Spanking is not child abuse because it does not result in long term or permanent injuries, it does not happen to all ages of children, and the purpose is not to hurt the child out of personal frustration. Most importantly, the outcome does not leave the child feeling fearful, confused, or distrustful towards the parent or guardian. The term spanking is an act of slapping, on the bottom as a punishment for young children. Spanking fails to meet the criteria of physical child abuse because abuse is provoked by an emotional rag from an adult. Whereas spanking is one of the most commonly used methods to reduce undesirable behavior (Roberts 2002) and is performed with a calm and reasonable matter. By comparing essential components, reasoning’s …show more content…
When an adult performs abusive behavior towards a child, they are doing it out of their own impulsiveness, personal frustration. Whether the child is provoking the parent by acting up and the parent beats them because they cannot control their own aggression, or the parent just had a bad day at work and take it out on a child physically for no reason at all. Any time a child is hit without the intention to correct a behavior or to teach discipline it is considered abuse. Spanking does have good intentions because it is to teach discipline with a positive outcome and is done so while the parent is calm and rational for the child to fully understand their wrong doing. The root word of discipline is disciplinare, which means to teach or instruct. Therefore, it means to the system of teaching and nurturing that prepares children to achieve competence, self-control, and caring for others.(Roberts 2002) For example, a child is throwing food in the grocery store and has already been asked to stop. The parent should not scream and snatch the child up by their shirt, but they should get down on knee level and tell the child that their actions are not acceptable and once grocery shopping is finished they will receive a spanking in the car. Before the spanking happens it is important to remind the child why they are about to get a smack on the butt so they fully understand why their …show more content…
My mother was a firm believer in spanking and it became child abuse at times. I remember being taken into public bathrooms to have my butt smacked when I was acting up, which is understandable. However, I do not agree with how I was punched in the jaw when I was sixteen for having my boyfriend over the house when my mom was not home. Going to school the next day with a swollen jaw created tension with the administrators. Later that month my mother was assigned by a judge to take anger management classes. The difference between getting physically abused and being appropriately punished are very different, not just physically but emotionally too. Falling to the ground after a hit made me feel completely powerless and out of control of my own body, and that is being a teenager. I could not imagine the effect it would have on a small child. After my mother attended anger management things started to change. I no longer was scared for my wellbeing but then again I never had boys come to my house when she was not home again. Parents normally discipline their children the way they were disciplined by their parents. Roberts states that cultural, religious, and personal views have a lot to do on how you discipline your children.(2002) An example is the Chinese culture and how strict their parents are. A lot of my friends that come from Asian backgrounds are very respectful towards their elders. Chinese immigrant mothers
The doings generally take place by the parent. Hitting a child or anyone with an object is always considered physical abuse. Adrian Peterson does not reflect himself as a child abuser but, hitting a toddler with an object tells others otherwise. “The football star said he disciplined his son the way he was disciplined by his own parents, and credited his success to the style of upbringing.” (Alter, 2014). As an individual, people tend to think this method worked and helped for them, but that does not mean it will work also for their child. A 4-year-old child know right from wrong. When it comes to chastisement, they should not be beaten to where marks, scratches and bruises are visible. SHARPLES TIFFANY
Proponents of spanking bans have a tendency to label spanking as corporal punishment. They then categorize it along with many abusive activities. Psychologist Kerby Alvy explains corporal punishment as, “pinching, pulling ears and hair, shaking, slapping, smacking, spanking, swatting, hitting, kicking, punching, paddling, using switches, hair brushes, belts and ironing cords, and having children kneel on gravel or ...
Generally speaking there Is a difference between spanking aka discipline and child abuse. If a child is told after every mistake what was wrong and why they're being punished it does not damage their mental health. The child will no longer look at their parents with the eyes of distrust. Comparatively spanking is not a positive action so it will not held positive results unless it is accompanied by an explanation as to why one was punished. In fact ,I have four siblings, the eldest boy was spanked for his actions. He ended up being engaged in dishonest activities, and has anger issues. Whereas the youngest boy was barley spanked and he never was involved in any crimes and similarly has a very calm demeanor. Also spanking is just one action
Spanking, a fictitious form of child abuse, is an appropriate action toward unruly children. It is a popular practice used to instill discipline and values in children, and is more effective than talking to or yelling at the child or placing the child in “time out” sessions. In the long run, spanking causes no damage to the child’s mental or physical health. Instead, it creates a basis for good behavior.
Many authorities and psychologists believe that spanking breaks a child's spirit and only leads to violence. They think that it causes the child to become depressed, angry or hostile and they have conducted many studies to prove these things. This type of harsh punishment occurs often, but it is called child abuse. There is a great difference between abusing a child and properly disciplining a child. "One is an act of love; the other is an act of hostility, and they are as different as night and day" (Dobson 35).
