Being Popular In High School

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“Popularity Project” When I was in 3rd and 4th grade I was always so concerned with being popular, it was to the point where I would hang out with people who were bad influences. They would always swear a lot, be mean, be selfish, and be self centered. (Keep in mind that I was in 3rd grade) I would push away a lot of the people who cared about me, especially some of my old friends since preschool and it really sucked. I guess you could say this all started around 3rd grade I was so obsessed with being popular I would change every single thing about me down to my hair. I was considered the “leader” of the group, and I would make rules on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday etc. and if you broke those rules you would not be able to sit with us. From …show more content…

However I realized I didn’t need school in my life, so I pretty much gave up. Then summer came along and we decided to go to Mexico and for once I enjoyed it, I didn’t worry about what I wore or what my hair looked like I could actually enjoy it. I seemed to have forgotten what it felt like to be popular and I enjoyed it. When school started back in the fall for 4th grade I was separated from my group of “friends” and being the mean person I was I didn’t have a lot of friends, so I was hated and I deserved it I also hated myself too. Having no friends because of who I was made me want to change, I wanted to start over I wanted everyone to forgive me. I started by apologizing to everyone I hurt, especially to the person who I disappointed the most my mother. Then to all the people whom I spoke rudely of. It took a really long time for people to forgive and trust me again, but slowly I gained that trust back and then when that was all over I started getting my grades up. But the person that I wanted to forgive me the most was myself, but I couldn’t I put so much people in pain. Around 5th grade I gained everyone's trust back and I was also the most loved person, everyone could depend on me and trust me and I was

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