Self Perceptions On Marriage: The Effects Of Self-Perception In Marriage

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The Effects of Self-Perception in Marriage
Jami J. McDowell
Charter Oak State College

Abstract
Within the context of every marriage lies two unique individuals who perceive themselves and their spouses in very different ways. These perceptions are based on not only direct influences but also indirect influences as well as preferences. The perception of one’s physical self, the perceived relationship between each spouse and their parents, how each person recognizes love as communicated by their spouse, the contribution of gender roles as they relate to conflict management, religion, and the perception of self as it relates to one’s ideal self are all important elements in the functionality and ultimate satisfaction of each spouse within …show more content…

Dr. Gary Chapman received a Master of Religious Education and Doctor of Philosophy from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. Dr. Chapman is most widely known for his book series “The Five Love Languages” which was published in 1995. In his book, Dr. Chapman describes five ways in which people express and experience love. These are referred to as the five love languages. These are important because each builds upon the definition of communication in all shapes and forms. They are most vital by describing the effect that each of these has on a person’s self-perception as it specifically relates to marriage. There are five love languages which Dr. Chapman describes; words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts, and physical touch (Chapman, …show more content…

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