...their child while obviously angered, that emotion is likely to be very noticeable to the child. Unfortunately, that anger is all too likely to become attached to the punishment, resulting in the unwanted link of: mad parent = pain. A serene, calm parent is very much less likely to turn out to be an active part of the negative memory. Obviously, this is completely up to the judgment of the parent, but I have a tendency to concur that not only is spanking less likely to be abused if lightly applied, but also it maintains a better influence when it is applied. I would declare only when there clearly doesn't seem to be any other way of getting through to the child. Spanking is unquestionably not the only effective punishment, and perhaps not even the best, nevertheless I consider it to be effective, when applied carefully, in relation with other teaching mechanisms.
Many have debated whether or not spanking is child abuse. Some believe spanking is not child abuse. Others feel that spanking is child abuse. However, spanking is child abuse because it teaches the child to not respect others, it teaches the child to be afraid, and the use of physical force (even minor) is not justified under any circumstances. The first reason why spanking is child abuse is because it teaches the child to not have/show respect towards others, according to a mother’s point of view in the article
When I was a child, I could not remember a time when my parents spanked me. I asked my mom how she and my dad disciplined my three brothers and I, and she said she never spanked us. When we got into trouble we were sent to our room, and had privileges taken away. My mom also said that she can remember spanking my younger brother once, but left a bruise on his bottom, and she felt so bad that she never did it again.
"Spanking doesn 't work, and it just makes kids mistrustful and aggressive. What we 're teaching them is fear rather than responsibility and problem-solving." said Kimberly Sirl, a clinical psychologist at St. Louis Children 's Hospital (Blythe). This is important because parents need to understand spanking doesn 't work and it results that the child becomes aggressive and mistrustful. Parents are trying to teach their child a lesson but instead making them fearful. Children will be aggressive and think violence is the answer to everything. The point of spanking is to teach the child what they did was wrong but kids don 't get that message when they get physically abused. It teaches them the wrong lesson and they think that it 's okay to spank kids so when they get older they will probably do the same thing. Corporal punishment of a child by a caregiver is legal in every state, but it crosses the line to abuse when a child is injured. Doctors and teachers are required to report to authorities any marks, bruises, cuts or other injuries inflicted on a child (Blythe). Anyone who is a caregiver of a child is legally allowed to hit the child. It only becomes an issue or problem when the child is left with bruises, marks, and injuries. If a doctor or teacher were to see any type of bruise on the child they are required to report it. There is spanking a
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When I was growing up spanking was not considered child abuse because most parents or guardians did it when the child acted out. In today’s society spanking can be a form of child abuse and the child’s parents or guardians could potentially face consequences for their actions. I personally think some people take the definition of child abuse extremely far. I read an opinion article that they want to define child abuse as getting your daughters ears pierced before reaching the age of 3. They stated that as a parent or guardian you are putting pain in the babies’ ear and they cannot make their own decision, which should be considered child
Some people believe spanking a child is child abuse, and that it causes the child to grow up aggressive and violent. This would mean that every child that is spanked during their developmental stages will grow up to be an example of bad behavior. However, there is no actual data or information that can confirm that spanking a child will cause a child to grow up to be violent or too aggressive. Children have been trained to obey rules or a set code of behavior for centuries. It is the best way to mold a child into a respectable adult, and they can pass on the behavior to their future children.
As children grow up, they’re more than likely exposed to being disciplined in one way or another. “Surveys of parents show that 90 percent have used some form of physical punishment on their children” (Graziano 1). So therefore, we can all agree that when it comes down to being punished, parents more often than not resort to spanking their child(ren). That being said, many parents will readily agree that spanking a child should not be considered a form of child abuse. However, the question still stands: how far does the spanking have to go in order for it to be considered child abuse? Although some are convinced that there are better ways to discipline a child, there are others that maintain the idea that spanking is the best option for disciplinary action.
Secondly, physical abuse is purposely causing physical harm or injuries to a child. Being physically abused includes being hit, kicked, or shaken. Parents who are abusive to their children often claim that their abuse is a form of discipline. There is a significant difference in abusing your child and trying to show them discipline. The whole point of using discipline is to show a child right from wrong. It becomes physical abuse instead of discipline when your...
First of all parents feel that the children are theirs, and they can spank them when they misbehave. There are many factors that lead to physical punishment: parents were to young and not ready for children, parents are going trough a divorce and need to take out their anger on something or someone, or parents do not know another way to punish their children. These children grow up to be aggressive and often abusive towards others. Although parents think this is the only way of educating their children there are many other alternatives.