Summary Of Losing Is Good For You

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In the article, Losing is Good For You, written by Ashley Merryman for the New York Times, the author state that awards can be powerful motivators, but nonstop recognition does not move kids to succeed. Rather, it can make them underachieve. As well as, giving kids trophies for losing can bring them not give their best attempt at something, and keep them from understanding progress.
A psychology professor of Stanford University Carol Dweck found that kids react positively to praise, they appreciate to listen that they’re talented, smart and so on. But, after such approval of their natural capacities they collapsed at the first experience of difficulty. Demoralized by their disappointment, they say that they’d rather cheat than risk of failing again and we know …show more content…

But too much awards can make kids lose interest because these are not their innate motivations.
Winning an award can be prevent kids from trying but also from improving their skill regarding game. In June, an Oklahome Little League wiped out support trophies because of a budget shortfall which made an incite parent complaining to a local journalist that his kids value their trophy as much as playing the game which is precisely what the issue is. This is a major issue problem, says Jean Twenge, author of “Generation Me.’’, ‘’In life you’re going to lose more often than you win, even if you’re good at something. You’ve got to get used to that to keep going. Our duty is, we should teach these all things to children. We should always help children when they fail in their game and motivate to them learn more vital skills about his, her profession instead of punishing them always win. So that they can overcome from their

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