Understanding Emotional Impact of Adoption on Children

Have you ever wondered what your parents look like or if they are thinking of you? Adoption can have that effect on children. What is adoption? Adoption is the process of providing parents with children and children with families when birth parents are unwilling or unable to care for their offspring. Adoption can make a child feel abandon, unloved, and have low self-esteem.

Abandonment is something no child should have to go through. What does an abandon person feel like? It makes a person feel like they are the only ones in the whole entire world. They feel alone, angry, frustrated, and scared. That contradiction between what they experience inside and what is reflected back to them from the outside must be resolved (Blecher). Adoption offers

them that opportunity to resolve it. For example, I always felt myself alone like no cared about me. Imagine no one being there when got raped or it is raining outside and the only thing a person can do is build a cardboard box to sleep in. Angry is the most common feeling an abandon child can have. It upsets a person to know that as a child or a teenager that they was unwanted or giving to another family basically who are strangers.
A child can feel unloved in the matter of seconds. Whether it is unloved by adoptive parents or biological parents. An adult can never tell how a child may feel on the inside. Being adopted takes a toll on children who are in the system. That child may be wondering where are my parent’s? Are they coming back for me? Who are these people? Those are questions that cannot be answered without making the child feel like he or she is unwanted or unloved. For example, when I was a little girl I always wanted to be like every other girl happy, pretty, loved, and so forth. Growing up in three different foster homes until one of them was to my caseworker satisfaction was not easy. I always cried myself to sleep wondering why nobody wanted me or where are my parents. In school, I wanted to always to always go to a father daughter dance, but to my knowledge I did not have a dad. Having that fatherly bond with my dad that I always wanted was not there. I wanted that love and protection from him like all the rest of the females but once again it was not there. When Valentine’s Day came around I had no one to love or show me love. God loves a person no matter what, but at the time I did not know God existed because I never went to church and understood the bible. As I got older the question still roamed in my head where are my parents? A child does not get the same love and treatment with their adoptive family than they would with their biological family. Has a female they would need the help of their mother someone who knows them inside and out. A male need that father figure to help them mature as they age and how to treat females.
How we view ourselves our self-image and how we value ourselves are critical both to the way we manage our everyday affairs and to the satisfactions we get from our lives. The worst thing that an adolescent can experience is feeling different from their peers. At no other period in life do people want to fit in, be part of a group than they do in the adolescent years. Often an adopted child may look differently than their adopted parents as they may be a different race or culture.