Many people believe that if you don’t succeed at first, you must try and try again until you succeed. The reason for people to believe in this belief is because its gets transmitted constantly through others. But the thing is that people don’t know how to distinguish false or true beliefs, what often causes us to believe in beliefs has to do with our society. A Harvard college professor of psychology, Daniel Gilbert, wrote a book called Stumbling on Happiness, explaining how people tend to have delusions about their future which often misleads people’s happiness. In the final chapter, Gilbert makes a resemblance between genes and beliefs, he describes how they both pass along things in order to create the transmission they try to send on. He …show more content…
believes that any accurate or inaccurate belief that it said by communication has a higher chance of being transmitted over and over again. Whether this belief is true or false, it helps sustain people and its society because it falls into the social structure that people live in. We believe that once we have reached failure we should keep trying and never give up. But there are often times where we should give up and just stop trying but that all depends on why we should just give up just like that. Throughout my years of growing up I have heard this saying many times and in many different ways. I’ve heard it from my parents, my family members, teachers, counselors, guest speaker, etc. But most of the people I have heard from said it in a similar way which was, “with success comes failures”. While I was in middle school even in high school my classes had numerous amounts of guest speakers trying to persuade the kids to become successful in life and motivating us to never stop reaching for our goals even though if you fail at some point, you should always get back up and try again. This belief contributes to most of the people who are in film or music industry because most of them have had rough times of failure throughout their career. Such as actors or actresses for example taking bit parts before becoming the next big movie star. Walt Disney, in fact, had many failures throughout the road towards his success. In businessinsider.com, an article listed the top 15 people who failed before becoming famous and Walt was one of those people. In the article it mentioned how Walt was fired by a newspaper editor because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas”. But that nor the rejection of Mickey Mouse coming out on screen stopped Walts dreams. Because of society, many people believe that if you fail in something before, there is a chance that you will fail again. But people view failure as a second opportunity that is being handed to you. Gilbert implies how “accurate beliefs give us power, which makes it easy to understand why they are so readily transmitted from one mind to another” however it is, “…difficult to understand why inaccurate beliefs are so readily transmitted from one mind to another…”. That is because, we frequently deny the fact that we made a mistake and don’t own up to it which cause us to lose focus on success. Walt is an inspiration and a role model to many people in the world, he is an example of why people believe that this belief it true. But there’s comes a point where the more you try to succeed and not give up the more impossible it becomes to overcome that goal and that is when we should give up and just move on to something else.
For instance, my dads’ cousin was once in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend. We would get calls from family members who lived Mexico telling us how her boyfriend constantly mistreating her in front of her family and friends. Having two kids already with that man, she felt that it was her commitment to stay with him. Although many people tried convincing her to leave that man she would never listen to any of them. She felt that his apology, “I will never do it again”, was enough for her. It always led her to forgive her boyfriend and give him another chance. But out of all the chances she gave him he continued doing it and once she had finally realized that the relationship that she was in was not healthily or safe for her and her children, she left him. While she tried and tried to maintain that relationship going, she just had to give up for her children and her own sake. So this belief is not so true then how we think it is which makes a super-replicator. Super-replicators are beliefs that are true or false, that facilities its own mean of transmission which is constantly transmitted over through communication. Gilbert addresses how “…a lot of the advice we receive from others is bad advice that we foolishly accept…” while, “a lot of the advice we receive from others
is good advice that we foolishly reject”. People don’t know how to distinguish the good from the bad which cause them to believe what others say. Because super-replicators get transmitted frequently it causes society to make us to think this is true which then preserves social stability. If trying and trying again doesn’t always work out, then it is time to move on. Failure can be viewed as the realization to a new and better opportunity. For me, failure has guided me to something I actually enjoy doing. It has been almost three years since I the last time I played on a soccer field, the reason to that is because I quit that sport. I couldn’t handle being in a sport that I wasn’t good at. Although playing soccer was a fun experience, it just wasn’t for me. I was either on the field with the position I disliked the most or either I was a benchwarmer. The problem with me was my speed and having control over the ball. When you watch a game that’s what soccer is mostly about! I had practice daily, I tried to improve my skills that I lacked but I just couldn’t. I got frustrated up with the trying and trying which lead me to give up on that sport. But because of that failure I have gone through, it directed me to a new sport that I love. Although there has been countless of people who have gone through failures sometime during their life but didn’t stop them to continuing to try again and succeed there has been times where others have stopped trying because of a certain extent. We are led to believe that this belief is true but we often don’t realize that failure doesn’t’ always end up with having success.
