating that people tend to be altruistically motivated then interacting with people with whom they feel close to (Kaplar & Gordon,
According to Baltasar Gracian, “A single lie destroys a whole reputation of integrity.” Over the course of human history, lying has become an essential part of everyday life. From the time of Jesus to the time of the Internet, people lie to each other in different ways and for different reasons. However, some people often abused the use of lies and allowed the lie to be snowballed until other people found out, causing them to face devastating consequences. Though it is important to lie when facing life threatening situations, lying should not be used in another other occasion, especially when it is used for self interests. Because the buildup of lies can potentially lead to devastating consequences and that trust and relationships can be firmly
All in all, telling a lie is an important part of our ethics in society. It keeps good relation among people, however, sometimes it causes failure in relation with people. So people have to consider situation, causes and consequences before telling a lie.