Let me begin this paper by explaining how I defined support giving and who were the recipients. I defined support giving as follows: my unconditional support to those around me no matter the circumstances; i.e I would always lend a hand or be extra kind when given the chance. I conducted this day of support giving on thanksgiving so the recipients of this support were my family and my friends whom I saw later in the day.
To be perfectly honest, I thought this assignment was going to be a breeze. I thought myself to be a very supportive person as it is, so I imagined that this would result in little adjustments to my everyday routine. I was mistaken. I do not think people realize how many opportunities arise in a day for one to be supporting. When we are supportive, we take notice and congratulate ourselves, but we tend to ignore the times when we pass on opportunities to support others. This creates an illusion that many of us believe we are much more supportive than actually are. With that being said, let me now answer two of the questions listed for this assignment.
1.)How did others respond to your psychological costs and benefits of behaving supportively? Do you think they noticed a difference
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