Hers: Childhood Roots

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The thesis of the essay, "His Marriage and Hers: Childhood Roots" by Daniel Goleman, is the emotional difference between men and women. The author, through various research, has concluded that these differences can be traced back to the way children are raised. While I agree that the men and ladies respond diversely to enthusiastic encounter, I should differ to a portion of the examination that was led.
Take for occurrences, section 9, "men are somewhat Pollyannaish about the condition of their marriage, while their spouses are sensitive to the inconvenience." This is not generally so for one side or the other. It is increasingly that couples need to take in the dialect of the other individual and recollect what it took to get the individual

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