Whats Wrong with Adultery

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Adultery is a horrible sin to commit, but it can actually be avoided, although many people in today's society respond differently based on their religion and culture. When a person commits adultery they fail in keeping his/her commitment to their partner. When adultery happens the trust is broken in the relationship and the other person will feel deceived and betrayed.

When a man and a woman come together and bind in holy matrimony, two people become one. In marriage, two people come before the pastor and under God with their partner, to recite promises that are vows. In many religions such as Christianity and Catholicism, sex should be for left only for marriage. Sex is an emotional experience that is for married people to enjoy sexual pleasure together. Love and trust are sacred for the foundation of marriage.

In order to understand adultery we must understand what it is and how does it start. Adultery-is the breaking of marriage. In the Ten Commandments the seventh commandment states “Thou shall not commit adultery”. Marriage and adultery are choices to be put into consideration before putting it into action. Adultery isn’t always about sex. Adultery in general can be looking at someone with a lustful eye. Usually in a marriage when a partners needs aren’t met they look for someone else outside of the marriage who can meet up to their expectations. It all starts with un-met needs such as money, lack of intimacy or none at all. Women are emotional beings who they are likely to with cheat once they find a man who is on the same emotional level with them. Men are likely to cheat if they feel unappreciated and not valued by their wife.

In some cultures adultery is not viewed as a s...

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...roclaiming their love and faithfulness towards each other. When you commit your body and soul in your marriage your lifestyle will be stable and secure for your children to grow up in. Parents are role models for their children. As children grow up they will model the same behavior from their parents when they are adults.

Morality is doing what is right in making decisions and not mistakes. Adultery is a choice that is made followed by an action. Adultery can be avoided by thinking in a rational way instead of acting on one’s feelings. Adultery is never the answer for fixing an relationship, but instead it destroys the trust that your spouse has in you. If your not happy with the person your with you should leave your spouse instead of cheating. If you cheat this will make your spouse unlikely to trust you ever again because they will never forget what you did.

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