I watched my son grow up with great pride, he started from the bottom and became a man of his time. He wasn’t flawless and made many mistakes, but he did find ways to accomplish things a man could only dream. I believe, most of his early success came from his resentment towards me. I remember the look of disappointment and anger he would give me every time I drew another white line of chalk on my wall. My son, Okonkwo, wanted to be everything, except like me. I am still very proud of most of his achievements but not his journey. He did do things that I refuse to justify. As a result, I will share only honest thoughts on my son today. He was a hard worker. Always farming and never resting. I think that while everyone stopped to appreciate …show more content…
I will always be grateful for that. Deep down, he had a heart full of compassion but as he grew older, his compassion turned to power and masculinity. Okonkwo, now ready to marry, started a family with his first wife who gave him his first son. Nwoye was born and his father was ready to see his legacy continued. He had a second wife and then a third and all of a sudden, Okonkwo had a little village of children. He brought another boy into his home; Ikemefuna. I hate this part of his life story but it would not be right to ignore it. The boy became fond of Okonkwo and soon called him father. He was intelligent, gentle and kind, even my son enjoyed his presence. But, we sooner forget ourselves than our duties and Okonkwo had a job to do. A job that he could have easily refused. A job that would stain his hands with blood and start the downward spiral of his life. He was to kill Ikemefuna. As I watched from above, I saw my son raise his machete and cut down someone who had become family. This was a moment of pure disappointment for me but for Okonkwo too. I saw that little flash of a string snapping inside of him, hanging him limp. I saw the regret on his face and the last little sliver of humanity leaving
Okonkwo was deeply grieved. And it was not just a personal grief. He mourned for the clan, which he saw breaking up and falling apart, and he mourned for the warlike men of Umofia, Who had so unaccountably become soft like women.
In these few chapters that we read, we have already learned a lot about Okonkwo, his life, and how he shows sympathy to some, but to others he is heartless. Okonkwo is other wise known as an unsympathetic person. Okonkwo is a clan leader of umuofia who holds many titles and is well known among his people. Okonkwo's daily life consists of tending to the three yam farms he has produced and to make numerous offerings to numerous gods and to help himself and his family. Okonkwo's personality is hard driven, since his father did not provide for him and his family Okonkwo had to start man hood early and this led him to be very successful in his adulthood, Okonkwo is an unsympathetic character who only shows sympathy rarely because he believes it's a sign of weakness Okonkwo's family relationships make him a sympathetic character because when his children show signs of manliness or do their jobs right he shows sympathy towards them. He is an unsympathetic character because whenever he get a little mad he has to take his anger out on something and that is usually vented by beating his wife's.
Ikemefuna, an adopted son of Okonkwo, died by the orders of the oracle and by the hands of the villagers of Umuofia. Okonkwo accompanied Ikemefuna in his last hours, walking towards the outer boundaries of the village. Okonkwo took part in Ikemefuna's murder, even though another village elder warned him to not be part of the killing. Okonkwo's slash ended his adopted son. The oracle gave the villagers specific commands of how Okonkwo should not participate in Ikemefuna's death, but Okonkwo defied those directions. Defying the oracle means defying the deities the village worships. These reasons left Okonkwo's actions unjustified.
Okonkwo is supposed to be comforting to his children, but instead he hurts them. “Nwoye overheard it and burst into tears, whereupon his father beat him heavily. As for Ikemefuna, he was at a loss. His own home had gradually become very faint and
Okonkwo’s first and most distinctive flaw is his fear of failure. Many people would agree that this flaw is driven by the fear of becoming his father, but Okonkwo takes this fear too far. Okonkwo’s father, Unoka, was known for being a very lazy and carefree man. He also had notoriety of being “…poor and his wife and children had barely enough to eat.” (Achebe 5). A big tradition in Umuofia is having a father who is supposed to teach his children right and wrong. In Okonkwo’s case, these lessons had to be self-taught. Okonkwo had to commit to his own understandings of what defined a “good man” and to him that was the exact opposite of his father. Because of his fear to be seen as weak, Okonkwo even murders a child that calls him father. Ikemefuna was sent to live with Okonkwo because someone was murdered in a nearby village. An example of Okonkwo’s ill-hearted actions are shown in the following quote: “As the man drew up and raised his machete, Okonkwo looked away. He heard the blow. He heard Ikemefuna cry, ‘My father, they have killed me!’ as he ran towards him. Dazed with fear, Okonkwo drew his machete and cut him down. He was afraid of being thought weak.” (Achebe 61). The fact that he kills Ikemefuna shows that his reputation is more important than the life of a child. Okonkwo’s fear permits him to receive more respect from his tribe, but only because it inclines him to do better than anyone else.
