Essay On The Trauma Of Death

Death is a monumental pat of life and everyone experiences it during their lifetime. Unfortunately, some experience the trauma of death too soon. Everyone has their different ways of dealing with the loss of a friends or a loved one. Some hide their feelings, some show them openly, and many just need time and space to handle the situation. There are stages of dealing with the loss of someone close to an individual but, of course, there are differences in every person. Research has shown that children who lose a loved one “experience a wide range of emotional and behavioral symptom and the child often experiences an increase in anxiety and concerns for the safety of other family members and experience fears around separation” (Akerman). Everyone has

There are four stages to grief according to John Bowlby, an attachment theorist. The stages are shock-numbness, yearning-searching, disorganization-despair, and reorganization (Rathus 406). In the first stage one does not have to time to process what information is given to them and experiences shock, distress and even fear. It can last from hours to even days. The second stage is when one goes through a time of profound loss and the world may seem empty and meaningless without the deceased. It can follow with stages of denial. The disorganization stage is when a person goes through the motions of remembering the loved one and some serious side-effects can occur. Appetite loss, exhaustion, and may even lack energy may lead to depression. The last stage, reorganization is when one starts to adjust to the life without the deceased loved one. They begin to start new habits and goals, painful memories begin to fade, and even new relationships and activities are begun (Stages of Grieving). As time continues to pass the pain begins to recede and things become easier such as talking about the deceased, looking at photographs, visiting graves