My husband has a philosophy of low expectations. For him, it is a defense mechanism. When he is disappointed it’s as if the entire world has come crashing down. So, to prevent this meltdown he sets his expectations very low. I am generally optimistic, but being married to someone with more pessimistic tendencies has created in me somewhat of a skeptic (though I still like to wear my rose tinted glasses most of the time). Where setting low expectations has come in handy is in parenting, especially because I am a stay-at-home-mom. I usually have a to-do list running (usually several in different places: my head, my phone and a notebook). I have chosen not to expect to accomplish more than one or two things on my list…and I even include naps. So, if I get a nap one day and accomplish nothing else: SUCCESS! Get it? I use this while cloth diapering as well. When my first child was born she was so tiny the cloth diapers I had didn’t fit. I tried different versions, but didn’t want to invest in a whole other set. Another cloth diaper mom assured …show more content…
In a way, I have been blessed to come from a family that doesn’t have too many strong traditions and whose holidays were different almost every year. This makes it a little easier to have low expectations. I’ve been trained to be flexible when it comes to celebrating holidays. Let me clarify: low expectations are not the same as no expectations. I still set expectations for the holidays. For instance, I have created some of my own traditions and carry on the few I bring from growing up. I don’t want the holidays to feel just like any other time of year or day, but I also don’t want there to be so much pressure that the stress overshadows the joy. Here are some things I’ve done to help maintain focus this season on what really matters and creating a meaningful experience for my family while not becoming bogged down in social media worthy
Expectations are define as personal belief that something will happen. It’s similar to judgment or assumption people made to a certain person or group of people. It may not be true and it could be different from what is expected. People can also change how they live their lives based on their own expectations just like how the Greasers and the Socs had different expectations. These two groups have contrast expectations that caused bad actions to come up or lead them to benefits for their own group. Expectations may force people into something they are not, even if it is to become a hero or the opposite.
In life, we are faced with many expectations that are either bestowed upon us by parents or superiors or chosen by ourselves. Just within the last few months, I can recall many expectations in my own life and how I dealt with
Being part of an eight-child family, I enjoy Thanksgiving with 30+ members and, although several have come and gone, it seems a new face takes their place with a marriage or the birth of a child, ever perpetuating the life circle that is my family. Last Thanksgiving, we lost one member to death but gained another through birth and one more through marriage, decreasing the room in the kitchen by one and adding one more high chair to the table downstairs.
In “Atomic Habits,” James Clear argues it’s not about achieving goals, but establishing a system to get there. Moreover, Clear was aware that failing is natural and expected in the steps of achieving goals, and that a loss does not mean the end of the journey. Moreover, a step back could be turned into three steps forward if done correctly. For instance, the first week working out in a gym cannot possibly give instant results. This is natural, yet most people give up here.
Optimism is the action of seeking the hope that lies in every situation. The hope is like gold or a valuable gem. It may be resting on the surface, or it may be buried deep down. Either way, if one does not actively seek it, it may never be found. Helen Keller wrote, “Most people measure their happiness in terms of physical pleasure and material possession….If happiness is to be so measured, I who cannot hear or see have every reason to sit in a corner with folded hands and weep….Only by contact with evil could I have learned to feel by contrast the beauty of truth and love and goodness.” However, there is a such thing as too much optimism. Helen Keller also explained this when she wrote, “It is a mistake always to contemplate the good and ignore the evil because by making people neglectful it lets in disaster….This is false optimism. A man must understand evil and be acquainted with sorrow before he can write himself an optimist and expect others to believe that he has reason for the faith that is in him.” A German theologian named Jurgen Moltmann backs this up by stating, “Genuine hope is not blind optimism. It is hope with open eyes, which sees the suffering and yet believes in the
that if they reach a goal that seems so hard to accomplish, that they will get their
We all have special goals and things we aspire to be. Often times, things do not occur exactly how we want them to. Those types of situations can leave us feeling defeated, especially when they go in direct opposition of what we desire. However, thinking pessimistically will only make that situation worse. It is essential to think of that hint of positivity in what you think may be completely negative. Doing this can make the seemingly atrocious events in life a lot more tolerable. You can drastically modify those unfavorable outcomes, even when it feels as if the world is crashing down on you, by taking a positive view of its effects and realizing that everything is meant to happen for a specific reason.
