After much consideration and since this class has brought up so many subjects that I have never really thought about, especially at this level, the long term goal that I would like to achieve, which would have a huge impact on my life as a whole, is my shyness. Shyness is something that causes fears and anxieties in a lot of people. Overcoming this obstacle will have a great impact on a lot of areas in my life. There are a lot of people that suffer from social anxiety and fear of public speaking with most of the anxiety and fear being linked back to the person just being shy and not outgoing.
Since I was a child I have always been the one that sat back and waited for everyone else to go first. I was always the quiet reserved child especially at school and sport functions. In my life-time, I’ve noticed that a lot of people perceive shy people as being stuck up or rude and I want to change that perception. I have struggled with many things in my life due to my lack of being able to put myself out there and assert myself.
Below are some steps that I feel will help me to ultimately overcome my shyness and social anxiety. I recently joined the young professionals group at work to help put myself out there and force me to meet and mingle with new people. This group is formed mainly of the younger individuals within our company to network and get to know each other and how other parts of the company work. Putting myself out there to meet new people helps me come out of my shell and forces social interactions that I normally would not put myself in.
Another step I am taking in helping me to overcome my shyness is educating myself on the subject and learning that most of the issues I have with asserting myself are mental, it i...
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When finally overcoming my shyness, I feel this will be very beneficial for the rest of my life. Having more positive self-esteem that will come with this will also help me feel better about myself and that will show in every aspect of my life as well. People can tell when you are uncomfortable or unsure of yourself and that is something that I do not want people to think about when they meet me. This should also help open more career opportunities for me as well. Being about to show people that I have the confidence in myself will also benefit my working environment. Lastly, overcoming this fear of mine will help me build stronger and better relationships with people. I will not be so afraid of what others will think of me and hopefully be able to fully express and assert myself while also letting people know the real me, the true me.
I am an extremely shy person. That’s because I never know what the right thing to say is and I’m afraid to mess up. I don’t want to sound dumb in front of someone. So by not talking much, I thought I would be normal. But, people just started to ignore the fact that I was there. I didn’t have many friends and I was disheartened. Until sports seasons began in eighth grade. People on my different teams started talking to me and I built up enough confidence to have many conversations with them throughout the time we were there. It sounds pathetic, but this is just the way it is. This progressed and I made many new friendships with people, however, I am still egregious when it comes to conversing with people. My second chance came in the form of friendships. Similar to Seabiscuit, I was given a second chance that permanently altered my
Social phobia is “shyness taken to an extreme” (Myers 323). The origins of social phobia can be linked to “traumatic social experiences and social isolation” (Hudson118-120). A traumatic social experience can be “being laughed at or making a mistake in situations such as being called on to talk in class, being on a first date, speaking in public or being at a party”(Hudson 118). Social isolation includes “being teased, bullied, laughed at, rejected, neglected, or isolated from other children. Research from Allison G. Harvey shows that certain events around the time social fears being are when people are changing schools or work at 50.9%, not fitting in with or being ostracized by a p...
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Social anxiety goes from not being able to socialize with people in a class to never leaving home due to the anxiety that is causes. Markway’s article states that there are three categories involved with social anxiety; mental distress, physical distress, and how avoidance affects someone socially. Mentally, it is exhausting to talk to people for to people and have that constant anxiety about the way they talk and act. People with social anxiety often think about how they can humiliate and embarrass themselves in front of others. This drives someone to fear that they may do something wrong at any given moments and may be rejected altogether (“Markway”, 2013).
Many of us experience a pounding heartbeat or shaking when faced with a public situation, especially if we think we are going to be judged by others. When does this cross the line between normal and a mores serious disorder? Social anxiety disorder, a relatively newly recognized disorder by the psychiatric profession, involves many of the same symptoms as shyness. What makes the difference between a case of the jitters and a real disorder?
