Dalai Lama said “Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent.” (Dalai Lama, n.d.) Some people are of the belief that first impressions are lasting and hard to overcome if they are bad. As a leader a person can’t judge solely on the basis of a first impression nor can they ignore them. A lot can be gathered from first impressions and that knowledge should be kept while obtaining a better understanding of that individual. In the class example an extroverted and introverted scenario of John was given. Let’s explore how first impressions strike people, take a look at how the picture of John changed from one reading to the next. Lastly, looking to see if the picture of John in the mind’s eye changed if the scenarios were read in a different order, introvert to extrovert? First Impressions As individuals many of us hold onto that first impression of a person, whether it is good or bad. By holding onto those first impressions a skewed view of an individual may be seen. This could be the case if the firstimpression of the individual was bad. The individual could be doing great things after that first impression but the view holder can’t see it because he or she has the skewed view. The individual could have been just having a “bad day”. Something to always keep in mind is one can never know what is going on behind the closed door of an individual’s home so don’t make assumptions that everything is okay. Everyone has bumps in the road and can cause us to have those “bad days” and sometimes leniency or understanding that we are all not perfect can go a long way. In a Forbes magazine article titled “Seven Seconds to Make... ... middle of paper ... ...work. It also takes getting to know someone before drawing conclusions about that individual. As seen with John, there is more than one side to a person and one must get to know all sides. Henrik Ibsen said “A thousand words will not leave so deep an impression as one deed.” (Ibsen n.d Brainy Quotes). Works Cited Goman, Carol Kinsey. 13 Feb 2013. Seven Second to Make a First Impression. Retreived from http://www.forbes.com/sites/carolkinseygoman/2011/02/13/seven-seconds-to-make-a-first- impression/ Ibsen, Henrik. (n.d.). BrainyQuote.com. Retrieved November 23, 2013, from BrainyQuote.com Web site: http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/h/henrikibse149220.html Lama, Dalai. (n.d.). BrainyQuote.com. Retrieved November 23, 2013, from BrainyQuote.com Web site: http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/d/dalailama393080.html
From personal experience from past employment, I have worked for a man who by appearances was not someone I would gravitate to. It turned out he
lasting impressions have the ability to change who we are, they change our attitudes, our personalities
1. I consider myself one who leads my example more than vocally; I am more likely to be reserved and quiet than outgoing and loud. Sometimes this is more effective than words, as people can follow an example easier than performing based on oral or written instructions. I do not believe in public reprimand or denunciation, but sometimes—or many times—people need to be told that they are wrong, and this should not be something that is “beaten around the bush.” Instead, they should be told plainly and directly in order to ensure understanding in their error so they can correct it. Sometimes, however, I neglect to seize an opportunity to correct someone because of my tendency to stay introverted, which is wrong.
He defines introversion as the turning inward of psychic energy with inclination towards the subjective aspect of experiences (Feist & Feist, 2009). On the other hand, extroversion refers to the turning outward of psychic energy that leads to the tendency to turn towards objectivity and away from subjectivity. However, Jung identifies that humans rest somewhere on the scale of a balance between introversion and extroversion. The implication of this theory is that some people may portray a high degree of one aspect and a lower degree of another (Jung, 2014). On this basis, those who are referred as introverts are those that have a low degree of extroversion and the same applies to extroverts. Jung also notes that the functions of sensing, feeling, thinking, and intuiting impact on the personalities of people and moderate their degrees of extroversion and
Goffman, E. (1959). The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life. New York: Doubleday Anchor Books.
Fifteen seconds go by and you have already made a first impression of a person. The first impressions you get of a person might not always be who they turn out to be. It is about giving people a chance as shown in Pride and Prejudice. Pride and Prejudice is a book first titled First Impressions. Pride and Prejudice is a book where the characters make the plot and the novel itself. It is based upon the first impressions one character makes of another and the story revolves around this. First Impressions embody the themes in the novel. Mr. Darcy is one major character in which people make many first impressions of him and try to form him into the character they think he is. One person that makes such an impression of him is Elizabeth Bennet. Elizabeth’s judgments are correct most of the time with some characters but when it comes to Mr. Darcy it soon shows that her impressions of him are incorrect. Elizabeth also lets those words Mr. Wickham says of Darcy steer her impressions in that incorrect way. When Elizabeth finds out that what others tell her is not true her impressions are contradicted. The first impressions of Darcy and Elizabeth affect the plot and structure of Pride and Prejudice by their influences on other characters.
For example, working in a surgical ward, a nurse was discussing with other colleagues about a certain patient who was in the holding bay, talking negatively about her lifestyle choices, when approaching the patient for the first time when arriving into the suite, she refused treatment from any of the nurse staff on the shift as she was upset at the things the nurse had said. First impressions influence people’s judgments of others and their willingness to engage in any further communication (Boc and Franklin, 2013).... ... middle of paper ... ...
