I believe that using spanking as a disciplinary action is best for the child. I think that children should be spanked in a disciplinary way but not so much that it is abusive. Letting a child know that they are wrong by spanking them is, in my opinion, the only way someone should hit a child. Hitting a child because you feel like it, is not a proper form of discipline. I support spanking a child as long as it is in disciplinary benefit.
I think that child will turn out to do whatever they want if they are not properly disciplined with a spanking. That child may act out from other people and they may always get what they want or they do something. This child might be recognized by others as spoiled. Today, if a child is not well behaved it becomes the parents or the guardians fault for not disciplining them. One of the many correct ways to discipline a child is to spank on the bottom only. Anywhere else should be considered abuse, especially if a mark is left or if the child is really suffering from it.
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Any form of abuse is hitting and hurting your child for no reason or thinking that you are disciplining correctly by hitting them places other than the bottom. No, I do not think that spanking is abusive, but only if the person giving the discipline is correctly reinforcing the child's behavior. If a child is spanked on the bottom once or twice to reinforce what the issue was then I do not think that the child is being abused. If any form of marks is left on the child's bottom from being hit too hard then I think it is abuse. Discipline should involve spanking on the bottom or a slap on the hand while abuse is hitting a child anywhere and everywhere that one
Proponents of spanking bans have a tendency to label spanking as corporal punishment. They then categorize it along with many abusive activities. Psychologist Kerby Alvy explains corporal punishment as, “pinching, pulling ears and hair, shaking, slapping, smacking, spanking, swatting, hitting, kicking, punching, paddling, using switches, hair brushes, belts and ironing cords, and having children kneel on gravel or ...
Generally speaking there Is a difference between spanking aka discipline and child abuse. If a child is told after every mistake what was wrong and why they're being punished it does not damage their mental health. The child will no longer look at their parents with the eyes of distrust. Comparatively spanking is not a positive action so it will not held positive results unless it is accompanied by an explanation as to why one was punished. In fact ,I have four siblings, the eldest boy was spanked for his actions. He ended up being engaged in dishonest activities, and has anger issues. Whereas the youngest boy was barley spanked and he never was involved in any crimes and similarly has a very calm demeanor. Also spanking is just one action
There are detrimental risks and disadvantages to using spanking children as a form of punishment. Children will never actually learn the reasoning for why they are being spanked. This will not produce benefits for the child later in life; it will actually hurt them because they aren’t learning important lessons as a child. A giant risk a parent takes when choosing to spank their child is that it may lead to increased aggression by age 5. Also the more a parent spanks, the less effective it becomes. Spanking has no benefits and is harmful to children.
Spanking, a supposed form of child abuse, is the best way to discipline a child who has behaved against guidelines previously discussed by parents, and does not harm a child in the grand scheme of life. Spanking a child will result in the betterment of a child’s behavior, the lessening chance of the child developing a behavioral disorder, and the assurance that the child will blossom into a well-developed and responsible adult.
According to Park (2010) spanking has serious long term effects on a child.I agree with this argument drawn from conclusions in her article “The Long-Term Effects
Critics of spanking need to understand that spanking and abuse are not the same. Spanking is a quick squat on the buttock that causes temporary pain. Child abuse is physical injury such as beating, kicking, or punching a child with cruel intent. Psychiatrist William Glasser makes a distinction between the two. Glasser explains, “Discipline is directed at the objectionable behavior, and the child will accept its consequences without resentment.” By contrast, he defined punishment as, “A response that is directed at the individual” (qtd. in Dobson 96). Spanking allows room for forgiveness and reconciliation. Abuse comes from a place of hostility. It is harsh and leaves little room for forgiveness or reconciliation. Yes, spanking may cause brief discomfort, but it is not the same as beating, punching, or kicking a child.
In order to conclude an argument, it is first necessary to define any vague or ambiguous terms. Spanking is an unclear term in need of explanation. To some spanking means to slap a child on the buttocks, while others believe it is a mild form of corporal punishment which does not cause harm to the child. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) defines spanking as ?one or two flat-handed swats on a child?s wrist or rear end? (Rosellini 52). The New American Webster Handy College Dictionary also agrees with the AAP when defining spanking as ?[to] strike with an open hand.? Spanking does not infer a sustained whipping from Dads belt, but a mild form of corporal punishment that does not cause injury.
