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Boundaries demarcate what is in the group membership and what is outside the group membership (McCollom, 1990). While observing Group A, boundaries were the theme that developed within the group. Their personal boundaries impacted the group as a whole boundary. Personal boundaries were created due to subjective boundaries such as, age, race, and role. Subjective boundaries are psychological boundaries that are sometimes not vivid to the human eye (McCollom, 1990). Each member in Group A was responsible in shaping the group as a whole boundary. Unconsciously, the informal role each person portrayed was a role they have a valance for. Informal role is ones position or function in a group based on personal characteristics and group dynamic (Green …show more content…

Her valence showing lack of emotions allowed her to hide her emotions and be an active listener. As a sponge, she absorbed everything that was shared and the emotions behind the sharing. However, she refused to squeeze that emotions out and allow her self to become empathic. In her ridge personal boundaries as a sponge, she restricted her self from pouring out her true feeling. In my perception, her genuine self could not emerge because she held in all her sensitivity. The rigid boundaries around her role resulted in her sharing surface information about herself. I learned that about her ethnicity, her boyfriend and her family, but not who Arbiana is. On the other hand, Arbiana had an emotional out pour about relationships in her life. The conflict between her family relationship and personal relationship was causing her anxiety and stress. The emotional out pour occurred because the group worked together a whole to break her rigid personal role boundaries as a sponge. The group kept squeezing information out of her until she started sharing on her own. After role boundaries was broken for that one class, she felt vulnerable and stepped back into her ridge boundaries as a sponge. Arbiana is empathic, but has very hard time showing her …show more content…

She was open to talk about any conversation and can relate to every conversation. In my opinion, Kristine says what the group is thinking demonstrated role suction. Role suction is a strong pull for the members to take up roles that are not familiar to or wanted by them (Wells, 2995). She made sure she pleased everyone in the group and there was peace. Therefore, her boundaries on her role were porous compare to the role’s others played. Highly porous boundaries interact frequently with the environment (Green & Molenkamp, 2004). Because of her role suction, Kristine was the scapegoat for the group. Scapegoating is a special destructive form of role and occurs when a person is acceptable for all unwanted bad parts then drives it away (Well, 1995). The group as a whole was furious with Group B because they felt Group B perceived them for who they are not and used hurtful words while processing. The group projected their negative angry feeling on to Kristine because she was the scapegoat. The group did not send her off but allowed her to use her porous boundaries to break the system boundaries and communicate the feeling of disgust toward Group B. When Group B finished processing Group A, the class over with ten minutes to spare. Instead of getting ready to dismiss, Kristine decided to cross-examine Group B processing. Since her was loose from the beginning, it was easy for her to break the system boundaries and talk

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