Summary of Second Interview
She is currently looking forward to her holidays, during which she can study more in peace and without the lecture and time constraint, however she would prefer to spend more time with her family as the exams are usually after holidays so she has to study most of the time. Her current problematic relationship is going steady but without change. She expressed that she needs to be able to change her current behaviour or at least tone them down, be able to let loose a little bit and more time for him as she is studying a lot. She realised these by putting herself into his shoes, however these are her assumptions and she will try having a conversation with her partner. She showed an interest for the tests results, because
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Not only that according to the plan I did not have enough time to go over her relationship history, however, I was successful in getting some information between the results and asking for feedback on the tests. Yet the 30 minutes did not feel long enough to get a deeper grasp of her as person. I should have spent less time on asking whether the client know the tests and the meanings of the dimensions, which admittedly felt like playing a useless game. I wanted to make it into a game; however it felt like I was trying to teach what is what and I became more of a professor rather than a helper/therapist. It was wasted time. By listening through the recording, I have cursed at myself at several occasions, because I sounded condescending, which I believe might have had a detrimental effect on the relationship. I have focused too much on explaining and forgotten about the fact that this is a therapy session. However I do have to point out that the fact, that the students who are clients never took the tests and can only pretend that they did, does change the conversation if something related to test taking is asked.
At 7:24 “I think you might know is Extraversion/Introversion dimension. You know those two terms I would assume?” I wanted a confirmatory question to ask her if she has heard of the term. However,
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However the addition of adverb “Only” I made it as if she was wrong despite being slightly right; further putting her down for my own game. I should have phrased it as “Yes, Neuroticism is …” not suggesting is she is anyhow right or wrong.
At 18:18 “It just means that at the given moment you have higher depression and anxiety levels” was an answer to her whether she might get depressed. She brought up the question if the current life might influence her future. I immediately said that it might, but it is more a telltale of how her current situation is. Furthermore, I relabelled it to a generally normal thing by telling her that students of her age can have higher scores of depression and anxiety due to young adulthood shift and university.
At 30:28 When asked about how she feels about the results she said “some of them weren’t as surprising” I should have asked which ones she did not find surprising, in order to clarify whether they were positive or negative. Otherwise I might have missed a chance to positively re-label her view and not have her feel bad about herself. “What did you not find surprising?” would have be both immediacy and clarification seeking
" You are active, and pleasant to people." When asked who or what she turns to when she is unhappy she answered, "When I am down I get busy. I do not turn to anybody because I do not want to put it on them." When asked what makes her unhappy she said, "I do not mope or get sad about other people. I am never sad."
When the therapist met the client at home for individual therapy, the client greeted the therapist and she was feeling happy as evidence by reporting that she did all of her weekly plan that she plan it last week such as; visiting her biological parents, playing sports, finishing her homework, and get the dancing party arrangement done by the end of the week. Client reported that her mood did not change during the week as she reported that she was happy all the week. Client reported that the low moment for this week was getting her homework done by the end of Sunday at night as she was happy and enjoyed her time during the weekend, but she felt overwhelmed at the end as she did not finish her homework. Client reported that she was the student
The one skill that I used more of was empathy; I wanted the client to know that I understood her situation as well her feelings. At the end of our conversation, I summarized everything that we talked about, especially her want to open up to her parents and express herself to them. She mentioned that she wants them to fell empathy towards her, because the lack of parental empathy that she felt when she was younger, has even affected her in her adult life (Kilpatrick,2005).
She is a twenty-two-year-old Guest services Agent who is presently working at the Sheraton Hotel in Queens, New York. During my interview with her I discovered that she and her family of four migrated from Jamaica in search of a better life here in the United States of America. She portrayed a warm and friendly personality, as such it was easy for me to talk with her about self-identity. She informed me that while she was in Jamaica she excelled in High School and went on to University where she studied Health Science. Her reason for choosing that field was because her mother was very much involved in her development and encouraged her to stick to the sciences where she could specialize in becoming a medical doctor in the future. Listening to her, I realized that her decision at the time was based on what her mother had in mind for her and not necessarily what she wanted to become. I questioned her if she had figured out what she wanted to do with her life then, she clearly had no idea therefore she just followed her parent instruction. She pointed out that her mother who played a significant role in her life, always instilled in her the importance of a good education and that becoming a doctor would be the right choice. When she arrived in the United States everything changed. I followed up with the conversation and she told me that she started rebelling and didn’t want to go back to
Attending an additional meeting was more relaxing the second time around, because I knew what to expect. Believe it or not, the meeting was a stress reliever for me because, knowing others have bigger battles to fight compared to my mere test definitely puts perspective into my eyes. The meeting was very similar to the first one, however instead of an alcohol addiction, the meeting focused on narcotics. In my
word that she didn’t familiar in, but she was still not getting a B or higher. Her sadness and
Opening the session and delivering the contract I did not provide my client with enough information about the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP, 2016), the role of supervision and the person-centred approach. In the next session I would deliver the contract in a way that would involve the client more in the process, for example I would ensure understanding and ask if she had any questions regarding any of the information. By creating a user centred contract and delivering it in more of a dialogue with my client this would potentially demonstrate to the client that the power is equal. person-centred counsellors believe that they are not authoritative, but they are equal to their client (Thorne, 1991).
