Deception is an incredibly common factor in intimate relationships. The closer two people get to one another, the more transparent they should be in order to develop a healthy relationship. Although this is ideal, some form of deceit will exist. Studies suggest that “one out of three interactions” between partners will contain some form of deception (Aldeis & Afifi, 2015, p.228). Although deception and lies seem to be the same, they have different meanings. Lying is a form of deception that simply states something that is untrue. Deception is a more tactful way of avoiding the full truth and concealing information. Although society knows that deception is wrong, we continue to do deceive the one’s closest to us. The focus is to reveal the types, …show more content…
There are several tactics that partners use to lie or deceive one another. One tactic is the “white lie,” which is deliberate deception that “aids the listener rather than the speaker” (Peterson, 1996, p.280). An example of this would be a husband insisting that his wife’s haircut looks great, even though he truly doesn’t feel that way. These “white lies” are usually innocent and can even be beneficial to relationships by avoiding unnecessary conflict. Another deceptive tactic is “omission.” This tactic is significantly more severe and can lead to the lack of interpersonal trust between to individuals. Shockingly, the omission tactic is “perceived as deceptive only when the violation pertained to topics rated as severe” (Horan & Dillow, 2009, p.150). An example of this tactic would be a woman refraining to tell her boyfriend that her ex was at a party she attended. Instead, she would talk about all of the other people that were there while excluding her ex. The tactic is incredibly deceptive because “the statement itself is not factually false” but could lead him to falsely accuse his girlfriend of wrongdoing if he found out (Peterson, 1996, p.280). A deceptive tactic …show more content…
One major factor that motivates deception is simply to avoid conflict and the fear of partner disapproval. This is a major sign of relational dissatisfaction. Another factor is reciprocal deception. If one feels that their partner is deceiving them, then they are likely to act the same. Even if they are not actually concealing anything from their partner, he/she may want to return that feeling of being deceived back to their partner as a form of retaliation. “While in relationships, individuals believe their relational partner will be honest with them,” so when an individual has difficulty reading their partner, he/she is likely to assume they are being deceived (Horan & Dillow, 2009, p.148). It is also fairly common for partners to use deception to get out of intimate moments. If an individual’s use of deception in a relationships becomes habitual, then it’s very likely that he/she is creating a virtual reality, which is a psychological issue. Overall, the motivation to deceive a partner is because of the fear of what full disclosure would do to the
Richard Gunderman asks the question, "Isn 't there something inherently wrong with lying, and “in his article” Is Lying Bad for Us?" Similarly, Stephanie Ericsson states, "Sure I lie, but it doesn 't hurt anything. Or does it?" in her essay, "The Ways We Lie.” Both Gunderman and Ericsson hold strong opinions in regards to lying and they appeal to their audience by incorporating personal experiences as well as references to answer the questions that so many long to confirm.
As John Ruskin once said, “The essence of lying is in deception, not in words.” This essence is debated in “The Ways We Lie”, written by Stephanie Ericsson, and “Doubts about Doublespeak”, written by William Lutz. In “The Ways We Lie”, Ericsson talks about the different ways people lie on a day to day basis. By comparison, in “Doubts about Doublespeak”, Lutz discusses the different forms of doublespeak that many individuals frequently use. Lutz considers doublespeak as a language that distorts the meaning of words in order to deceive another person, and only “pretends to communicate” (83). Although both authors agree that lying is about the use of deceptive language, Ericsson describes this use of language as occasionally being necessary,
In “The Truth about Lying” Judith Viorst explains the four different kinds of lying. She categorizes lies as social lies, peace-keeping lies, protective lies, and trust-keeping lies. Social lies are lies that are “acceptable and necessary”, they are the little white lies most people use all the time. Peace keeping lies are told when the liar is trying to protect themselves from getting in trouble or causing any conflict. The protective lies are far more serious, are often told because of fear that the truth would be “too damaging” for the person being lied to. Lastly, there are the trust keeping lies, which are lies in which the liar is lying for a friend in order to keep a promise. Viorst finds that most of these lies, while some are more acceptable than others, are necessary and she can understand them.
