Too Much Praise Is Good For Children

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Oprah Winfrey once said “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate”. Over generations the amount of praise we give children has gone up and that is not a good thing. When praise increases, kids start believing more actions are admired. Although people think praise is a good way to motivate kids, praise causes children to be less resilient and narcissistic.
Praise leads to less resilient children. Carol Dweck Ph.D. stated “‘Too Much Praise is No Good for Toddlers’ After studying children’s coping and resilience mechanisms for over 40 years, she says too much praise may lead to less resilient children”(Diller Ph.D). When kids get to much praise they do not realize that they will need to work hard …show more content…

“A new study from The Ohio State University suggests that constant- and perhaps undue- praise for our kids’ tiniest accomplishments, or non-accomplishments, may have unintended side-effect of creating an over-inflated ego” (Walton). Studies have shown that excessive praise makes kids have an “over-inflated ego”. To continue, according to the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences USA people who were given a lack of praise did not have any of these narcissistic characteristics (Alfano). To continue, the good intentions of parents and teachers could be leading kids to having some of the most annoying characteristics. Furthermore, applauding everything that children do teaches them that “mere existence” is enough, this causes kids to be entitled and narcissistic not confident and self-reliant (Pocock). Society has decided that children need to be coddled, they have decided that kids need to be protected from the reality that they are probably not the beast at what they are trying to do, this causes many children to become obsessed with themselves and the idea that they are “special”. Giving kids to much praise can make them become …show more content…

Overindulgent praise can make less resilient praise. Additionally, praise can cause kids to become narcissistic and self absorbed. If we were more careful about how we praise children than it would be easier for them to become self motivators. Overall, this would help them in school and their future.

Works Cited
Alfano, Andrea. “Too Much Praise Promotes Narcissism.” Scientific American, 1 June 2015, www.scientificamerican.com/article/too-much-praise-promotes-narcissism/.
Belau, Katherine, et al. “Participation Trophies - ‘Special’ or ‘Harmful.’” Character and Leadership, 11 July 2017, www.characterandleadership.com/participation-trophies-special-or-harmful/.
“Do We All Deserve Gold? Setting Kids Up To Fail.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/face-it/201111/do-we-all-deserve-gold-setting-kids-fail.
“Do We All Deserve Gold? Setting Kids Up To Fail.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/face-it/201111/do-we-all-deserve-gold-setting-kids-fail.
Morin, Amanda. “The Power of Praise.” Understood.org,

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