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Deconstructing and reinventing conversation Like fire, conversations are fun, bring us together, and make food taste better. Also like fire, conversations require 3 main components to exist. You can't have a fire without air, fuel, and heat. Similarly, you can't have a conversation without Presence, Language, and Objective. In this essay, I will try to deconstruct conversation into its three major components, and then add a couple of disruptors to see how conversation takes place "out of time" and "out of place" using the internet. Fuel - > Presence. Presence is what a person brings to a conversation. Its everything from their clothes, their sex, their height, their skills, their baggage (that is known to others participating), their history, their cultural context. It colors everything they say. "Coming from you, that's a real compliment!". Presence also includes reputation, and how you are perceived by others. It includes your accolades, and in the most immediate sense, it includes how interested you are perceived to be in the topic. Finally, it includes what is at stake for the participant in the context of the topic. Again, all this has to be known by the other participants in order to be relevant. Anonymous participants also have presence, of course, it's just based solely on more superficial things like the sound of the voice, the accent, the choice of words and phrasing *combined* with the other people's experience when confronted with these things. If you don’t provide the details, the past fills them in, so really in a conversation there is always presence. This blends a bit over into language, but as anyone who is a reader knows, the "voice" always eventually betrays the... ... middle of paper ... ...the fool who plays it cool while making his world a little colder". At the opposite side of this spectrum is the empathetic participant, who is truly participating in a conversation in order to help the other person achieve their objective - or an objective in the best interest of the other. This person may, in fact (perhaps ironically) use NLP like techniques to kind of get the other to think the objective was their idea all along, such as a parent with a child, but with an altruistic motive. My sister, who excelled in her Early Childhood Education program at college, told me they are taught to use phrases like "I need you to do x" or "You are capable of x" instead of "Don't do that " or "You cant do that" with children. While somewhat manipulative, it certainly has a positive outcome, as long as the child fully trusts the parent, of course…

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