Finding a roommate in college was a lot more difficult than expected. Knowing someone and creating a strong foundation of friendship is completely different than living with someone. I assume people know about room etiquette such as when you close the door behind you, I’d assume you think that would be an indication for privacy or a non-verbal gesture of privacy and boundaries but for my roommates I guess this miscommunication does not compute in his mind. I did not think this would come to an interpersonal conflict between myself and my roommate. According to Huang. Y. et. al., College students in their undergraduate years typically have a difficult time balancing their self identity when first leaving home. Many psychological and psychosocial obstacles may arise during the transition of their departure from living under their parents household. …show more content…
For example, being more communicative with my roommate, establishing boundaries between what is okay and what is crossing the line is vital. Utilizing the S-TLC model to better understand the other side of the story from the perspective of my roommate also taking into factor that it is not always about me and to be more open minded when it comes to communication and establishing grounds for privacy. I have discovered for roommate that we become the people we surround ourselves with. As mentioned according to Y. Li., we pick up attributes and behaviors that influence each other as mentioned in Social Exchange Theory. As I learned about what habits I develop and pursue, I enabled my roommate’s behavior by allowing him to invade my personal space without setting boundaries between us. By approaching our conflicts more assertively to increase efforts on my behalf can contribute to a more communicative, established, and civil grounds of personal
In Jennine Crucet’s story, “Taking My Parents to College” she really explains to the reader how challenging it was leaving home and starting a new chapter in her life. When the author and her family first arrived to Cornell University, they were sitting there when the dean ended his speech with: “Now, parents, please: Go!” Being a first generation college student Crucet nor her family had any idea that they were not supposed to stay for orientation and had to leave her as soon as they got her settled in. They did not even have all the right materials and supplies that she needed to begin with by stating, “Every afternoon that week, we had to go back to the only department store we could find, the now-defunct Ames, for some stupid thing we hadn’t known was a necessity, something not in our budget: shower shoes, extra-long twin sheets, mesh laundry bags.” Both Crucet and I suffered from similar issues during our first few weeks on our new journey in college and we both had no idea what was ahead of us.
Throughout the length of schooling, students go through various changes. In their first year of school, children are required to make the transition from being at home for the entire day to being in school for a number of hours a day. These transition periods happen many times through the schooling years, but the most drastic changes occur during the transition from high school to college, where students weather numerous lifestyle changes. While each individual student goes on their own journey, certain themes remain common between different students. Studies are done to look at these themes identifying the numerous differences and similarities.
HI: “Roommates who are both high in willingness to communicate will report higher social affinity and communication satisfaction than roommates who are (a) both low in willingness to communicate or (b) where one roommate is low and the other is high (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.47).”
When you graduate high school, which is normally at age 18, you go to college and are living out of your parents house. Stated in “A parent’s Role in the Path to Adulthood,” by Barbara Hofer, Jeffrey Arnett defines as individuals between ages of 18 and 25 need opportunities to make their own choices. I believe that this is because he sees this time as prime adulthood transformation, starting at age 18. Sure there are the advantages of not getting yelled at for things and you have your own rules, but there are also many adult things that come with living alone. These are things that go unnoticed when you live with your parents because they just take care of these things. However when most people move out to college which typically takes place at the age of 18, they have to do these things. Therefore you are cleaning up after yourself, balancing your studies and activities by yourself, and possibly getting your own snacks and food. These are all important responsibilities that come with living on your own when you reach the age 18, which leads me into my next reason kids become adults at age
In fact, the Washington post clearly stated “Parenting is an ongoing renegotiation of the balance between expectations and supports, and parents can recognize that college kids need them in different ways from before”, therefore it makes it understandable that college students today have to learn to part ways with their parents. Surely it is the truth parents tend to be the weakness of their children emotional state of
Sociology studies heavily on the interactions between individuals in different settings. For those who go off to college and decide to live on campus, they are presented a new setting of living with another student who could possibly have a similar background or in contrast a very different background. The factors that can contribute to the background differences are endless. Human interaction is very fascinating and is constantly being observed. Therefore plenty of research has been done on roommate interactions. This paper focuses specifically on the University of California Los Angeles population of freshmen. UCLA has a large amount of diversity and is particularly great for the study of people with different backgrounds coming together and interacting. Both qualitative and quantitative research has been done on this topic, but this paper will focus on qualitative data through interviews. All the participants were thorough with their responses and tried their best to answer as honestly as possible. Overall the data presented varied results with each factor creating a different outcome when it came to the interactions and the closeness of the two roommates. Although the participants gave good insight into their backgrounds through the answering of the interview questions, there is the possibility of many other influences in their lives that could allow for either cohesiveness or non-cohesiveness with roommates that just weren’t examined closely enough. This paper will try to answer how differences in ethnicity or race, socioeconomic background, and other background aspects affect college roommate interactions.
