Why Is Spanking Justified

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Many have debated whether or not spanking is child abuse. Some believe spanking is not child abuse. Others feel that spanking is child abuse. However, spanking is child abuse because it teaches the child to not respect others, it teaches the child to be afraid, and the use of physical force (even minor) is not justified under any circumstances. The first reason why spanking is child abuse is because it teaches the child to not have/show respect towards others, according to a mother’s point of view in the article Yelling Spanking Don’t Help, she states, “We are our children’s models. If we want our children to respect other people we have to show respect for them. We must demonstrate the behavior we want them to imitate.” Also another mother from the same article says, “Too often in anger, people use tactics they would never want their child to copy.” Spanking, is showing the child to be disrespectful and that if their mom and dad do it, it is okay for him/her to do it too. …show more content…

It only taught me to be afraid when a hand got raised or when somebody’s voice got loud because usually when I got spanked it was when someone was yelling.” (Yelling, Spanking Don’t Help). In addition the mother keeps saying, “ It didn’t help me behave, and I honestly don’t think it would help Dalton ( her 33 month old son). Talking to him seems to work better.” (Yelling, Spanking Don’t Help). Talking to a child instead of spanking them does not teach them to be afraid. It teaches the child to that their parents will not hurt him/her and it also teaches them what is the right way to deal with a

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