LP Reflection Journal After the completion of “Measure your Anger” exercise, I recognized that anger could act as a powerful tool in both positive and negative way. When something bothers me I lose control over my anger and become ruthless, frustrated, destructive and depressed. When I am annoyed I tend to react first and then think later. At times anger has caused destruction to my work because it prevents my rational capacity of producing ideas and opinions. Anger could lead to problematic circumstances so it remains necessary to manage our negative emotionality. As a result of my anger I could be less effective leader, as I would not be able to motivate my team members with creative ideas and strategic plans. During the time of anger I …show more content…
I need to foster my communication skills and develop appropriate conflict management in order to strengthen my self-awareness. Self-management would lead my way in becoming a good leader. Since holding on to negative emotion would only increase the level of stress and adversely impact my relationship among team members so I would better need to recognize the ways to release my anger. If I fail to effectively deal with my anger then it might end up in generating undesirable outcomes. Only a positive work environment tends to be beneficial to develop a good outcome. I have decided not to keep the anger mentality since it will affect the daily activities due to which it becomes tough to focus on work and complete projects. Anger blocks the way to success and happiness. I would need to balance my anger and understand how people perceive me. I plan to understand the cause of anger through which I can develop tactics to deal with it. I could also reduce my angry reactions so that I have emotional control over myself. I decide on creating responsiveness behavior, increasing my listening skills and most importantly being assertive, not aggressive. Enhancing listening skills will allow admitting my feelings to others and make the situation
This paper will examine Robert C. Solomon's Emotions and Choices article, to best identify what anger is, and to what extent a rational human being is responsible for their anger. Firstly, Solomon's argument must be described. A quick summation of Solomon's argument can be found in the following four points: Emotions are judgements, emotions are chosen, emotions serve a purpose, and emotions are rational.1 To quote Solomon, he explains that “Emotions are not occurrences, and do not happen to us. They ... may be chosen like an action.”2
When angry, it is hard for a person to see the damage they are doing. Concepts of revenge, murder, jealousy, greed, selfishness, rage, resentment, and hatred are all offspring to what anger can become if allowed to grow (Potter-Efron, 2). In some cases, anger is the result of feelings of helplessness and a desire to regain power in life (Glick and Steven, 103). Anger is not completely evil, but there are dire consequences if we let ourselves be corrupted by its influence. Loss of life, or losing the love of someone close to you can instantly make you regret your actions while angry.
emphasized a lack of restraint. Popular psychology identified “the positive aspects of anger” and encouraged couples to communicate their desires to one another.
When anger does not have an outlet, it can have lasting and damaging effects on the person who experiences the emotion. In this case study, we will look at one young lady who is beginning to explore the role of anger in her life, and how it could be addressed in couples therapy through the use of assessment tools and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Some methods may be similar to others, and some methods may be completely unorthodox. One might use the ten-count method as I had mentioned earlier in coping with anger. This allows the individual to take a breath and re-evaluate the situation at a slower and more understanding rate. Exercise is also a great method in coping with anger. It allows the person to take out their frustrations through vigorous activity. This method harms no one and keeps the body fit. Talking out the problem with someone can also relieve some of the confusion and anger. This can give the individual a better understanding of the problem and maybe allow them to fix the dilemma. Each and every one of these methods can help cope with anger by allowing the individual to think using their mammalian part of the brain, rather than simply responding with instinctive
If anger were a disease, there would be an epidemic in this country. Road Rage, spousal and child abuse, and a lack of civility are just a few examples. Emotionally mature people know how to control their thoughts and behaviors how to resolve conflict. Conflict is an inevitable art of school and work, but it can be resolved in a positive way.
According to Seneca, anger is a bad thing that can destroy the universe, and he argued that one had to be reasonable and get rid of anger in order to achieve a state of mind not subject to emotions (Kim 2). To Rene Descartes anger is the most dangerous emotion, and it is more violent than other emotions(55).
