Personal Narrative: Childhood

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Childhood Growing up my mother and step-father taught me to be independent. They treated me with respect if I gave them respect and disciplined me when necessary. They also communicated with me well—my parents made sure to tell me what I was being punished. I would categorize my parents as authoritative parenting. I often saw my parents as super strict, but as I was growing up I saw that they were setting so many rules to protect me. As I became older, my parents were more lenient on certain rules—who I could go places with, how late I could stay out, and places I could stay the night at. There were plenty of times that I would go out to my best friend’s house for the night. My mom and step-dad always told me, “let us know when you get there,” she lived about thirty minutes from me. Every single time I would remember after being at her house for hours. By the time I would remember to text them, they would have already texted me. I would be punished for this—grounded and told that I cannot go back to her house for a few weeks. They also pushed me to do my best in school. If I was not making good grades, I couldn’t go anywhere and I wasn’t allowed to have my phone. Whenever my grades were high A’s I was rewarded with my phone or privileges to go places. Things were different when I would visit my biological …show more content…

One set of parents disciplined me and the other parent did not. I think the type of parenting that stuck with me the most was the authoritative parenting, but both parenting styles affected my behavior. The authoritative parenting affected my behavior in different ways. I am independent, I am academically successful, and I don’t have to rely on anyone to help support me. The way the permissive parenting affected me is that, I have my moments where I am dependent on someone else to do things for me. Another way is that I don’t want to follow certain rules because I don’t think they apply to

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