Patience and persistence come in handy. Not everything we work for comes out as planned, failure is something most of us try to avoid at all costs. Our responses to obstacles greatly depend on our mindset. Those with positive mindsets “ not only weren’t they discouraged by failure, they didn’t even think they were failing. They thought they were learning” (Dweck 5). The greater the goal the more difficult the path becomes.”People may start with different temperaments and different aptitudes but it is clear that experience, training, and personal effort take them the rest of the way” (Dweck 5). For example, a person with a growth mindset has a bigger possibility achieving things in life than a person with a fixed mindset because they are not deterred by
The Expectancy Violations Theory originated by Judee Burgoon explains a person’s response to unpredicted actions by their peers, and the numerous meanings that individuals attribute to the abuse or violation of their personal space. Burgoon defined personal space as the “invisible, variable volume of space surrounding an individual that defines that individual’s preferred distance from others” (Griffin, p. 85). Expectancy is what people predict (or expect) will occur, instead of what they wish.
My family had many memorable holiday and birthday celebrations that are still valued by me as I age and move up in life. Before my parents decided to divorce we used to cook all day and night on Christmas Eve and when we finally decided to sleep, or my parents decided, we would wake up at 4:30 in the morning to open presents. I believe that custom is still with me to this day because I still wake up at 4:30 in the morning on Christmas Day. I think that customs depend on the emotional connection. My family would sit around the living room and laugh, talk, and reminisce about different times in their lives. We used to have a big celebration for birthdays and would invite everyone. It was always a personal affair that we would cook for and dance and just have a great time with family and close friends. It was a beautiful thing and it was extremely enjoyable. I cherish those moments with my family and I plan to have those customs and also to add my own customs into my own family one day in the
President Lincoln created a contagious enthusiasm among followers by demonstrating a sense of urgency toward attainment of his goals. As a president, he united his followers with a shared vision of preserving the Union and achieving the end of slavery, and he focused on concrete, short-term goals that could be accomplished. A leader should consistently look at the big picture despite the challenges they come across, and the result has to be realistic. It is important to bear obstacles with GRIT, but it has difference between smart GRIT and dumb GRIT. Sometimes bearing the pain is not just worth, but it is better to just plough around the obstacle to prevent from suffering and to save time. The leader should take consideration of time and efficiency as well to reach their objects, and the initial plan can be slightly tweaked. It would not hurt your result. As long as the goal is achieved, all is good. Moreover, by setting small goals for every small tasks can help me build up a habit of achieving goals because the satisfaction from achievement gives a great pleasure than any other
An expectation is a world of dreams. What a person can expect for something can be far different from the reaction we get. We could believe there is a distinct gap between expectations and reality in our world. Ever wonder what it is like to view yourself from another person’s eyes? Are you expected to hold a higher place or value than how you personally feel? In life, we expect to be or act in a way we wish to want and uphold but in reality do these traits really portray who you are as in person? We can envision our expectations but what actually happens is a reality. You may have it all; happiness, appearance or wealth but this does not define who you are an individual. In The Enchanted April is delightful we are introduced to Lottie Wilkins
The authors of this book did a great job in helping the reader understand the Significance and correlations of using goals and consequences for success. To do so, the book was broken up into “Three Secrets to One Minute
These expectations weren’t like the ones your family puts on you since my parents are both doctors with PhDs or whatever smart people have. And to them my overall happiness was dependent on whether or not I get straight A’s or end up being valedictorian. And this overall, sucks big
“We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort” (Owens). Without any determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort dreams will not turn into reality. People should look forward and push for that reality. Anyone can say they will fulfill their dream, but it takes someone with dedication, determination and effort to accomplish that dream. Effort is the key to success. Effort is like the sugar and spice to everything nice. Without any push of effort for the dream to become reality dedication, determination and self-discipline don’t take place. The dream drives people to accomplish the unexpected.