Close Relationship Analysis

The relationship I chose to do this analysis paper is the one I have with my mom. My mom and I have a very close relationship, I feel like I can tell her anything without feeling weird. There is rarely conflict between us but when it there is it’s very small and can easily be solved. We mostly have best conversations after dinner, during car rides, and days when we are both home. Our conversations I chose to document consisted of cognitive-emotional theory of esteem support messages and advice, interpersonal persuasion, and
Our conversation after dinner was started with my mom talking about wanting to lose weight but it was difficult for her. I was there to listen to her problems and spoked when she was ready for me to provide some feedback.

At that point the cognitive-emotional theory of esteem support messages comes in, which in textbook Interact by Verderber and MacGeorge on page 269 the concept is identified as the theory that support provides can help restore self-esteem and promote problem-solving by encouraging more positive reappraisals. I supported her by saying she does not look how she think she looks like to help her self-esteem. The textbook also states on page 270 that “...as a support provider, you may also want to promote useful actions by giving advice,” and that is what I did. I told her if she really wants to change to take my advice of eating more healthy and exercising. By her body language she did not seem so motivated to do what I advised. So I told I would do eat healthier too and go on walks with her. As of now, it has been going good and I have been giving her praise to keep her motivated.
During our car ride my mom brought up the conversation my entire family was having about the LGBTQA community the other night. That night I overheard what the older generation were telling and disagreeing with my cousin and I did not wanted to be involved in the conversation they were all having. Funny enough the conversation came back to me with my mom. She was telling how she does not believe gay people should be able to have children. I tried to persuade her by using verbal messages to influence her attitude that it is okay for them to have children. In the textbook on pages 293-295, persuading extensive processors include the quality of the reasoning, source credibility, and honest emotional appeals. We both went back and for using those 3. After giving my claim and reasoning, I do not think I fully changed her attitude of the situation but she did understood my beliefs and accepted them.
Our last conversation I document was during the day at home. It was just a casual conversation about different topics like what happened Puerto Rico, the party for my sister and I, Chrissy Teigen’s banana bread story, and other random things. I did notice that throughout our conversation it had similar characteristics as on page 225. Our conversation was interactive which we both took turns talking and listening. Here and there we did interrupt each other a bit. It was also extemporaneous, we both talking about things of our interest. The conversation was also locally managed with all the different topics we spoke about. It was sequentially organized at some points. For example when my mom explained what we going to do for the birthday party.
In conclusion, I believe I have a good relationship with my mom through my interpersonal communication. We both like to support each other by being there for each other whenever we need to talk. Taking advice can be simple with us since we know each other very well. Persuading each others thoughts and attitudes can not be successful at times. For the most part I feel like I have effective conversations with mom and I hope that it continues like that.