Many people disagree with others on many topics. Some debates get verbally aggressive. When this happens other people outside of the debates will try to explain that it is not worth being mean if you and another person don't agree. We all disagree at certain times. But when others try to remind people in debates to be nice, the people will most likely retaliate. Therefore it is good to self-monitor. If we don't people get offended, discouraged, and often times mad. When people get offended they retaliate. This makes the arguments go from just a small argument over a disagreement to a huge ordeal. From here people start yelling, and getting aggressive. When online people start logging off, deleting accounts and just overall avoiding social media. When this happens between coworkers, family or friends, time around each other could be made odd and uncomfortable. Making the idea of self-monitoring even better. …show more content…
When we get into arguments we can say some pretty hurtful things. These things can lead to discouragement. But if we self monitored our selfs we would know not to say the hurtful things. And yes you're probably thinking we already know not to say the hurtful things even though we say them anyway. I guess what I'm trying to say is if we watched what we said the hurtful things would not leave our mind. Keeping others from discouragement and if you think about it if we don't discourage others they most likely won't discourage us. Especially if we all self-monitor.Getting upset or mad is just as easy to do as getting discouraged. Because we all think that our opinions are correct we all want everyone else self-monitored anyway and when others don't believe in what we do, we get mad. We all have a reason for believing in what we believe self-monitoring. But our reasons don't always make sense to the people we are surrounded by. That is self-monitoring comes
Aggression is any behavior that results in physical or emotional injury to a person or animal, or one that leads to property damage or destruction. Kostenik,et. al, (2014) identified that aggression can either be physical or verbal. Aggression is a behavior characterized by verbal or physical attack, yet it may be appropriate and self-protective or destructive and violent (Perry, 2007). Further, aggression is a spontaneous, impulsive act of anger. It is observable behavior which can depreciate, threaten, or hurt a person or destroy an object. It is unplanned and usually occurs during times of stress (Long and Brendtro, cited by Zirpoli, 2014). Aggression is viewed as a loss of self-control or an impulse break-through. Aggressive
The idea that we need to send ourselves a message, a warning, in essence, is
Although people say many things out of realization that those words could harm others everyone should always be careful in what he/she says because someone else could misunderstand and commit a crime. Many of mankind cannot stand things people say and end up doing things which do not have good outcomes. Some people’s anger or hate may make them hurt another emotionally or physically. Stating an idea without an explanation may be misunderstood by someone else and thought of in a different matter. Foolish human beings like Napoleon get their friends against others when someone does something that does not make him/her happy. There are many people out there, like for example teenagers, get into fights becau...
It is a very different motivation from what psychologists are used to dealing with but, as we shall see, nonetheless powerful” (p. 3). A few different factors determine the amount of dissonance individuals experience, including the degree to which one’s belief systems deviate from the regularity. Different cognitions, or types of knowledge, determine the overall strength of dissonance, for instance cognitions, which are connected to personal beliefs and the self, tend to result in stronger dissonance. Furthermore, the relation between dissonance and consonance could also play a role in the degree of strength of dissonance: the greater the dissonance, the more pressure there is to reduce it and reach consonance. When cognitive dissonance occurs, it often results in a conflict between a “person’s two beliefs or a belief and an action” (Festinger 1957, p.), and it is influential to individuals’ actions and behaviors. When a conflict arises, there are different steps individuals take to reduce the consequent dissonance. Festinger suggest three key strategies to minimize cognitive dissonance: (i) changing a behavioral cognitive element, or the focus is put on more supportive cognitive elements that outweigh the dissonant behavior; (ii) changing the environmental cognitive element, or the importance of the conflicting belief is reduced, and (iii) adding new cognitive elements, or the conflicting belief is changed in order to be consistent with other
Assertiveness is the ability to formulate and communicate one's own thoughts, opinions and wishes in a clear, direct and non-aggressive way. People who are assertive are often competitive and their behavior is goal directed. Though they play to win they also retain fairness and act in accordance with the rights of others.
