Stop and ask yourself how many times have you missed out on family things, and or plans with friends? Chances are that number is very high. Busyness is becoming very common in many people’s lives, whether that means school, work, extracurricular activities, sports, and much more. But are we all really too busy to do what we want, or is that just an excuse? For example according to the A.C. Nielsen Co., the average American watches up to 28 hours a week of television (Norman Herr). That’s almost a part time job, managing your time accordingly could be all that is needed for a perfect gateway to more time spent with family, friends, or doing things you enjoy. In Tim Kreider’s essay, “The Busy Trap” he notably argues that busyness is taking over …show more content…
many individual’s lives, not allowing them to engage in things that really matter such as family or friends. As stated above, Kreider believes that everyone is busy nowadays, and have no time for one another.
However, he explains that we aren’t actually busy because we have no choice, we are busy because we choose to be. He states, “They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence” (Kreider 982). People tend to become busy to do things they have inflicted on to themselves. Everyone has an ambition or drive to do something that they feel is important, and some choose not to give up their time to do something unless it is beneficial to them or that thing. Kreider goes on to explain that even children have become busy, having scheduled things back to back, getting no chance to actually be a kid. Busyness has started to become glorified, where it even makes people feel good to tell others that they are busy. However, Kreider states, “The present hysteria is not necessary or inventible condition of life; it’s something we’ve chosen” (938). Meaning that even though we may be busy, we have most likely chosen to be. If we don’t like the busyness that we encounter in life, we can always drop or change that. Ultimately it is our choice and we have chosen to do what we do in life, nothing is set in stone, and there is always room for change. Additionally as a writer he talks about how hard it was for him to write when he was busy, eventually he decided to take matters into his own hands …show more content…
and flee, leaving him plenty of open time. He realized that having extra time helped him become a better writer. He explains that it was hard for him to find anything to say about life without immersing himself into it. In order to fully understand life and to enjoy it one's self needs to actually be involved and gain life experiences. Even though he was once very busy, and even with now not being busy he mentions that, "I've always understood that the best investment of my limited time on this earth would be to spend it with the ones I love" (Kreider 984). Furthermore everyone has a certain control over their life, and it is what you make it. It is important to spend time with your loved ones because everyone's time on this Earth is limited an no one lives forever. In addition to the busyness we face as humans, I feel it is so important to spend time with friends and families, and doing things we enjoy.
I feel that Tim Kreider made it very easy for any reader to really put themselves into the writing. I realized as I read it I was able to think of moments in my own life, and how I often say I am busy with work or school, and that I don’t have time for this or that. But in reality I do have time, I just choose to do other stuff with that time, and call myself busy. However, I feel society has put into people's heads that we need certain things in order to be successful in societal views. For example the highest paying job, the highest school degree, the best house or car, etc. With this in mind I feel like people have lost the true meaning of life. In addition Kreider says how being busy is usually because of our own ambition, and I truly feel that is true. Life is no longer how it once was; just hanging out with friends and family, or having a nice dinner with no phones or electronics. It’s now working with over packed schedules to achieve what society has implemented to us. In Laura McClellan's article, The Ability to Multitask Isn't All It's Cracked Up to Be, she points out that, "Overstuffed schedules and overlong to-do lists mean many people live those "lives of quiet desperation" where at any given time we are trying to do several things at once". With so much to do and such little time, people become desperate and try to multiple
things at once. However though, if we just didn’t choose to have over stuff schedules, and actually let ourselves breath and have free time, things that need to be done wouldn’t feel like such a hassle. Tim made it become very personal to me because he talks about how on his death bed he might wish for one more special moment with someone special to him. I personally had one of my best friend pass away, and it taught me a lot about time, and just how limited it really is. Life truly is too short, and all people remember of us when we pass is memories, so it is very important to spend your time wisely. In conclusion Kreider wrote a very relatable article, and I think anyone can agree that moments with loved ones are the most valuable moments we live. Although being busy may make you feel important, it is not worth missing out on life. Our time is too precious to be wasted on being “busy”.
Many Bible loving people might be offended because “be fruitful” was written in Genesis prior to “the fall” of Adam, meaning that people believe that God created work for enjoyment but it was “the fall” of our first parents that caused the want for food and basic necessities. The entire argument should be removed in consciousness of the audience. I would have liked for Kreider to recognize that some people feel at their best when they are productive and busy and to note that the tug-o-war between what wants or needs may actually not be a tug-o-war for all people. Busy people squeeze in time to laugh amidst activity or nature walks during lunch or a time to create after dinner that is equally refreshing for them as well as the luxury that he had to write at an “Undisclosed Location.” People fill their life with the want to give back by volunteering or giving of themselves in some type of compacity, which can be more rewarding than “idleness.” Even the overscheduled children Kreider spoke of could be volunteering while learning critical life skills, making them less likely to engage in at-risk behaviors and live a balanced
Do we really need time for ourselves? Many people all over the world question themselves if they need a break from work, daily activities, stress, and school. Mark Bittman had the same problem. He quotes in his essay to professor David Levy claiming that we need time to think, reflect, and to be successful. Mark Bittman strongly agrees with the idea that we need time to do these things because we need to relieve our souls from what might be hurting them. Mark Bittman also feels the need to “disconnect” and persistently use religious/spiritual metaphors because technology has taken every single free time that we have. It is not strange that we use our phones before going to bed, while we are eating or even while
Many people love their jobs and the salary that comes with it, but is it worth the time of not seeing your family? Time management and balancing work life with your personal life, along with little to no stress should be improved today. The reading “Beat the Clock: Time Management Training Can Improve Productivity and Morale by Helping Employees Balance Work and Family” by Kathryn Tyler authored this article for people who struggle with time management, like their employees said in the text. This article is primarily about people and employees improving their skills in time management and productivity to balance their time and lives. Employers noticed that their employees are stressed on their workload so to fix this problem, they made a program