Roommates are inevitable for most college students and young adults. With the economy in trouble more and more people are deciding to live with roommates in order to save money. This can often lead to disagreements, feuds, and misery. You can’t always find the perfect roommates but there are some rules everyone should set before moving in together. Recently I conducted a survey. The survey was handed out to thirty college students ranging from the ages of eighteen to twenty-three. In this poll they decided on the ten most important rules that are basic for every living situation.
Transitioning from being an adolescent to a young adult is one of the biggest undertakings an individual will go through in their lifetime. There are many new challenges that must be dealt with that are often unexpected or complicated. The multimedia component of this assignment is a journal with multiple diary entries regarding the challenges one must overcome in their first semester away at college. The author is dealing with withdrawals from their family, struggling with new relationships and old ones, and also trying to find out where she fit in to this new environment and her new relationship dynamics. The struggles that the author faces are centered around the following concepts and theories. Once an individual goes off to college, all of their relationships may see
Emerging adults are always in the search of their own identity while experimenting with their life, love life and career path. Constant changes in emerging adult’s life are common. From changing residential place to love life, work and education, instability often presents during emerging adulthood (Santrock, 2013). In addition, emerging adults tend to place focus on themselves where they have no commitment and responsibilities toward others. This provides them a great chance to exercise their own will and to execute their plans for the future. During emerging adulthood, many feel like as if they do not belong to either adolescents or adult. The transition ends only when they have distinct marks of an adult. According to Arnett (as cited in Santrock, 2014), “emerging adulthood is the age of possibilities” (p. 296). The age of possibilities is when an individual has the opportunity to turn things around in life, especially when they are from a poor family
The landlord has the responsibility to make the home that is for rent habitable and safe. Renter’s insurance is to protect the renter and their personal items. Caitlin and Amie have been displaced from their home and have lost the majority of their personal property because of a leaky roof that caved in their room. There are a plethora of possible solutions, but the solution that is most fair to all four girls and the landlord, is to have the landlord repair the ceiling at his expense, and for the rental insurance to cover the cost of the loss of Amie’s and Caitlin’s personal property, as well as the expenses that have occurred because of their displacement.
Going away to college is characterized by two big changes: moving out and living independently without the comfort of parents, siblings, and old friends. Students are forced to make new acquaintances, care for their own needs, and adjust to new situations, routines, and most importantly a different environment. Although many students do not confess this, about 60% to70% of those who reside away from home for the first time develop feelings of homesickness (Van Tilburg, Vingerhoets, & Van Heck, 1999). Of that, about 7% to 10% develop a serious form of homesickness (Eurelings-Bontekoe, Brouwers, Verschuur, & Duijsens, 1998). These studies suggest that homesickness is a prevalent problem for college students. The purpose of this paper is to research
Most college students face a great deal of new challenges and responsibilities after making the transition from high school to college. Generally speaking, many American college freshmen have to adjust to being away from home, begin handling their own finances, learn to manage their time well, meet academic expectations, and obtain social equilibrium. Moreover, international students can sometimes experience considerable difficulties acclimating to the cultural norms. Studies have shown (Klomegah, 2006) that international students experience a greater amount of alienation compared to native-born American students as they begin to adjust to campus life in the United States.
According to Erik Erikson, the main issue for teens to young adults these days is identity vs. role confusion. Teens want to belong to a society and fit in, or else, they will not be sure about themselves or their place in society. Failure to establish this sense of identity can easily be a set-up for failure. I see this in effect all around me when I see everyone applying and choosing colleges. People are so committed into choosing a college because going to a specific college will affect his or her identity and role in life. Until a few months ago, I thought the same. In actuality, the reverse is true; it should be your innate identity that makes your college decision. It’s cringeworthy to see people who have built their life interests around
A student looking at a dormitory will first find that the rooms in a dorm are generally shared with another person. Sharing a small space with a stranger can be very challenging. Your roommate may be inconsiderate of your personal items by using your stuff without asking permission or replacing the items. Also, they may have hygiene issues that are difficult to deal with. Also, the dormitory can be very noisy. Noise can come from other rooms around you or even from students in the room above your room. The noise...
Whether you’re an officer or enlisted, married or single, black or white, male or female; all service members at some point in their careers must endure the growing pains that come with having a roommate. A roommate you didn’t choose, but were placed with you because your last name’s initial begins with the same letter, or because they wear the same boot size, or because that is how Chesty Puller himself wanted it to be. The protocol in which The Roommate God pairs service members together is still unknown to me. But, when you’ve had a few wretched roommates, you become salty to the idea of a new one.