Since the beginning of social psychology, psychologist has been trying to analyze how people’s thoughts, feelings, and behavior are impacted by aggression. When an aggressive person gets frustrated or upset, social psychologist tracks down what exactly drives them to commit crimes, atrocities, or even abuse. According to Kassin, Fein, and Markus, aggression is “behavior intended to harm another individual” (2016). Individuals who attain this trait don’t always have to physically abuse someone, aggressive attacks could be verbal, emotional, or mental as well. Although many might argue that people who are viewed as aggressive tend to harm another person because that is their only cure, however, there are alternative motives that drive aggression,
To begin with, Scope’s “Is Technology Killing Our Friendships?” By Lauren Tarshis states that “If we are constantly checking in with our virtual worlds, this leaves little time for our real-world relationships...” People think that they are constantly connecting with others on social media when in fact they are doing the opposite. Checking phones constantly only proceeds to dim the real world. People who are always
Experiencing incivility in today’s society is a relatively common occurrence. When faced with it, most people tend to try to just shrug it off, not taking too much offense to it, and definitely not confronting the problem. Although this may not seem like too much of an issue, studies have shown that incivility causes a variety of individual, social, and organizational problems.
A high school student cried as she recounted being tormented in middle school by her classmates. For some reason she was targeted as a “dog,” and day after day she had to walk the halls with kids barking at her. How did it stop? The girl said she stopped it. But how? She picked out another girl, someone worse off than herself, and started to call her dog. Then the others forgot about her. Then they barked at the other girl instead. Girls may be made of sugar and spice and everything nice, but on the inside, they are just plain mean. “Girls tease, insult, threaten, gossip maliciously, and play cruel games with their friends’ feelings and set up exclusive cliques and hierarchies in high schools.” (Omaha World Herald, 10A).
reasons are just excuses for people's fear of failure, fear of lost security. and need for pressure. & nbsp; Back in high school, I had a friend, Eric, who dropped out of school. because of bad grades. As his friend, I knew he was doing fine until the period. of the final exams.
Before understanding how to deal with conflict, one must understand what conflict is. Conflict can be defined as, “any situation in which incompatible goals, cognitions, or emotions within or between individuals or groups lead to opposition or antagonistic interaction” (Learning Team Toolkit, 2004, pp 242-243). Does the idea of conflict always have to carry a negative connotation? The growth and development of society would be a great deal slower if people never challenged each other’s ideas. The Learning Team Toolkit discusses three different views of conflict: traditiona...
...nhance one's self esteem. This motivation protects people from depression but in turn contributes to misjudgment and group conflict. It also causes one to live in such a "dream world."
The development of technology has led up to different ways of social interaction with one another. The launch of the computer was a huge impact in American history. It wasn’t only the computer that launched but also the Internet. Which brought different ways that people could interact with one another though Email and social networks (Lutfala). Some of the more popular social networks used are twitter and Facebook. People may become addicted to tweeting and posting up a tweet or status, this may become a priority to some people. These network accounts allow people to interact with friends and family from all over the world whenever they want with no cost, however people are so addicted to these social network they forget the way people are supposed to interact and that’s by talking in person. Online, children and teenagers can have hundreds of “friends” without having to leave their home or open their mouths. Although is may seem easier for people to send a quick text, email or instant message it destroys the meaning of being able to interact with our friends and family and actually get to see each other face to face.
Conflict is unavoidable and connected to a world where different ideas and opinions are challenged. Negative conflict occurs when voices are not expressed appropriately, discussions are not in control or different parties reject moving forward with a solution. There is difficulty resolving disagreements because there are multiple reactions to disputes. However, a positive conflict supports debates without a destructive outcome. They improve communication, introduce principles that are important to others, and reduce chaos. On the other hand, the approach that a person uses to address conflict dictates the outcome they receive. Methods for resolving conflict include avoiding the problem, smoothing out a situation, competing against the ideas
...ending much time on social networking sites affects people’s work and study, and people will become more and more isolated from their friends in real life. Moreover, it is difficult to protect users’ privacy on social networking sites, so it may result in the risk of revealing person details.