Okonkwo’s fear leads him to treat members of his family harshly, in particular his son, Nwoye. Okonkwo often wonders how he, a man of great strength and work ethic, could have had a son who was “degenerate and effeminate” (133). Okonkwo thought that, "No matter how prosperous a man was, if he was unable to rule his women and his children (and especially his women) he was not really a man" (45).
At the beginning of the novel Okonkwo was a fairly wealthy and well-respected member of the Igbo society, but it had not always been that way for him. Okonkwo?s father, Unoka, had been a lazy man who would rather play his flute than take care of his crops. Unoka was said to be a charming man, and was able to borrow large amounts of money from his friends, but was never able to pay it back. As a result, Okonkwo has grown up very poor and ashamed of his lazy father. At one point in the book, Okonkwo remembers hearing one of his playmates calling his father an ?agbala,? which was the word for woman, but all described a man who had taken not titles (13). Okonkwo never forgets this, and actually develops a deep-seated fear that people will think that he is weak like his father. As I mentioned, Okonkwo became very well known, and his wealth and prestige rested solely on his own personal achievements. Okonkwo had received no inheritance from his poor father, no land and no money. As a young man, Okonkwo had been very successful wrestler, and as he grew older he became a well-known warrior. He was said to have brought home five human heads, which was a great achievement even for men who were much older that he was. At the beginning of the story, Okonkwo had obtained two titles, and had the respect of every man from all nine villages of Umuofia. Symbols of his wealth and prestige were his family and his compound. As I mentioned earlier, Okonwo had received no inheritance, and at the time of this story Okonkwo is still fairly young, and the fact that he had three wives, several children, and a very productive piece of land showed that Okonkwo was a very diligent worker. ?Okonkwo ruled his household with a heavy hand. His wives, especially...
Okonkwo’s fear of becoming like his lackadaisical father is an internal conflict between Okonkwo and his father. “Okonkwo’s fear was greater than these. It was not external but lay deep within himself, lest he should be found to resemble his father.” (Achebe 13). Okonkwo tries to live his life, ideally from his father.
personality from birth all throughout adulthood. The carved figure of a son that Okonkwo had hoped for
Okonkwo was the son of Unoka, and Unoka was know in all of Umuofia as a poor coward who never paid back his debts. From the day Unoka died, Okonkwo vowed to never be like his father. Instead, Okonkwo was the complete opposite being described as wealthy but frugal, brave, violent and stubbornly opposed to music and anything else that was perceived “soft” such as, conversation and emotion. In regards to his wealth he married 3 wives and his 3 wives bore him 7 children all together. Of his 7 children he favored Ezinma his only child with Ekwefi his second wife, and did not approve or agree with his oldest son Nwoye’s actions. Okonkwo more than anything valued manliness, his own and others. During the time in this book when Ezinma is taken by
In the beginning chapters (Chapter 4) Okonkwo did not have a very good relationship with his two sons. He was a slightly more caring man when Ikemefuna was sick. But when they were assisting him in planting the seeds for the crops all he did was belittle them and make them feel bad about themselves and how they were completing the task at hand. By the end of this group of chapters (Chapter 7), his sons had loosened up to him and seemed to feel more open to how they had been treated. Although how Okonkwo acted was not okay, the relationship between them did strengthen and as he became more proud of his son, specifically Ikemefuna, he grew to like Okonkwo more. The end of the chapter however, showed that deep down the true colors of Okonkwo shined
Okonkwo is the strong, successful son of a weak father, Unoka. This has formed his character and will eventually destroy him . "And so Okonkwo was ruled by one passion- to hate everything that his father Unoka had loved."(17) Nwoye is presented as being similar to his grandfather, or at least that is Okonkwo's greatest fear: "Nwoye was then twelve years old but was already causing his father great anxiety for his incipient laziness. At any rate, that was how it looked to his father." (17) Here the narrator interferes in defense of Nwoye; what it looks like to his father may not be the truth about the boy.
In order to maintain his pride, Okonkwo commits actions that negatively impact his life. One being the murder of his adopted son, Ikemefuna. Tensions between Umuofia and a neighboring village arise due to a complication resulting in the death of a clan member. As a result, the members of the Umuofia clan demand two youths be sent from th neighboring village as payment for the death. Once they arrive, Okonkwo agrees to
For Okonkwo, Ikemefuna grows to be like a son to him. However, Okonkwo is informed by other tribe members that they must kill Ikemefuna, due to his ties to their rival tribe. But, he is not to have a hand in the killing of his adopted son. As tribal members
Okonkwo thought that if you can't control your wives and your children, especially your wife then you are not a man. So he had two sons Ikemefuna and Nwoye, Ikemefuna was an adopted son but Okonkwo still had feelings for him like a real son. He also thought that Ikemefuna was a good role model for Nwoye and made him stronger. That is until Okonkwo killed