Recent studies have revealed that relationships/marriages fail significantly due to the main
reasons such as finical issues, trust issues, and communication.
In society today all people try to find love, someone to be their soul mate, someone
they wish to spend the rest of their life with and feel happy.
Unfortunately it does not seem to work out that way most of the time, there are a few
key reason’s to why that is.
This essay will explain all the important key’s to remember in your marriage/relationship
so you can have a happy successful life.
Mary Mendel writes, “NEXT TO HAVING CHILDREN, getting married is
perhaps the most important event in anyone’s life. But for many men and women, what
began as a promising ( relationship all too frequently break down.”
(Mary Mendel, 20)
1. Communication
Communication plays a big role in marriage/relationships, If you cannot
communicate with your spouse about certain issues you feel you have then you will get
nowhere, it is best to try and talk about thing’s instead of turning it into a argument
.
Everything leads back to communication.
Mary Mendel writes, “ A good marriage takes a lot of work on the part of both
Stepping into a new life with someone is difficult enough, but if you step into the marriage with unrealistic expectations (which vary among couples) you’ve set yourself up for great conflicts. In “The Myth of Co-Parenting” and “My Problem with her Anger,” both Edelman and Bartels are at a disadvantage due to the expectations they’ve created. Everything in their marriages is going in a different direction, and nothing is parring up with their original expectations. They’ve seen marriages they admire, and also marriages on the other side of the spectrum. To better phrase this, both authors allow expectations to control their mindset in their marriages, but Edelman’s expectations
Take for occurrences, section 9, "men are somewhat Pollyannaish about the condition of their marriage, while their spouses are sensitive to the inconvenience." This is not generally so for one side or the other. It is increasingly that couples need to take in the dialect of the other individual and recollect what it took to get the individual
Human beings are not isolated individuals. We do not wander through a landscape of trees and dunes alone, reveling in our own thoughts. Rather, we need relationships with other human beings to give us a sense of support and guidance. We are social beings, who need talk and company almost as much as we need food and sleep. We need others so much, that we have developed a custom that will insure company: marriage. Marriage assures each of us of company and association, even if it is not always positive and helpful. Unfortunately, the great majority of marriages are not paragons of support. Instead, they hold danger and barbs for both members. Only the best marriages improve both partners. So when we look at all three of Janie’s marriages, only her marriage to Teacake shows the support, guidance, and love.
families which is very important. Life is a difficult journey and most of the people try to make it
Many times the love that a person is looking for is the one that a person doesn't realize.
A History of Marriage by Stephanie Coontz speaks of the recent idealization of marriage based solely on love. Coontz doesn’t defame love, but touches on the many profound aspects that have created and bonded marriages through time. While love is still a large aspect Coontz wants us to see that a marriage needs more solid and less fickle aspects than just love.
the lives of many people all throughout the world. The constant need for love is
goes on to say that many marriages do not turn out as the person might have hoped which
most people in reality need love and happiness to go on and survive. While we try to fix our lives with
In the book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (1999) John M. Gottman provides insight on the seven fundamental tools to construct positive relationships. Through long years of research, Gottman studied married couples and noted degenerative behaviors that hindered the formation and attainment of a long and healthy marriage. Gottman research focused on several key behavioral predictors of divorce, which he calls the “The Four Horsemen”; Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.
lives. Many people search for hope, happiness and fulfillment when they should not be searching
Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. If the disposition of the parties are ever so well known to each, or ever so similar before hand it does not advance their felicity in the least (Austen 23).
" Family Relations 52.4 (2003): 363-72. Print. Hanson, Richard R. "Optimizing Marital Success: The Conscious Couple Uniting Process. "
experience for them that completely changed their lives and the world as they knew it.
The idea of finding a "soul mate" never resonated with me and the concept seemed flighty and unrealistic. For me love has always meant finding a life partner and building a satisfying relationship on mutual trust, respect and friendship, I use to think that love was a choice.