It is quite evident that a combination of life experiences and heredity determine who one eventually becomes. Some people are blessed by having a good childhood and coming from a loving and nurturing home, which allows them to flourish in society; yet there are others who come from similar backgrounds are unable of functioning in society. Then there are the people who are born into a dysfunctional family or go through a traumatic experience and are simply incapable of adapting to social norms because of what they have experienced. Despite knowing that a combination of the two shape who one becomes, it is unclear whether one of them has more influence than the other.
There is a old time saying that “you will never know what true happiness feels like until you have felt pain”. In order to reach where you are going in life you have to go through hardship and pain to find your inner contentment. Often times,people who have too much in life always takes it for granted ,because all they have is pleasure and not knowing the feelings of pain and being without. Martha C. Nussbaum author of “who is the happy warrior” states that you have to go through pain to find the true meaning of happiness while Daniel M.Haybron author of “Happiness and Its Discontents” states that pain doesn 't bring happiness,happiness is just a thing you feel when you think you may have enough. To find happiness you have to go through the unbearable process of life.
“I now walk into the wild” (3). It was April 1992 a young man from a rather wealthy family hitchhiked to Alaska and walked alone into the wilderness. His name was Christopher McCandless. He gave all of his savings to a charity, abandoned his car in the desert, left all his possessions, burned his money and wallet, and invented an alter ego all to shun society. Four months after his adventure, his decomposing body was found in bus 142 by a moose hunter. Into the Wild is a riveting novel about one man’s journey to find himself and live as an individual. Although, Chris McCandless may come as an ill-prepared idiot, his reasons for leaving society are rational. He wanted to leave the conformist society and blossom into his own person, he wanted to create his own story not have his story written for him, and he wanted to be happy not the world’s form of happiness.
In Empathy, Stephen Dunn, who went to war to fight for his country. When he was on the leave from the army, he felt that it was the beginning of empathy for himself. In Too Much Happiness, Alice Munro learns about the significance of the relationship between a young mathematician named Sophia and her professor. The professor admits that one of his self-interest was for a student to challenge him completely, who is not only capable of following the rules of his own mind but to open up his mind. The interplay between empathy and self-interest is that they both effect on each other in many ways, such as, we benefit as a whole from selfless self-interest and caring for others more than we would from the survival of one at the cost of everyone else.
Thomas Szasz states in his writing that “ happiness is an imaginary condition, formerly often attributed to the living to the dead, now attributed by adults to children and children to adults.” I do not agree that happiness is an imaginary state of mind.
The unknown is commonly something that people fear, but what happens when intelligent individuals dare to uncover the facts within it? The answer to this question is that remarkable discoveries are made that change human knowledge, technology, and health forever. Possibly the most beneficial of these discoveries are the ones involving the betterment of human health. Doctors and scientists are often viewed as the most intellectual people in the world’s communities, but they are still human and therefore prone to error. However, Morton A. Meyers’s book Happy Accidents: Serendipity in Modern Medical Breakthroughs explores the various positive outcomes that arose from human error. Specifically, Meyers writes about the diverse serendipitous breakthroughs
People influenced to accept a determinist viewpoint over a free will viewpoint cheated more often than both the control groups and pro-free will groups (Vohs 50, 52). The two studies tested both inactive and active cheating by permitting participants to see answers prior to them answering the questions if they did nothing or to reward themselves with money for their score on the test regardless of whether or not they deserved the amount they took (Vohs 50, 52). In both, those who read a deterministic passage versus a neutral or free will passage took advantage of others more when given the opportunity (Vohs 50, 52). Additional research demonstrated that people influenced by deterministic beliefs felt less or no guilt for their actions when reflecting on past personal events or learning of a death their actions indirectly caused, and noted that they would not change their actions (Stillman 954, 958). In other words, the determinism group exhibited less learning from their mistakes than the control group which claimed they would act differently in the future (Stillman 954, 958). Rigoni and Brass conducted a study looking at
There are some human phenomena, which seem to be the result of individual actions and personal decisions. Yet, these phenomena are often - on closer inspection – as much a result of social factors as of psychological ones.