For the aforementioned reasons, there is no doubt that fears and shy had been controlled myself throughout the years. According to The People’s Almanac presents The Book of Lists by David Wallechinsky, Irving and Amy Wallace, one of the topic was titled “The 14 Worst Human Fears”, and the fear of speaking in public is the first fear of all fears (Richard I. Garber, 2009). This make me realized that it is perfectly normal to feel anxiety and fears to speak. Everyone, even an experienced speakers has some anxiety when speaking in front of a group of people. As for my experience and situation, I should have just fight the fears in me to throw my voice out asking questions in class otherwise I would might left behind a bit and need to struggle up for the subjects more than everyone does. Asking questions does not make you any stupid, it’s the source of
Ever since I was in middle school, people always told me that I’m quiet and shy. Having said that, I never felt comfortable communicating with people I didn't know that well. That also includes speaking or presenting in front of a class. According to my family and friends, I’m the complete opposite, because they claim that I’m talkative. Being shy and nervous did affect my schoolwork. I wouldn’t raise my hand in class that often, because I didn’t feel comfortable enough. When I was in 6th grade, my teacher would always call up students to share something they liked about a story they read. When the teacher called out my name, my heart started pounding, my hands were shaking and my mind went completely blank. I was so nervous to the point where I felt like I was going to pass out any moment. That’s when I asked the teacher if I could excuse myself to go to the bathroom. She didn’t mind that request so I tried to calm myself down by washing my face and breathing. After class, my teacher and I discussed my inability to present in front of a class. She was obliging, because she agreed to help me overcome being shy and to help boost my self-confidence. Shyness and nervousness also stopped me from participating in activities and obtaining opportunities. In 10th grade, my Chemistry teacher suggested a film festival, because she was aware that I loved filmmaking. At first, I considered the idea, because I’ve never done anything like it before. Having thought about it, I then realized that I was going to have my movie up on a full screen where
I have always been quite shy in personality, but over the years with support of my family and good friends I have overcome my shyness and can now confidently say that I feel comfortable to face a challenge. I believe I have grown in confidence and feel I am a sociable person, who is easily approachable and a good listener, I always try to be available and supportive for my friends and family when they need me.
I 'm going to talk to you about a big part of my life that my shyness greatly affected. First, I would
I believe that my behavior varies based upon the situation I am placed into. If I am without familiar people in an unfamiliar location or situation where I am forced to speak to others, I will become increasingly nervous or anxious. Therefore, before properly becoming friends with me others may view me as simply quiet or rude because of my lack of words in certain situations. However, when people are genuinely kind and make me feel comfortable around them I tend to somewhat open up. Excluding my introversion in instances where I do not know anyone, I can surprisingly be relaxed and outgoing. When I’m participating in group activates with my friends we all instantly forget I’m even referred to as “the shy one” of the
Now in life there are many things you do on your own and it is hard because you might not have the best confidence. This situation happens a lot to me because I am not the best with self-confidence, but I have always had confidence others. In life you will always have those friends that you will trust and can tell them anything. For example, who you do not like; who you have a crush on; what your past way like; and what you want your future, adult life, to be like. Confidence is divided in to two sections, mental and physical. Physical confidence is shown when you are trying to run a 4:50 pace for the one mile. You have to be confident that your body is stronger than it really is. This is where the mental confidence comes in to help support your physical confidence. Your brain needs to tell your body that it has more than it does. My confidence to that is strong, but when it comes to talking to people my confidence gets pushed away. My mental confidence is telling my body that you do not know...
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Towards little children I am very outgoing and not shy at all. But, when it comes to people my age or older I tend to be less talkative if I feel like I am in a awkward situation or if I do not know the person. At Erie County Community College I am taking a human interactions class to help develop my skills more and make me less insecure about my thoughts. Sometimes I do believe I am not as shy as what I am on some days. I do find myself opening up more since I was younger but I am hoping soon my shy stage will be gone considering I want to become a doctor one
The first step is to develop a healthy mental image of meeting new people. Some of us see meeting new people as a scary event. We are concerned about making a good impression, whether the other person will like us, how to keep the conversation going, and so on. The more we think about it, the scarier it seems. This initial apprehension develops into a mental fear, which takes a life of its own and unknowingly blocks us from making new friends. Shyness toward others is actually a result of fear.
Learning how to overcome fear through building self esteem and confidence will always have the most important impact to me as a communicator. Public speaking anxiety results into boring and poor speech which is made in hurry. Through my communication lessons I have known how to prepare and practice, get organized, know the details of my topic and learn how to visualize on my success as a communicator in order to beat the fear of public speaking. This in no doubt will have a great impact to me as a motivational