Tom Fields-Meyer Life Sparknotes

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Nicole Tschida EDU 321 A 10-30-17 Following Ezra Following Ezra is about the journey that a father takes to understand the unique world in which his son lives and about the trials of being a parent. Tom Fields-Meyer tells the personal story of a parent of a child with autism. The start of Tom’s journey takes place in the summer of 1999 on the foothills bordering Simi Valley, California. His wife Shawn had just finished her degree in rabbinical studies and has been ordained a Jewish rabbi. Tom and his wife have three sons: Ami, age five, Ezra, age three, and Noam who is eighteen months old. The story follows a father searching for the right doctors and specialists, in his attempt to “fix” his son. Through his journey, he discovers how to …show more content…

Ezra would run away or chase something that caught his attention. He seemed to not be listening when people were speaking to him or giving him instructions. One such incident is when Tom took his son to get his haircut and it resulted in a violent standoff between Ezra and the barber (pg. 34). Another strange behavior ezra exhibited was his constant fear of the things, there were times when he refused to go into a room because something frightened him (pg. 39). It was not just Ezra’s fear of the world that made it a challenge to parent him, he was also unable to understand the difference between having thoughts and saying them out loud. There was one particularly embarrassing incident that Tom recalls where his son, at the age of 7, asked Charlie (a neighbor) repeatedly why he was fat (pgs. 57-58). Despite these moments of embarrassment the hardest thing that Tom and his wife had to struggle with was the inability to connect with their own son. Ezra was often lost in thought in his own little world. Although it was difficult to make a connection with their son, Ezra’s parents did begin to make those connections through his interests and obsessions. Learning how to connect with their son in a new and unique way was a challenge for Tom and his wife but through constant perseverance, they were able to establish that connection. Being the parent of Ezra is certainly not easy. It has its own unique challenges and struggles, but Tom will never regret having his son or be heartbroken he didn’t turn out to be like other typical children of his age. Over the years Tom learned how to focus on what is important, which is to love his son unconditionally and follow his

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