Today, realising that genes and environment cooperate and interact synergistically, traditional dichotomy of nature vs. nurture is commonly seen as a false dichotomy. Especially operant conditioning, i.e. the learning of the consequences of one's own behavior can lead to positive feedback loops between genetic predispositions and behavioral consequences that render the question as to cause and effect nonsensical. Positive feedback has the inherent tendency to exponentially amplify any initial small differences. For example, an at birth negligible difference between two brothers in a gene affecting IQ to a small percentage, may lead to one discovering a book the will spark his interest in reading, while the other never gets to see that book. One becomes an avid reader who loves intellectual challenges while the other never finds a real interest in books, but hangs out with his friends more often. Eventually, the reading brother may end up with highly different IQ scores in standardized tests, simply because the book loving brother has had more opportunities to train his brain. Had both brother received identical environmental input, their IQ scores would hardly differ.
Happiness is a trait that has definitely lost its true meaning due to superficial, materialistic extravagances. Society today has created an image of what happiness entails, and now there are many different ways to try to achieve that image. However, the question then becomes: is happiness, as a result of things like sex, drugs, consumption, real happiness? Is it better to feel fake happiness than to experience the drudgeries that come with living a sober life? In the novel, Brave New World, by Aldous Huxley, the whole society is built off of a precedent of fake happiness. The people take drugs to cover up their true feelings and individuality. Citizens are supposed to feel content with their lives and the society around them. In both the brave
The researchers, Timothy Judge and Daniel Cable, say that much of the problem is the result of subconscious decisions based on entrenched social
More often than not, the outcomes of events that occur in a person’s life is the product of the idea of the self-fulfilling prophecy. It is that which “occurs when a person’s expectations of an event make the outcome more likely to occur than would otherwise have been true” (Adler and Towne, Looking Out, Looking In 66). Or restated, as Henry Ford once put it, “If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you’re right!” This brief research paper touches on the two types of self-fulfilling prophecies, those that are self-imposed and those that are imposed by others. Additionally, it gives a discussion on how great of an influence it is in each person’s life, both positively and negatively, and how it consequently helps to mold one’s self-concept and ultimately one’s self.
Social learning theory links a person’s environment, behavior, and internal composition (Thompson 2013). I believe that I inherited genes that lead me to be driven and able to stay focused on a goal from my parents. That partnered with my internal desire to be the best at everything I do, as well as being raised in safe and secure environment that valued and rewarded hard work and accomplishment has led to be the person I am today. My parents gave me many positive things to model and to learn through observational learning, which is very important as a child (Thompson
1) Name and describe the two types of happiness identified by Dr. Gilbert. According to Dr. Gilbert, do most people believe that both types of happiness are equal? If no, which type of happiness do most people believe is superior?
It was discovered that genetics tend to be more of a basis of what people execute while making decisions, or living life experiences (Kandler, Bleidorn, Reimann, Angleitner, & Spinath, 2011). However, our upbringing is a component with the influences based on the individual and their learned behaviors (Kandler et al., 2011). This was investigated in a longitudinal study of 338 adult twin pairs, which analyzed and collected data about genomic and upbringing influences (Kandler et al., 2011). They looked at the reasons