If you are an introvert, you probably know how it feels like to be routinely passed over for leadership roles in school, in an organization or in college. The daring boy who always speaks his mind and raises his hands in class is always recognized as a better student representative than the introverts in the room. The frustration and disappointment that introverts have to go through because of the common misunderstanding that they are shy or anti-social has probably left a negative impact in your life. For centuries, people have preferred extroverted leaders rather than introverted leaders because great leaders are always characterized as gregarious and charismatic (McHugh,
Impression management is a social phenomenon that occurs in our daily life both consciously and unconsciously. “It is the act of presenting a favorable public image of oneself so that others will form positive judgments.” (Newman 184) Our first impressions of a person are always based on physical appearance and we compare them to the norms of our society. We can all admit to the initial meeting of a person and first noticing their age, gender, race, or other ascribed characteristics. Our cultural norms are ideas such that fat is “ugly” which are very different across societies and time. Also, impression management is an idea of how individuals interact in different social situations. “Sociologists refer to dramaturgy as the study of social interactions as theater, in which people (“actors”) project images (“play roles”) in front of others (“the audience”).” (Newman 169) This is our human need for acceptance and way of managing the impressions we give others and perform what we think people want to see. Our social life is governed by this concept but it only works with effective front-stage and back-stage separation. Our front-stage is the visible part of ourselves that we allow others to see unlike our hidden back-stage self.
The New Yorker, with 47 publications each year, often generates some debate. In July 2007, the literary magazine released its latest issue. The cover included the title, price, edition, and three differently dressed women sitting on a bench. The first woman’s face and body are covered, except for her eyes. The second, with long blonde hair, is wearing a halter top, short shorts, sunglasses, and flip flops. The third is wearing a tunic and veil. Our first impressions are often stereotypical, and we must look deeper than the cover. Immediately, different conclusions are drawn based on each woman’s appearance. Just from this magazine cover, we can assume different things about each individual: including her religion, self image, and family life.
It takes more than a casual “hello” down the hallway to truly know a person. It is actually very difficult, and takes time, to know someone on a personal level. As human beings we often base our perceptions of people off of what we have heard. In Inherit the Wind Jerome Lawrence and Robert E. Lee show us why these perceptions are usually inaccurate. They show us that once you put aside the rumors and look into a person’s heart, you may be stunned.
always take a first impression about people, and all the times criticize them depending of
Social perception is 1.“the cognitive process that helps us form impressions of those around us and subconscious attitudes towards other people based their defining characteristics which help to comprehend a situation and gauge our behaviour accordingly. Social perception can be the mental progression of picking up clues and signals from others that help us form an early stage of what they may be like. Our brains may rely on stereotypes or previous similar experiences to build a picture of what to expect from any given social encounter”
First impressions are very important to your every day life. They are the basis of how relationships start and how you are seen by other people. People, based on first impressions, form opinions. The opinions could begin many things and lead towards success or these opinions could be ones that are misleading and have a negative impact on how people relate to you. First impression are very important on people’s social life, in your education and in employment. In your social life, first impressions come from your friends, family, and even new people who come into your life. First impressions for your education consists of your teachers or classmates when you are taking a class. First impressions on employment go from your current co-workers, boss, and former employers. The are very significant in job interviews. First impressions are important, but are not always the final word.
Interaction with people helps us know about them and we can comprehend their behavior in different situation and circumstances without getting surprised by their action. The candid conversation is helpful in expressing one’s thought but it can be fatal sometime. I believe that there has be a balance between being too extrovert and being too introvert. It is a common belief that introvert people are shy, they cannot speak in the presence of other. But the truth is that introverts are not shy, they prefer to be alone by choice. They feel energized and more productive when they are alone rather than surrounded by people. We can say that energy is drained in the presence of other. While extroverts are the outgoing people and feel energized in the presence of other. They think best when they are speaking. I am a person who is neither too introvert and nor too extrovert. I think I am more productive, thoughtful and can take better decisions when I am alone. At the same time I like hanging out with people and talking to them, but there is a limit to it. I think it is a good quality for a manager that he is neither too introvert nor too extrovert. If a manger is introvert he cannot perform his job properly as his job involves speaking to his co-workers and delegating the responsibilities to individuals commensurate to the individual’s experience and capabilities. The manager can know about the strength and weakness of his team by speaking to them. He cannot just sit in the office and know about the individual by looking at the profile of the person. On the other hand if the manager is extrovert and spends too much time among the team members, then there is a possibility th...