Negotiating Thanksgiving: An Animal Rights Perspective

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For every vegetarian or vegan, Thanksgiving is a logistical and emotional minefield. Of course, the centerpiece of the traditional American meal is the turkey, and quite often older relatives, especially relatives whose identity revolves around their cooking like my grandmother, feel hurt and offended if vegetarians do not partake of their cooking. In past years, I tried a number of strategies to hold true to my beliefs about living a cruelty-free existence, while still treating my meat-eating relatives with respect. My first strategy was to suffer in silence, and try to eat as little as possible, focusing on the non-meat entrees. However, this presented several difficulties: firstly, many of the side dishes were cooked with meat by-products, such as chicken stock and animal fat, and my attempt to question if the Brussels sprouts were sautéed in bacon grease brought forth hostility and jokes.

Secondly, I often found myself forced to defend my beliefs yet was reproached for doing so while ‘everyone was eating.’ People would ask why I was not eating turkey, and when I replied that I did not consume animal products, they snapped back with “don’t you know animals eat animals,” or “you should be glad that you have something to eat.” If I attempted to defend my position, and suggested that factory farming for omnivores such as humans was very different from a carnivorous animal hunting and killing another animal in the wild, or noted the fact that our reliance upon meat in the United States actually contributes to poverty elsewhere, I was accused of ‘preaching’ at a holiday function.

I did not like to present an image of myself as a joyless scold on Thanksgiving, but I wished to have my views given respect and consideration. I did ...

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... interdependence as family members, rather than one member exercising his or her power over the other, even though neither of us emerged as mutual ‘winners,’ as is the case in an ideal compromise, when a solution that is equally acceptable to both parties is achieved.

The less meat-intensive meal seemed to make people at the table more, rather than less open to my vegetarianism. They were surprised and delighted with how tasty the vegetarian and vegan dishes were, and said that the bird that was raised in a cruelty-free fashion was also better tasting than in previous years. I admit that I was bothered that the rights of animals were not fully considered in the negotiation of the meal, but I at least introduced my relatives to a new approach to Thanksgiving, and encouraged them to at least entertain ethical questions regarding how the turkey they ate was raised.

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