Many authorities and psychologists believe that spanking breaks a child's spirit and only leads to violence. They think that it causes the child to become depressed, angry or hostile and they have conducted many studies to prove these things. This type of harsh punishment occurs often, but it is called child abuse. There is a great difference between abusing a child and properly disciplining a child. "One is an act of love; the other is an act of hostility, and they are as different as night and day" (Dobson 35).
Spanking is commonly associated with parents attempting to correct behavior in a child; ultimately often out of frustration and/or anger with the child’s behavior. In the heat of the moment, most parents do not associate the long term psychosocial or behavioral effects the act of spanking can have on a child. The dangers of these effects derived from how children think and behave show us that spanking is not an effective form of discipline.
Spanking is not child abuse because it does not result in long term or permanent injuries, it does not happen to all ages of children, and the purpose is not to hurt the child out of personal frustration. Most importantly, the outcome does not leave the child feeling fearful, confused, or distrustful towards the parent or guardian. The term spanking is an act of slapping, on the bottom as a punishment for young children. Spanking fails to meet the criteria of physical child abuse because abuse is provoked by an emotional rag from an adult. Whereas spanking is one of the most commonly used methods to reduce undesirable behavior (Roberts 2002) and is performed with a calm and reasonable matter.
There is always a heated debate behind the question “Is it ok to spank a disobedient child?” or if it should even be allowed. Based on the research I have completed I believe that it is completely ok to discipline by spanking. Spanking in not a form of child abuse like many people sat but instead it is a punitive redirection when verbal redirection will not suffice. As a child I was defiant, not in a despicable way, I just liked to do things my own way and be independent as a result of this personality trait I received many verbal redirections and spankings before my mother became abusive not just physically but verbally as well, however, the abuse was not because of the spankings but were because of her personality traits of manipulation and
I personally do not advocate spanking. I could not imagine losing my temper to a point where I thought I needed to spank my child. While I do anticipate that having children will be a real test of patience, I do not expect that I will lose my patience so much that I will spank my children. I find spanking to be a real contradiction to what most parents tell their children. Most parents do not allow their children to hit, whether they are angry or not. Even when kids think another kid did something wrong, or bad, they are still not allowed to hit. If a parent tells a kid this, and then turns around and spanks the kid when they do something wrong, how will the kid ever learn that hitting is wrong? In my opinion, there has to be a better way to discipline children. I think that sending a child to a room where they cannot interact with anyone else, and then taking away a privilege would be a better way of handling discipline. Also, when I was a child, I can remember that when I was angry, my dad would come in to my room after I had time to cool down and talk to me about why I was angry. I can remember these as really fond times with my dad. It helped me identify why I was so angry, and most of the time it was at my mom for not letting me have my way. When I could identify why I was angry, my dad and I could come up with a solution to solve the problem. I think that rather than spanking, this is a good way to discipline children.
Spanking is a disciplinary act that has been used by parents for years now. It does not seem like a big deal at the time, but spanking does have long term effects that can affect the child even when he or she is a adult. Spanking whether it is appropriate for parents or any guardian of a child should be allowed to spank their child or not. There is a lot of controversy because parents say kids need to be disciplined when they are behaving badly. Others say parents shouldn 't spank their child because they long-term outcome is worse and they are not teaching the child a lesson. Some parents agree with these specialist and don 't spank their child but use other ways of discipline that doesn 't involve hurting
Some people believe spanking a child is child abuse, and that it causes the child to grow up aggressive and violent. This would mean that every child that is spanked during their developmental stages will grow up to be an example of bad behavior. However, there is no actual data or information that can confirm that spanking a child will cause a child to grow up to be violent or too aggressive. Children have been trained to obey rules or a set code of behavior for centuries. It is the best way to mold a child into a respectable adult, and they can pass on the behavior to their future children.
As children grow up, they’re more than likely exposed to being disciplined in one way or another. “Surveys of parents show that 90 percent have used some form of physical punishment on their children” (Graziano 1). So therefore, we can all agree that when it comes down to being punished, parents more often than not resort to spanking their child(ren). That being said, many parents will readily agree that spanking a child should not be considered a form of child abuse. However, the question still stands: how far does the spanking have to go in order for it to be considered child abuse? Although some are convinced that there are better ways to discipline a child, there are others that maintain the idea that spanking is the best option for disciplinary action.