Besides the list of examples Nozick gives about what love is, in his argument about the nature of love, he thinks that while “your own well-being is tied up with that of someone (or something) you love,” (pg 231) ultimately this would fashion a relationship known as the we identity. In other words, the very nature of love is to form the we identity between couples. The we relationship is the situation or circumstance where infatuation begins, deepens, and transforms to become a new entity in the world. People who have come to form the we identity, do not simply not have their individual identities replaced. Instead they have changed to add a shared new additional identity next to their individual identity. Nozick states that people in these relationships are people who have grown to become accustomed to be where both have become psychologically one unit that makes co-joined and homologous/unanimous arrangements or decisions. For example, if something were to happen to one of the partners, this would in turn affect the other partner as well. Another example that serves to illustrate the definition of the we relationship is how boundaries around the individual -that are strong enough to separate the world from what is inside and out -can join with another individual to create a new boundary where the couples are the only ones connected.
At the same time, Nozick provides other argues to how the we relationship is created, he states that many factors play into its creation. For example, Nozick says that we relationship is the perfect blend between the possession of the partner where it accords to the presence of autonomous control over oneself. Couples who had previously been individuals will become wholesome in the formation of th...
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...nt story if one is not in love but still searching for partners to be. He extends this argument to how sex is a medium to mark the physical closeness of the couple, and “sexual monogamy.” (pg 237)
Nozick says that it is incoherent to ask how love benefits an individual person because it is through love that the individual identity is able to morph and create the we identity. He states that the jointed identity of the we relationship “enlarges and enhances your individual one.” (pg 233) Other benefits he lists in Love's Bond include how there is a form of unconditional love or total acceptance expressed by the lovers, such as disregarding or forgiving the fact that certain foibles exist. Therefore it is incoherent to ask how an individual who has not experienced love to explain or understand love's properties or receive the benefits of being in the we relationship.
Chapters 5 and 6 in Extraordinary Relationships gave a good introduction into new concepts relating to Human Interactions and Relationships. These new concepts give a better idea in understanding relationship patterns and the various emotions that come along with relationships. Two concepts that stood out to me that were discussed throughout the chapter were relationship patterns and relationship emotions. Over time many relationships develop their own unique patterns. In many cases these patterns have been part of the individual all along. Gilbert (1992) states “Usually what people do in a relationship crises is more of the same thing they have been doing, only more intensely and more anxiously” (pg.36). When individuals go through relationship
Regardless of the form in which it exists- be it romantic, familial, or platonic- the love and many relationships which manifest between people functions as a defining factor in the development of all individuals in both an intrapersonal and interpersonal context.
A developed relationship can be interpreted as one where the couple is interdependent, tolerant, and dedicated. Equity allows a relationship to efficiently develop in this manner. Judith Viorst illustrates a poem depicting a couple’s struggles and their sacrifices for the other in “True Love”. In many points of the poem, the couple is compromising for the other’s flaws in order to avoid unnecessary conflicts. “I do not resent watching the Green Bay Packers / Even though I am philosophically opposed to football” (Stanza 1) is an example of the wife forcing herself
...as the day we married.” (p 23) On the surface, all seems well; however if on looks closer one can see a very sad occurrence-taking place. Most couples who have lasted a goodly time together will not answer the question, “Do you love your spouse like the day you married?” Invariably man and wife will reply, “No, I love him/her more than the day we married.” Long married couples become closer. Intimacy grows in the physical as the couple’s love proportionally grows all more. The growth is palpable to the individuals within the marriage. Furthermore, as life’s hardships are over come together, the couple’s love will grow exponentially. Welty understands this yet chooses a different path for the Fletchers. Some place in time, either by Mrs. Fletchers pride or by Mr. Fletcher’s inability to deal with confrontation, the growth of which should have taken place will happen.
[SP 1A] Couple identity, the sense of togetherness that a couple develops throughout a relationship when thinking about short and long-term plans, is necessary for a healthy, strong marriage. When April and Frank first meet, they fall madly in love with each other. Engrossed in Frank’s stories, April swallows every one of his beefed-up exaggerations, telling him that he the “most interesting person” she has ever met (Yates 25). [SP 12]
"Sex without Love" is a poem by Sharon Old, who states in the opening line "How do they do it, the ones who make love without love?" It starts out with judging those, who have sex outside of having feeling for one another. It describes the sex in the third line as without feeling more as a techniques, which is describe "beautiful as dancers.. over each other like ice skaters." Sex without love to the author is described more as an act, which is performed instead of two people in love, who sex is in love not because of the act but instead of the love of the person. The author seems to climax in the literal sense at line nine : come to the Come to the … then God comes in picture after the act is done. Judgment and sin is the mood of this poem of how two people can commit an act of a heart and soul without disappointed God.
love in the context of being a device that is used to protect and to care for people
Love and affection is an indispensable part of human life. In different culture love may appear differently. In the poem “My god my lotus” lovers responded to each other differently than in the poem “Fishhawk”. Likewise, the presentation of female sexuality, gender disparity and presentation of love were shown inversely in these two poems. Some may argue that love in the past was not as same as love in present. However, we can still find some lovers who are staying with their partners just to maintain the relationship. We may also find some lovers having relationship only because of self-interest. However, a love relationship should always be out of self-interest and must be based on mutual interest. A love usually obtains its perfectness when it develops from both partners equally and with same affection.
"Love can affect you so deeply that it reshapes you from the inside out and by doing so alters you destiny for future loving moments" says Fredrickson but she seems to have forgotten that there always two perspectives to any ideology. It is indubitable that the experiences of love play a crucial role in molding an individual, but it is ignorant to say that only love will cause such change. The reality is that not all relationships and encounters are true "micro-moment of love" and those negative experiences also partake in what creates the identity and thought process of an individual. With the knowledge that an individual 's cell play a crucial role in deciding who to have "micro-moments of love"; such negative experience will be associated with the factual, biological notion of love. Thus causing individuals to feel that the negative experience they had to face and deal with were a result of their body and its biology. The idea that their body and brain, essentially unalterable, were capable of causing them pain and heartache, will hinder them from achieving the love and longing for others that Fredrickson describes. The idea that love is functioning by the orders registered by the individual 's body, makes love uncontrollable. Humans in nature are predisposed
This passage marks the first of several types of love, and gives us an intuitive
The article, “Measurement of Romantic Love” written by Zick Rubin, expresses the initial research aimed at presenting and validating the social-psychological construct of romantic love. The author assumed that love should be measured independently from liking. In this research, the romantic love was also conceptualized to three elements: affiliative and depend need, an orientation of exclusiveness and absorption, and finally a predisposition to help.
The definition of a relationship has changed so many times in the past decades. It has gone from a connection between two people to an obsession and almost a competition. In today’s world a relationship consists of major intimacy and closeness. There are some who believe that intimacy while dating is wrong. They form their own definition of a relationship into what they call a “godly relationship”. Those supporting that kind of a relationship condemn sexual closeness and monitor who their young people are allowed to date. There are two worlds of dating in our lives today; one with infatuation and the other with togetherness.
...n integrated model of couple therapy. In P. David, Pair bonding & repair: Essays on intimacy & couple therapy (pp.52-64). Class handout from Applied Couple Therapy, Antioch University Seattle.
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The idea of “two becoming one flesh” is a vivid and dramatic image of intercourse. And by saying that it’s more than sex or something other than sex, misses the meaning and purpose of sex. I agree with Mark Driscoll, in his book Real Marriage on his statement that husband and wife, a man and woman are to become one by “c...