Forgiveness is an extreme between kindness and caring for someone else while having self-respect in situations that may seem unjust or unfair. Forgiveness is a very tough thing to do and I feel it should not be extended a great amount because it could be taken as weakness. Many people disagree on when somebody should forgive another person and for what. I am a firm believer that you should only fully forgive a person for things or actions they have done that do not break one's trust. Kant and Murphys stance on forgiveness is that one can forgive too much. Kant states “those who forgive even if the person is not repentant or if the act was a great wrong are soft-hearted”, which he calls a weak toleration of wrongs (Liszka 196). This is true because if someone does not feel wrong about what they have done, then we can almost certainly conclude that this person …show more content…
This can lead a person into becoming what is known as a “doormat” because people take advantage of the kindness a forgiving person has. To forgive a person too much shows that no matter what they do, you will harbor no ill feelings against them and your relationship will always be restored in the end. Many say forgive the first time because everyone deserves a second chance and people make mistakes, but some mistakes you cannot undo or forget. The saying “you can forgive but never forget” is very misleading to me. If you have not forgotten about a wrong doing towards you, then how can you forget the feelings that wrongdoing inflicted and not use this in future judgments of the perpetrator’s actions? To fully forgive somebody, I feel you must completely wipe the action or wrong doing from your
Forgiveness is a process. You can still feel the pain, see the events behind your eyes, and feel the loss of the people around you but you have to find a way to forgive. People think that if you forgive someone you are forgetting or saying hey I would hang out with this person now because we’re cool but thats not at all what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is righting the wrong for yourself because you want the injustice you feel to leave. It’s acknowledging to that there a wrong that was done to you and you decide how you want to think about it not anyone
Forgiveness is to stop feeling angry, to stop blaming someone for the way they made a person feel, and stop feeling victims of whatever wickedness was directed towards them. Is forgiveness necessary? Can everyone be forgiven despite the circumstances? If forgiveness depends on the situation, then is it necessary at all? Does forgiveness allow someone to continue their life in peace? Is forgiving someone who causes physical pain to someone, as a pose to forgiving someone who murdered a member of the family the same? If someone can forgive one of these acts so easily can the other be forgiven just as easy? Forgiveness allows for someone to come to terms with what they have experienced. In the case of murder forgiveness is necessary because it allows for someone to be at peace with themselves knowing they no longer have to live with hatred. It also allows someone to begin a new life with new gained experience and different perspectives on life. Forgiveness is necessary from a moral perspective because it allows someone to get rid of hatred and find peace within him or herself to move on with their lives.
People are taught to “forgive and forget” in order to be happy, afterall living with a grudge can being a serious damper in ones life.
Life as we all know is full of disappointment and filled with disparity. Most of us are able to go through these and learn from and forgive ourselves. Yet, this isn’t always the case. People are faced with traumatic experiences that often take a long time to get over, if they ever do get over it. These experiences brew in our brain popping up at the most random points often bringing our spirits down. Although these experiences may scar us and fill us with regret and guilt, we can’t continue to live in the past and let these regrets haunt us. Self forgiveness is a key to healing and to moving on in life, no matter how hard it is.
The moment we learn to forgive and love is when we can begin to recover and move on.
“Time is a monster that cannot be reasoned with. It responds like a snail to our in patience, then it races like gazelle when you can’t catch a breath.” Simon Birch. Time is very stable but with our emotions it makes it seem like you can never catch up or it taking too long. Forgiveness can feel this way to both victim and one who’s in the wrong. Forgiveness is very difficult thing to do certain times and takes time. Some may think justice helps or makes one forgive because of the punishment or karma and it makes everything better. But I would ask yourself are you truly forgiving one for the wrongs or are you just dismissing it. Justice and forgiveness do not go hand-in-hand. Justice is not forgiveness because to forgive someone or something for what they have done needs to come from our not from what happens to them for their punishment or karma.
... in the past and doing that doesn’t help because you can't change what happened in the past. Continuing to stay focused on the situation will only cause bitterness because you are looking for the other person to be apologetic. I don’t think it is possible to forget because I believe that when a person shows who they are you should believe them the first time. I will never forget how my father lies to me or how he isn’t there for me because I am not letting myself get hurt again like in the past. I know who is and he’s not going to change for anybody not even his kids. I forgive but I don’t forget because I have to be strong for myself. Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. Nor does the person who we've forgiven have to be a part of our lives. It means we have moved part of on and healed from the pain. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you move on with life.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to become friends with the other person, rather it allows you to let go of that heavy burden you feel inside. It allows you to muddle through the difficulties in your life without causing another issue.
No matter the faults or mistakes people make human nature drives us to forgive and forget. Humans want to accept people for who they are whether good or bad. Even if we use defense mechanisms to focus more on the good than the
A strong Christian lesson on the true nature of forgiveness can be found in Christ’s Sermon on the Mount:
Many believe that the quote “forgiveness is the nobles vengeance” said by Henry George Bohn is how forgiveness works majority of the time. However there is literary evidence that says otherwise. People have to start to seek revenge and have it in their grasp before they can finally forgive. Without wanting and seeking revenge, you don’t fully understand why you are forgiving this person, but after being on the other side of things you have a better picture. Not only do you understand the whole situation better, but so does the person who caused you harm in the first place.
The benefits of forgiveness are for you and not for the other person. You probably already know this, but it's worth repeating. I don't know of anyone who hasn't been hurt a time or two, but forgiveness is essential to our well-being.
Acknowledging a wound that needs healing is important in this process. If you have truly forgiven, your scarred emotions get healed. Most times when you forgive your offenders, you often find that your wounds are still bleeding. Meanwhile, Forgiven someone does not mean that you have forgotten or that what they did was acceptable. What it does is that it frees us from anger that reacts like poison in our system. However, even if your brains recall the painful memory of past experience, you don’t feel any more of the sting of the pain and hurt of that experience. If you are able to look back at those painful memories and you don’t feel the pain anymore, then you know that you have truly forgiven, healed and made whole. You need time to work through your pain and loss. However, some offenses you encounter lead to a sense of loss of trust, security, friendship, relationship and a whole lots more. You may also lose your direction and forget the purpose and meaning of life when inflicted with pain through an offense. Sometimes you’re most horrible and painful experiences can teach your life valuable lessons, making you more insightful and stronger individual through them. Forgiveness is all about finding what was lost and restoring the wholeness that one once
Forgiveness is the act of releasing an offender of any wrong or hurt they may have caused you whether they deserve it or not. It is a decision to let go of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group of people. When we choose to forgive, we’re wiping the slate clean, cancelling a debt, or as I love to say, “Letting it go.” In the Bible, the Greek word for forgiveness literally means to “let it go.” This concept, “forgiveness,” is easier said than done. Majority of people find it very difficult to let go of offenses and hurts caused by others. I really do believe that most people desire to let it go, but we lack the knowledge of how to do it. As believers, we are instructed by God maintain an attitude of forgiveness.
Forgiving and Forgetting “You might forgive, but forgetting is not always possible.” There are many different responses to this statement, and different people hold different opinions, both for and against it. I agree with the statement, because Christians are taught that “to sin is human, to forgive is divine”, proving that it is difficult even to forgive, never mind forget. An argument in favour of the statement is, as human beings, we do not possess the capability to completely wipe out memories from our minds, no matter how hard we may try.