Brian Doyle describes the importance of the heart in his essay “Joyas Voladoras”, and he ends the piece by providing examples of how external situations can influence the walls we place around it. Within the essay, Doyle writes that “We are utterly open with no one, in the end--not mother and father, not wife or husband, not lover, not child, not friend. We are open windows to each but we live alone in the house of the heart.” (142). This comment analyzes how even in the midst of family, friends, and loved ones we are still alone. The comfort of our close friends and loved ones may allow us to create the illusion that we are not alone, but in the heart we always truly will be alone.
Doyle’s viewpoint suggests that as children people we were able to open their hearts to anyone. They would tell their parents everything from likes and dislikes to deepest, darkest secrets. A childlike heart has no worries or anxieties to weigh it down. However, as time moves forward and children start to grow up, their hearts become
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closed off due to their experiences. Parents try to open that portal up again by any means, but it never truly opens again. Anything from a bad break up to other negative experiences can lead to the closure of a heart for a lifetime. The significant others that people pick to spend the rest of their lives with should not have closed hearts.
They should be able to open themselves up to their significant other, and share everything that they feel with them. Doyle’s words suggest however, that not even they can provide the companionship their spouse needs. Doyle then goes on to mention that in youth people have childlike dreams that someone will eventually come into their lives forever. Their love and affection should “. . . savor and sustain us always . . .” (Doyle 143). However, as people grow older, the hurts and bruises that the heart sustains will never truly go away. These bruises eventually lead people to build walls around their hearts. While they continue to try and love, the walls further encase them in hurt and sorrow, causing them to become closed off and alone. This restricts other relationships, leading people to only act as “. . . open windows to each . . .” (Doyle
142) Friendships, sadly, are no different in the pursuit of tearing down the walls of what Doyle refers to as a “bruised and scarred” (143) heart. Their company should provide the illusion of comfort and splendor, but only for a limited amount of time. Certainly, having someone to trust and be around can temporarily heal a wounded heart. The initial part of Doyle’s comment that people are “utterly open” (142), suggests that everybody allows these relationships to form, but he continues to suggest further in his statement that people are only open windows to the heart instead of the actual door of the heart. This allows readers to infer that although there is a relationship, ultimately we do not allow others completely in. Once the heart has become damaged, and a person has encased their heart in a wall, there is no going back to the trusting and loving way that it once was. Doyle’s comment suggests that although our heart is “. . .utterly open. . .” (142), people tend to not allow others completely in due to the scars and bruises that their heart has received in the course of their life. Even a loving mother and father or a well known friend seem to be unable to open a person back up again. This proves that Doyle is correct, and people truly are only “. . . open windows to each . . .” (142), and will always “. . . live alone in the house of the heart.” (Doyle 142).
Jean Thompson’s short story, All Shall Love Me and Despair shows that proves that the feeling of love makes people compromise even if it can be harmful to themselves. When one finds them self constantly questioning every action they do when around a specific person, they may want to reconsider their relationship with that person. I believe this because one should be able to be comfortable, and them self, especially around those that they love. Annie and Scout are a couple who loves each other, but Annie second guesses most of her actions around Scout.
What is Doyle’s message in Joyas Voladoras? Well, there could be many interpretations, but I specifically think that he’s trying to tell us about the heart. It does talk about many different subjects, like hummingbirds and blue whales, but it always comes back to ONE subject: the heart, the physical one and the emotional one.
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