Crucial Conversation Analysis

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What do we do when we face conflict? we either run away from it, or turn to violence. Conflict usually starts as a crucial conversation that was communicated poorly. Sure, we can blame our genetic makeup for our emotions as we are hardwired to come into conflict with one another. Wynne Perry of Live Science interviewed anthropology researcher, Christopher Boehm of the University of Southern California who shed light on the issue” The genes are still making us do the same old things, which include quite a bit of conflict.” However, Boehm has some good news” Culture has given us solutions at various levels”. So, what is a crucial conversation? And, how can we handle it?
Per Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Al Switzler of Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, crucial conversations are “Interactions that happen to everyone. They’re the day to day conversations that affect your life”. So, what differs them from plain …show more content…

As the book suggests, for people to have a crucial conversation, they need to feel safe, people’s opinions should also be heard and understood. Likewise, people should look at their own faults, and try to fix them. It’s not a black or white situation, if we blame one another without critically evaluating our own behavior as well as the situation, it would lead to chaos. There is an art to a crucial conversation, why is it an art? Because few people master it, however I learned important lessons from the book that will transform me from a “good conversationalist” to a master of crucial conversations. Gathering information, focusing on what matters, and avoiding the fool’s choice are steps that I will follow in my personal, and professional life to avoid devastating

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