While self-discloser has benefits that affect our relationships with ourselves and others, it can also prove to be risky in the wrong situation. When we tend to self-disclose we are choosing to share information with others about our feelings, dreams, likes, dislikes, etc. for building a deeper relationship and we expect appropriate and reciprocal self-discloser back. Self-disclosure like any communication is irreversible and we can take it back, one must always self-motoring following the rules that will gain reward. Any information shared can run into risks, Floyd points out four potential risks when it comes to self-disclosure: rejection, the chance of obligating others, hurt to others, and violation of other people’s privacy (p.101-102). …show more content…
This has happened to me, for example, I would be interested in someone romanticly and soon after I would relieve my feelings for that person hoping they were going to feel the same way, instead they reply with “I only see you as a friend”. Some might believe that sharing your feelings for someone is good to get off your chest, but when it comes to self-disclosing your interest in someone I’ve learned that it is always good to talk to that person long enough to kind of get a feel for their interest in you. There have also been times where I relieved to much with friends that would involve me telling them stories of myself that might not always paint me in the best light. I feel as if my sharing might help build a relationship bring us closer or releases any built-up tension I’ve been feeling throughout the week, but I've learned this just leave others with a negative impression of me. The best way I can use self-discloser when talking to a friend is to only disclose information of myself to friends who I know just as well as they know me, or keep it to myself in some
After reading chapter three Alternatives to Self-Disclosure I have concluded a benevolent lie is when someone manipulates the truth to benefit the situation, but not with the intentions of harming anyone in the process. This type of lie is better known as the harmless little white lie that is intended to protect those we tell them too. Learning about this topic pointed out how often it happens without notice, for example my little girl just lost her front teeth and asked me if she will look pretty for her school pictures. My reply was “You’re going to be the most beautiful girl in the world!” Don’t get me wrong, she is beautiful to me no matter what, but not to the world. I just want her to have self-confident in her smile. The most common
Even among friends or intimate relationship we disclose little or no personal information with a high degree of frequency. I rarely share personal information with my parents unless it 's necessary for them to know and the topic we do discuss are usually moderate topic’s. This is known as privacy management which researchers use this term to describe the choices people make to reveal or conceal information about themselves. (pg 92)
They argue that therapists should consider their own motivation to self-disclose and set boundaries. The therapists should never put their own needs above the client. They make sure to point out that self discourse alone cannot affect the outcome of treatment. Self-disclosure is effective only if it is used appropriately and only if it is used when it is necessary. The amount of information disclosed and when it is disclosed is also important. Therapists should draw a clear line with the amount of intimacy to include in their therapeutic disclosure to ensure that no inappropriate boundaries are crossed. The authors suggest two rules of thumb to follow when disclosing information which include: (a) “Why do I want to say what I am about to say” and (b) “What will be the likely impact of the client” (p. 567).
In the summer of 1998 my family fled the newly created independent country of Croatia (Former-Yugoslavia) to the United States. My parents came here in hopes of finding a better life as the economy was still recovering from Croatia’s war of independence. We first settled in Amarillo, Texas for a few months. We traveled around the states for a year or so looking for other refugees. After some searching my parents decided to move to Connecticut as it offered the best incentives for refugees. Listening to stories about this time of my life has given me a chance to appreciate the help we received from various government programs that settled us, clothed us, fed us, and helped us become independent American citizens. Now I want to give back and the best way I know to do this is by teaching the future generations of Americans.
In today’s society with the blogs, the gossip sites and the other forms of social media, confidentiality is a thing of the past. However, for, physicians and other health professionals, they are held to a higher standard to maintain a level of ethics and confidentiality for their patients. Confidentiality is a major duty for a health professional, but is there ever a time to where it is okay to tell what a patient says in confident? What if the patient is a minor, or a senior citizen or someone who is mentally challenged? What if a patient is being abused or wants to commit suicide? Does it matter if it is a nurse, or a dentist, or a psychologist or is all medical professional held to the same moral standard? What roles does a consent form or Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act plays in the medical world in being confidentiality? I would like to explore Confidentiality and the moral effects it has on the health profession.
Have you ever heard, “You only have one chance to make a first impression?” Now, whether you choose to be yourself or you choose to be who you thought someone wanted you to be, a conscientious decision was made. Presenting who we would like others to believe we are is self-presentation (Gilovich, Keltner, & Nisbett, 2011). Now answer another question for me, under the correct circumstances, do you think that everyone has the ability to lie about information or details about themselves?