Deception is defined as a crafty procedure or practice meant to deceive or defraud. People tend to view this as a sinister action. No matter how sinister it can be, it can also be utilized to gain information and knowledge. How a person uses deception varies among different people. Generally, the cleverer people tend to utilize deception very efficiently.
In “The Ways We Lie” by Stephanie Ericsson, the author uses her knowledge to talk about the different ways of lies and how those lies affect the liar, as well as the people who had been told lies. According to the author’s essay, there are 10 types of lies that people encounter every single day: the White Lie, Facades, Ignoring the Plain Facts, Deflecting, Omission, Stereotypes and Cliches, Groupthink, Out-and-Out Lies, Dismissal, and Delusion. Throughout the essay, it is connoted that people are lying in various ways even though they are not intended to. I had been taught that lying is a bad habit. According to Ericsson, there are many types of lie and I did three of them in my life: the White Lie, Omission, and Out-and-Out Lies; however, I can defend my lies for good purposes.
Lying is simply an act of not telling the truth, and this definition of lying will be used in future sections of this paper. There are three groups of lies t...
It tells us how often we lie or tend to lie under different situations and scenarios by taking real world examples. Kornet explained and analyze the result of various studies by Bella DePaulo, a psychologist at the University of Virginia and her colleagues. As lying and deception becomes an integral part of every individual, it is important to know its impact and its results on our life. We are lying about one or the other thing at almost every moment of our life. It can be at workplace, in a relationship, or even friendship. Kornet concludes this article by saying, “The ubiquity of lying is clearly a problem, but would we want to will away all of our lies? Let’s be honest.” I completely agrees with the author as we have to take a step against lying and deception and to be honest in our lives. Kornet’s article provides really good studies and after analyzing those studies one can think of his/her lying habit and how often he lies in a day. I myself tried and thinking about how many times in a day I lie, and found that I lie a number of times in a day. This article is really interesting and I encourage everyone to read this article. After reading this article, you will come to know the actual truth about lying and its
A person once said “the truth does not cost a person anything, but a lie costs a person everything”. The aim of the study is to take an in depth look at how the kinds of lies and sex differences in lying demonstrated in the scientific article are related with Pamela Meyer's tedtalk.
Deception is a part of everyday life. Whether it be a couple lying to each other or an infomercial claiming something is true when it is false, deception has always been an oppressive part of society. For years, people have lied to each other. Ancient and modern day relationships have experienced turmoil caused by deceit. In these myths, characteristics of present day humans shine through because they are the ones writing the myths.
We all lie in one way or another. Whether it is a simple white lie about how someone really looks or blaming someone else for something we really did, we all have lied. In Stephanie Ericsson’s essay, “The Ways We Lie”, she explains the ways people lie in order to get what they want, to stay out of trouble, or just to hide from the cold hard truth. Ericsson explains how is it nearly impossible to go without telling a lie and how lies affect others. After evaluating Ericsson’s essay on the many ways we lie, I can say I am most guilty of the telling whites and lying by omission.
This article focuses on two different approaches of deception: withholding information versus distorting information, and how that may or may not change employees’ perception of the deceiver (Dunleavy, p.239). Dunleavy defines deception as “the conscious attempt to create or perpetuate false impressions among other communicators” (Dunleavy, p.240). Three hypotheses’ are presented in the article...
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White lies are defined as diplomatic or well-intentioned deception. There are many different types of white lies that are told, such as, lies of flattery for example; if someone gives another person a gift and the gift was not what the person wanted, this person would reply “thank you so much! I just love it!” This type of white lie is told because telling someone that their gift was undesirable would make the teller look like an inconsiderate being.
This type of lie is probably the nicest type of lie, in my opinion. This lie is told to achieve some good by telling a lie that will enhance or help the person that is being lied to or lied about. An example of this could be when you “like” someone’s picture or status on Facebook even if you don’t really like it. Some people just click “like” to make the person feel comfortable about posting it or