Carl Rogers and Gloria 's session was a learning lesson and evidence that the developments in life overtime can have a direct impact on how we evolve as human beings. Various aspects, topics and behaviors that were viewed in this clip reminded me of scenarios that I see on a weekly basis. I myself have struggled with the fear of making the "wrong" decisions, I have seen relationships go astray due to inadequate trust, honesty, and transparency, and I have witnessed immature disagreements turn into full blown arguments and rage simply due to the absence of active listening and the list can go on. This session enabled the viewers the opportunity to see themselves from the client 's perspective which would involve seeing things through her eyes and trying to understand why she feels the way she does based off of signs such as both verbal and non-verbal communication, her diction, body language,
I believe nearly all my skills require further development, but the skills I feel require the most attention and development is control of myself and how I listen to my client. My own values and assumptions I feel are hampering my development of skills. Ways I can improve on this is by doing my own research into different or opposing values and assumptions and finding their positives and finding the negatives within my own, to help find a more balanced practice. The way I listen could greatly improve as it took Lucy pointing out how she wanted and/or needed support from me, for me to make the session more productive. As I need to listen equally to answers of inaction and answers of action. And focus more on listening to Lucy and not problem solving, as I said during our session “you’re safety and [those] around you are safe … are the ultimate goal of our session’s”. (Harms, 2007; Ivey & Ivey, 2007; Trevithick, 2005). The analysing and planning of further development of my skills has given me hope within my current short-comings, and my future
Olivia as the client, was feeling overwhelmed due to having responsibilities in many separate aspects of her life. Including but not limited to her school, family, friends and new fitness goals. As the counsellor I aimed to help the client come up with a strategy that would not only incorporate all of her responsibilities but allow time to take for herself as well. Doing so, will greatly reduce Olivia’s stress. In order to implement a plan I used multiple techniques to acquire information and insight about the client, as well as her present situation. Throughout the phases of counselling I used the problem solving process, this will help the client manage and save her time. I also exhibited exploring and probing to gain insight about client. Various types of questions were also used including, open-ended questions, close-ended questions and coping questions. I also used the technique of empowering the client to make a change. I accomplished this by highlighting the client’s resources she already obtains. Completing this assignment allowed me to analyze my strengths, along with also allowing me to see the areas that need improvement including leading and advice giving. Overall this assignment allowed me to critically analyze my clinical practice and how far I have come since first beginning at Georgian
There were some steps where I need to work on for next time. For example, while providing peri-care, I need more practice while changing the diaper of the client because I was facing problems during doing this step during providing the peri-care. I think I also need to work on my proper body mechanics for my own good because when I was providing the personal care to the client.
I was really nervous about doing this first practice recording. While I knew how I wanted to start the conversation, I was stressed out about the unknown that comes along with these sessions. I am constantly listening to my friends talk, but how I had to respond for the counseling session was very different than what I am typically used to. I usually give my friends my opinions and advice on how I would handle the situation. It was hard for me to just sit back and let my classmate talk. I wanted to respond to many of her statements, but I had to take a step back and really just listen. In these types of counseling sessions my thoughts and opinions are not important. Rather, the focus should only be on the person you are counseling.
My first interview was with, Jennifer she is a married 29 year old, with one child. They have been married for five years. The relationship she is in seems to fall right into place with the five stages of interpersonal relationships that are in the book: Contact, involvement, intimacy, deterioration, and repair. The relationship seems to be built on a solid foundation of trust.
The counseling session began with the introductions where I introduced myself as the counselor and later introduced my client. This stage is important in any counseling session since it is the time of exploration and focusing according to Gerard Egan as quoted by Wright (1998) in his essay on couselling skills. It is in this session that I was able to establish rapport and trust with my client in order to come up with a working and fruitful relationship with him. During this stage I made use of skills like questioning, where I would pose a question directly to my client, sometimes I would choose to just listen to what the client wanted to speak out while in some instances I would be forced to paraphrase the question if I felt the client did not understand the question I had asked previously. There were also other times when I would reflect through silence. During such a period, I got time to study the client and the information he had given. This being a difficult area, since some clients may not be able to volunteer information to you as the counselor, I decided to assure the client of confidentiality of any information he was willing to share with me with a few exceptions which I also told him about. Being open to him about the only times the information may not be confidential was part of my building rapport and establishing trust with him. I therefore, decided to ask the client what information he wanted to share with me and lucky enough he was ready to speak to me about different issues that he was going through.
I could honestly say I was not extremely surprised to hear any of my responses. I know that at the beginning of this course, I was very intimidated to talk about this topic but the professor and my classmates have really made talking about this topic a little less stressful. Due to my anxiety about the topic, the initial recordings do show my hesitation in answering some questions. I think that would be the only thing that surprises me now looking back at my recording, my intimidation about the topic. If I were to complete the first part of the self-reflection project now, I think my answers would be different in that they would be more concise and my attitude would be much more assertive about the topic.