Interpersonal Skills in Carnegie's Guidebook

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Sindy Hernandez
Professor Luyt
BUSI 1200
October 21, 2014

The book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie teaches people important lessons on how to deal with people not only in a professional area but with normal social situations as well. The book starts off with describing different situations on how to deal with people. For example humans should treat people with more appreciation and not just compliment them. People like to feel appreciated and sometimes it can lead a person to want to be more successful when they realize that some notices their hard work. Another example is when someone is trying to convince another person into doing something one always should realize what the other person wants first and talk to …show more content…

The book then talks about how to get people to like you. Humans should be more genuine towards other human beings. People should realize that when making friends it takes more than just having people be interested in you, the person making friends should be interested in the other people as well. The next part talks about how to get people to think the same way as you. One should realize that when confronting an argument it would be best to avoid it but just be nice and show respect and never tell the other person they are wrong. Take their opinion into consideration and if they are wrong take care of the situation in a quick, forceful manner and let the other person do all the talking. The last part of the book talks about how to be a leader with out creating any problems. The book explains that this can be done by appreciating and praising even the slightest improvements or work in another person. Always be honest and when criticizing someone else criticize yourself first and make the fault seem easy to correct by being encouraging and make the other person happy …show more content…

But reading this book made me realize that it does not take a lot to be a successful leader. If you care about people and are a genuine person most of the steps the book describes should not be hard. In a work environment everyone wants to be successful and as a leader you should be able to recognize that in order for you yourself to be successful you should encourage other people to see what you want is best for them with out making it all about yourself. When it comes to leadership people should take responsibility and take control of what they want. The goal is not to manipulate people but to convince them in different ways to understand what is better for them and for you. As for every day social life no one likes a mean person so why wouldn’t anyone want to be genuine if it helps with meeting new people and influencing people to get what you want. Like I said earlier in the summary if you don’t pay attention to what someone else has to say when they first meet you they will not be interested in what you have to say either. It is so simple when learning someone’s name to say their name back to him or her when saying hi nice to meet you. People love to hear their name and people love to talk about them selves, so as

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