Figuring out how to manage one's feelings People who don't know how to quiet and calm them when they are feeling miserable or furious will probably wind up plainly focused and disturbed. Being able to recognize one's feelings can expand their resistance to stretch
Whether that be because a coworker has been a complete crap to you all day, or your kid didn’t listen to you and ended up getting hurt for the thousandth time in a row, to getting ultimately stressed and frustrated because your teachers didn’t enter in grades and denies any proof of that occurring, we’ve all been there. When I’ve seen others get angry, they become confrontational or even start yelling, some people that I know of even throw things either at the people that they are angry at, or at other areas, such as walls. There are four different types of angry people: the avoiders, who avoid the situation completely and ignore their anger, bottling it up; the destroyers, who throw things out of anger in order to relieve it; the screamers, who scream, yell or even just become straightforward and rude either towards the person that they are angry towards; the avengers, who come up with plans to get back at the person who angered them, though most times those people don’t actually go through with their villainy plots. The ‘trigger’s, or the things that set people off to become angry, vary from person to person. In my experience, most triggers come from when someone does something that truly peeves them, which could be anything from loud noises to the mood that the other person has towards
Emotions of a leader are so important in this aspect of leadership. It is through emotions that the leader will be categorized as ‘toxic’ or ‘not toxic.’ It is with no doubt that true leaders will appeal to emotions and as the same time know how to cope with their own emotions and how to perceive or control the emotions of a group. The major fundamental task of a leader is to inspire positive feelings in those he leads. In whichever situation followers always turn their attention to leaders, they expect his reaction towards that particular situation which will act as emotional guideline. The way a leader responds to a situation will give the followers a way of interpreting that event which in turn will make them react emotionally. If a leaders panics, gets annoyed or angry, these emotions will spread to the followers. On the contrary if he shows confidence and optimism to the same situation, his emotions will also be “infectious” (Maxwell, 2002).
Habit one of highly effective people is being proactive. What I learned from habit one is that we are in charge of our lives. We must be proactive and take responsibility for our actions and choices. I learned that I must take the initiative and recognize my responsibility to make things happen. I must be the one to act and not be acted upon. This habit taught me that in order for me to be effective I must first be proactive. If I am not proactive it makes it almost impossible for me to be effective. If people take a passive stance, they
Anger is, perhaps, the most notorious of all human emotions. It has the ability to spring up when we least expect it, an almost natural and inherent response to an offense or frustration. Humanity’s natural tendency to engage in a primal “fight or flight” response to challenges has unavoidably led to anger being a primary response for many. Still for others, anger is a longer lasting thing, taking root and burning into ashes of bitterness or misgiving. It is obvious that anger is unhealthy – it almost defies intuition to say anything further. However, it remains a complex human emotion. Sure, everyone feels it at some point or another. But where does it come from? How does it manifest? And, most importantly, how can it be taken under control? a detailed examination of the nature of anger and, in response, how it may be managed, may give further insight into this human emotion.
Anger changes the behavior pattern of the person as a result of changes in his emotional status. it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes. Actions resulting from anger often lead to undesirable physiological and health consequences, because the neuro-transmitters/hormones (eg. adrenaline) released during anger intensify impulsive action and obscure rational
This can either be a positive or negative thing and how you act on it, or do not act, can show how in control and effective you are with your feelings. According to the text, “just because you feel a certain way does not mean you have to act on it” and that “people who act out angry feelings actually feel worse than those who experience anger without lashing out” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor II, year?). Even though acting on your feelings may seem uncontrollable, it is important to deal with them in a different and more productive way. Recognizing how you feel and using the right approach during a constructive conversation is always better than quickly lashing out without completely understanding the situation or how you feel besides angry. Furthermore, “recognizing the difference between feeling and acting can liberate you from the fear that getting in touch with certain emotions will commit you to a course of action” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor II, year?). Understanding your emotions is important so that you will be able to experience feelings that may upset you and still be able to deal with them from a positive standpoint. Once you can separate your feelings from actions you will be able to make more rational
After the birth of my first child, I had to learn to develop constructive ways to vent anger. One of those ways was to go off alone, count to ten, and think about what it was that made me angry. After I discovered the root of my anger, I often asked myself, "Will it do me or anyone else any good to be angry?", and, "Will being angry do anything to solve the problem", and the answer to both questions was usually no. By the time I had done the walking and thinking, I was usually not angry anymore.