My Adoption Journey

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While different from most people’s expectations, adoption can be a wonderful alternative to natural child birth. For people that can have their own biological children and for those that can not, adoption can be the solution to having a fulfilling family. The biological parents placing their children for adoption, the adopting parents, and the children being adopted all benefit greatly from adoption.

Most women can naturally get pregnant and most men can naturally get women pregnant. But for the small minority that can not get pregnant, for whatever reason or other, have to explore other means of having children. Adoption is a wonderful choice.

Adoption has been a blessing for my family. When I found out that my husband could not get me pregnant, I was devastated. The doctor had given us high hopes of being able to correct the medical problem. Having been given this hope, along with a strong faith, I never doubted the doctor’s ability to reverse the damage and correct the problem. I was certain this was just a minor problem and when fixed, I would be able to get pregnant and start our family. To my dismay, the medical procedure did not work and confirmed the worst, that my husband would never be able to get me pregnant. We would never be able to have our own biological children. Having had such high expectations, my dreams were shattered.

A sadness that can not be described came over me. I can remember wailing before God asking “why”? Not understanding, I fell into a deep despair. Nothing could comfort the pain that I felt inside. After a process of grieving, adoption became a reality in our lives instead of something we had just thought about from time to time.

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... Every mother is different and every delivery is different. But one thing that is always in common is the pain endured during child birth. Though there are many different ways to deliver a baby, they all involve a degree of pain. Some deliveries last a long time and are terribly painful and exhausting, yet others can be quick and less painful. The delivery can never be predicted. Once the delivery is over and the baby is in the arms of the loving parents the pain is usually forgotten and joy consumes them.

Whether adopting or having natural biological children, once the child is yours, the feelings are the same. Love unspeakable, joy beyond measure and unlimited blessings are those who chose to have and raise children. It matters not how or where the child comes from, it matters what you do with the child that will make a difference in their life and yours.

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