In order to make these appeals to pathos, he presents laziness as a solution to some of man’s greatest desires. As a society, one of our major problems is happiness. Many people live their lives as sad drones stumbling through whatever life throws at them. Morley promises happiness to the “thoroughly and philosophically slothful.” He also assures the reader that the lazy man does not have the responsibilities of “the bustling man.” In more recent times stress has become a major problem for America; people adopt pills, books, candles, and even whole lifestyle changes trying to find a solution to the stress. Morley presents a resolution. One of man’s greatest desires is to be liked and respected. Morley comes out and says it very bluntly, “People respect laziness” (Morley 65). He later states that if one stays lazy through and through, that people will let you be. Too many times people have the tendency to get involved in others. When one presents themselves as a lazy man, the intruders will pass by and allow one to continue
Time allocation, or time management, is a trait that everyone is capable of. However, there are people who tend to manage their time better than others. People often find themselves wasting time on unimportant activities. The time wasted can depend on the type of person they are, though. Say there is a successful businessman. That man is less likely to waste his time doing something unimportant than a teenager who doesn’t have their priorities straight. In the story, ‘Contents of the Dead Man’s Pocket”, Tom Benecke struggles with balancing the time spent on his work and time spent with his wife. In our generation, technology is all around us. Whether it be phones, computers, or video games, people are wasting away their lives doing activities
Henry David Thoreau argues that when people are thinking too much and focus on details, “our life is frittered away by detail.” (p.276) People keep working in the bustling world, and forget the beauty of nature and our world. Thoreau also says “As for work, we haven’t any of any consequence”(p.277), what he means is that people are working meaninglessly, they are
Is there ever a point where you can be too busy? In Barbara Ehrenreich’s essay The Cult of Busyness, she writes around her experiences she has with an acquaintance of hers that was busy from sun up to sun down. Throughout the essay, Barbara tends to have a sarcastic, this is evidenced when she says, “... and whose schedule doesn’t allow for a sexual encounter lasting more than 12 minutes.” As I read this essay I found that I could connect a bunch of what she was saying to my life and the world we live in today.
Life is a struggle, a tug of war with merciful opposing sides. An untold amount of people tear apart at the seams because the tension is too much. The rest of people has different versions of the same problem. People try to juggle work and family but find themselves in a state of confusion where priorities become blur. Is getting a high salary is more important than having dinner with family? The answer to that varies among all of us. To Mitch, the paycheck and the luxury that he brings was clearly more important than his family. But, Morrie made him realize one thing; the baffle that comes with the tension of opposites always end with the victory of
Kreider has made some bold conclusions or outcomes with little evidence to support other than his opinion. I think he is stereotyping groups of people and sharing his opinion of their definition of busy and others who read this article may feel the same way. A example of him committing this fallacy is when he he says “Even children are busy now, scheduled down to the half-hour with classes and extra-curricular activities. They come home at the end of the day as tired as grown ups” (Krieder, 983). This commits the hasty generalization fallacy because thats his point of view and only his. Also, what he said about the children being busy all the time makes me wonder where is he getting that information from and why doesn’t he provide any outside information supporting what he said. An opportunity could be to change some of the words on his opinion to ensure that it is allowing others to think about this population who think they are too busy and allow the reader to think about his own life to determine if they are victim to this scenario. I don’t think it allows others to think about it when it reads as if Kreider is an experts and what he is saying is the
This essay discusses on Morrie explaining to Mitch that people live today senseless lives, he explained to Mitch stating, “So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning" (Albom 43). This quotation from Morrie is a significant one. Morrie grasps what purpose means in humanity’s existence. Mitch’s perception of happiness was conflicting from Morrie’s. Morrie felt content when he was eating, dancing tango, and spending time with his family and friends. Mitch lets his job dominate his life. He
In a world that is all about how fast you can get things and how well you do it, time is essential, but is getting that work done more important than taking time spend with loved ones or showing that you care? That is a question I kept asking myself during this period. We live in a selfish world where sometimes we are taught to put our needs in front of others and there is no such thing as being “too busy”. A phrase that I say constantly, as well as many others is: “I don’t have the time for…” or “Sorry, I can’t. I’m too busy”. People are not willing to take time out of their schedules to be there for others and showing that you care. One of the first things I started doing was making more time for my loved ones and almost automatically, I started noticing that the relationships were getting stronger. When I took the time and effort to show someone that I care about them, even in just the little things like sitting down for a few minutes and talking about their day, it helped make the relationship stronger. No one should
I think that what the author was trying to imply in this passage was that in his personal experience, he has noticed that many people take many things for granted and that they don’t live their lives according to what they want and need to do. So much is wasted during one’s lifetime, and people just allow their lives to pass them by.
In today's fast paced world often times we don’t realize how we go through life at full speed never slowing down to just stop and take a breath. Always trying to get to the next appointment, teachers meeting, and get togethers with friends and family; time is fleeting. For the people out there that have no problem with organizing their life I applaud you. Being able to manage everything without missing a beat is something I wish I was accomplished at. But my outside obligations to work, and family are constantly getting in the way of my schooling.
This can be applied in life today, as when people have a “mid life crisis” and buy a sports car or a fancy house or a new exciting hobby. “Today is the sort of day where the sun comes up to humiliate you”(Palahniuk). They are ashamed of their jobs and lives and need to do something to escape from there boring monotonous
To simply everything- life is becoming complicated, and more demanding. We are over loaded with news, different information and a lot buying things. We are taking more commitments, tasks and obligations. However, less is truly more. I will schedule my time on only important