Kito, M. (2005). Self-Disclosure In Romantic Relationships And Friendships Among American And Japanese College Students. The Journal of Social Psychology, 145(2), 127-140.
Everyone has a limit on how much self-disclosure they reveal, especially to an individual that is a stranger to them. However, self-disclosure becomes more reveling when that individual becomes more than a stranger and starts to feel comfortable with that person and someone whom they can trust. There were two experiments that took place in the study. The first experiment was based on the eye contact and self-disclosure of the experimenter and the subject. The second experiment was the effects of the experimenter’s self-disclosure. On both studies, the purpose was to see how much the subject will self-disclose and respond when the experimenter approach them in a variety of ways (Jourard & Friedman, 1970). The hypothesis for both experiments
A person 's beginnings do not completely define a person, but it does serve as a permanent foundation from which their identity is built around. As children, we absorb every sight and experience like porous sponges. Family, religion, environment, culture -- all of these aspects slowly form the background of one 's identity. As an Asian American, this identity is very different from that of a native Chinese woman 's, for I have parts of both cultures within me. It is a unique identity which I believes acts as a double edged sword. Being born into two cultures is a wonderful in that one can be a part of two cultures, but it is also a very confusing to be "divided" between two very different cultures.
On the positive side, a study of long- term psychotherapy patients conducted by Knox, Hess, Peterson, and Hill in 1997, determined that counselor self-disclosure was seen by patients as being very positive and described their counselors as “real, human, and the relationship balanced” (Nyman p. 270). In addition other studies have found that “high self-disclosing counselors were viewed as being more expert and trustworthy than low self-disclosing counselors” (Nyman, p.270).
Shih, D., Hsu, S., Yen, D. C., & Lin, C. (2012). Exploring the Individual's Behavior on Self-Disclosure Online. International Journal of Human-Computer Interaction, 28(10), 627-645.
In the world of psychology therapist raise a question whether or not they should “disclose personal information during psychotherapy. Several therapists “have suggested that therapist self-discloser can have a positive impact on treatment. From this view, self-discloser by the therapists may elicit greater discloser by the client enhancing the possibilities for client self-exploration”(e.g., Bugental, 1965, chap. 7; Jourad, 1971, chap. 17; Strassberg, Roback, D’Antonio & Gable, 1977). In addition, “self-discloser is thought to encourage an atmosphere of honesty and understanding between client and therapist, fostering a stronger and more effective therapeutic relationship”). However many other therapist disagrees with that statement. They reply “ psychodynamic theorist since Freud have generally regarded therapist self-disclosure as detrimental to treatment because it might interfere with the therapeutic process, shifting the focus of therapy away from the client”(e.g., see cutis, 1982b; Freud, 1912/1958; Greenson, 1967, chap. 3). In addition, it is argued that therapist self-discloser may adversely affect treatment outcome by exposing therapist weakness or vulnerabilities, thereby undermining client trust in the therapist”(e.g., see cutis, 1982b, 1981)
Who am I? Wrestling with identity— our history, our culture, our language— is central to being human, and there’s no better way to come to grips with questions of identity than through the crossing of borders. The transcendence of borders reveals the fluid nature of identity, it challenges absurd notions of rigid nationalities, and highlights our common humanity. It is no coincidence, then, that my experience as an immigrant has shaped my academic journey and pushed me to pursue graduate studies.
As an undergrad student in her third year of school, I get asked a lot what I want to do with my future. And if I do not answer it with enough insight or evidence that I know what I am doing, then I feel like I look like a complete idiot to most. What I tell people is that I have a hunger for counseling; I want to be able to give people meaningful advice on their daily lives, their personal problems, and their personal thoughts. What is important to me is that I learn to be personable to everyone around me. I want to be expressively honest, yet a constructive influence on my clients, my friends, and my family’s life.
Hi, my name is Rob Geis and I am currently in grade 12. I have been at County High School for a year now; I joined at the start of 11th grade, and have thoroughly enjoyed myself here. The school is great, the people are fantastic and the atmosphere is one that makes you actually want to go to school. Before I joined ASB I was studying at the Singapore American School for two years and prior to that I was at the International School of Kuala Lumpur for two years. I was born and raised here in Bombay city and grew up here.